Is it possible to ever love again?
I’m about to be 21 years old now.. And i’ve been through alot.. enough to make it where I don’t want to EVER date again. In my mind, I believe all girls are evil and they want to eat your soul. Let me explain.
My first true love died in after a carwreck three days later in the hospital… As a result, I went into a really bad drug frenzy because I couldn’t deal with it. During this time, I met another girl.. Who looked just like her and had the same kind of personality too. Anyways, she always said she loved me and would never leave me.. [I asked her this all the time cause I was always tripping and paranoid] I was madly in love with her.. I would have killed myself in the blink of an eye.. I couldn’t imagine living without her. Well it ended after 8 months. And after it did end, I went crazy. I did things I shouldn’t have did and got locked up.. And I got a restraining order put on me. That was over 2 years ago…
I haven’t dated since. I have tried.. But I never ask a girl out.. everytime i started getting to know them.. they want to leave for someone else.. And I mean.. I always tell them i want to take it slow.. I would always plan to get to know them for a couple of months before asking them out.. But girls around my town always want to rush into things and start saying they love people when they first start going out with them. So every girl has pretty much ditched me for another guy just because I don’t jump in and start loving them. I know what love is now. I’ve felt it. Its everytime you see that person you love.. It feels like your heart drops into the pit of your stomach.. It beats so fast and you get a adreniline rush.
I just wonder if I will ever feel that again.. If i’ll ever have a wife of my own.. I don’t want to be lonely.. I’m scared of being lonely.. But i never show it around anyone.
What should I do? I’m in recovery right now.. [Been sober for a year] I’m a big Jesus freak. I go to therapy. I miss her alot.. And I hate her.. Its weird.. If I had the chance to go back with her.. I wouldn’t.. I dream about her sometimes still.. I think about her too sometimes unexpectedly.. If I wouldn’t have been on a drug that enhances your feelings x 100. I wouldn’t be this way i’m sure.
Any advice?
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You’ve been through more than a lifetime of legitimate pain in your 21 years, so give yourself a pat on the back. Remember, you are on your own personal path. You are intelligent, sensitive, brave (You actually OWN your mistakes!) and able to love. Your heart is broken dude! You still need to make peace with her, and then yourself. I think it is better not to date much if at all right now. You have some work to focus on. Focus on you so that when the right person crosses your path, you will be ready to love and be loved enough to keep her close! I have no doubt at all that someday you will have a happy life-wife, family…whatever you choose. Your path will bring you to many strange, sometimes scary, but wonderful places-enjoy your trip. Know that you are always moving forward. I admire your spirit!
keep working cause you"re worth it
No, it’s not
don’t worry you will love again a million times more.
lay off drugs completely for a time and things will make a lot more sense
I had a pretty nasty year last year. Got arrested after doing things as a result of a breakup
Things always get better. Just learn from it and do what it takes to never make those bad decisions again.
You need time to let things work themselves out. You have plenty of time. as time passes, things will get a little easier. I assume you are seeing a professional to help work these issues, you should be.
Youll be okay. Hang in.
the best thing to do is to let her go… she’s gone… and you’re still here. celebrate her life with you by making something of yourself. You know she wouldn’t want you to be miserable.. right?
will you ever be able to love again? yes, as long as you open your heart up again and find someone new. dont start off right away with dating again just find you some really good friends and work your way back up to a relationship. everything will get better.
good luck!
I didnt even read it. Didnt have to. I know from experience. Girls are the fvcking devil!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Just give up dude. Live by the 3 F’s
1) Find em
2) Fvck em
3) Forget em
You will live a happier man!
Best of Luck!
DUH you will love again! There can never be too much love in this world <3 But i’m sorry that you’ve been through so much but maybe your just being to narrow in who you chose, pick other girls you wouldn’t normally go after and get to know them! or go some place new, like a town close to yours, take the weekend off and party with some girls hahaha
you knoww, meet new people. I always say that no one is meant to end up alone.
You will, trust me
excusssseeee me girls are not lying sluts
Yeah, be a man.
I’m not saying this to be a dick, but life is a bitch.
Just because a woman dumps you doesn’t mean you become all stalker like or go on a drug and alcohol benge.
Maybe to woman you’re acting too much like a friend rather then a boyfriend? Or maybe you are smothering them and you may not realize it.
Just take it easy and keep looking. There are plenty of women out there.
Stay clean and stay sane.
Don’t instantly fall in love with a girl either…
I’m not sure what else to say about this, but keep looking and don’t give up so easily.
Or just stay single for a long while.
they said, heartaches can only be cured by falling in love again. i did and do, but same thing happened over and over again. not only girsl, guys are too. it is only a matter of we aren’t lucky enough to find the real one and the honest one to be in loved. when you are true to your feeling for the other party, the one is not. and i think it is not easy to find the "forever and endless; honest and true person" to love us. just the song goes "To Love Again!" or enough is enough!. anyways, take time to heal first, don’t rush.
yes
I am so sorry for everything you have been through. I know how things can be hard, and yes i have never gone through what you have. I have some advice that i hope will help. Not all girls are evil, trust me there are millions of girls out there that have been hurt and some not hurt and they have a beautiful Soul and an amazing heart waiting for that someone special to take it. That girl that left you after 8 months wasn’t truly into you and you cant hurt yourself for it. You have done the right thing by recovering from drugs and what not and it is amazing that you have done that. I suggest just waiting for someone to want to be with you and tell her that the reason why you want to take it slow is because you don’t want to hurt her and you don’t want to be hurt and if she says well that is dumb then tell her i cant do this because we will go no where and if she understands then hold onto her. You wont be alone forever and you will have a wife someday. Don’t fear of being alone cause all it will do is hurt you and eat at you, do things that make you happy and foccus on the good things in life. Yes go out and date but dont go out looking for THE ONE just let it happen and let it come natural!!!
Good Luck
God Bless.
P.S: Dont listen to the three F’s that is a TERRIBLE thing to do, and dont think women are sluts either. People that think this way are wrong.
I’m sorry for all that’s happened to you. You obviously have a lot of heart and that’s a beautiful thing. The thing is, you can’t blame what you’ve done on other people. At the end of the day, you did what you did because you chose to. Congrats to you for being sober for over a year, you must have incredible drive to succeed and be what you want.
Yes. You will love again, but you can’t put your guard down that fast or easily. Yeah, there are bad girls out there, but there is also your Cinderella. She exists. Don’t go looking for her though. The one you need isn’t someone you want and are searching for. It’s someone that comes into your life unexpectedly, and they will change it in great ways. Love isn’t easy, it’s the toughest game. But, like a game, it’s gotta be fun and make you happy, otherwise there’s no reason to play.
Good luck, I really wish the best for you and your future wife, I know she’ll be there with you someday
Just focus on something, like work, and she’ll come. Don’t fear being alone, you’ll never be alone unless it’s your own fault because you are responsible for you. Don’t worry you’ll get it right soon enough 
Ha, again, Good luck!
well for sure u’ll love someone again and u should lay of the drugs.also i think u should take a vaction where u can relax,go some eles to meet other girls that is ur type.
ps. i’m so sorry i cant image how that would feel and dont give up, because some out there ur true love is out there waiting for u to find her.
better loved and lost than never experienced. Sounds like you need a fresh start from the world man. I’m 19 and i know u went through too much for ur age. You miss her because she’s not around, and u hate her because you miss her. At least you are in recovery. That’s the first step. you are doing good. and you WILL find your match out there. if a girl doesnt want to take it slow for you, then she wont understand what you went through. all wounds heal. sure there is a scar, but it’s life. Get back up and keep moving.
i’m sorry about the car wreck. if you’re going drug-free(rehab), stay on that path. u seem 2 b onto whats 2 your left & 2 your right. it doesn’t seem quite right 4 u @ this time. have u grieved? don’t hate. drugs shouldn’t play a role in your life so do drop that. a Jesus freak would let go and let GOD.
some day, it could be tommorow, or years to come.
someone will walk into your life
and it’ll make sense to you why it never worked with anyone else.
Keep living your life being in the happiest way with your friends and family,
and no matter how long it’ll take for you to find each other,
It was worth the wait.
It’ll come.