PLEASE HELP! need advise with my ex bf’s gifts to me…Should I give it back to him or what? HELP!?
Hey people! so now, me and my bf broke up. We’ve been together for 3.5 years. He has given me presents (such as PSP, IHome for my Ipod, PSP games, earrings, Nemo stuff animal). We broke up for like almost a month now. First few weeks were tough, I was crushed and devastated! but now, I realized its time to move on. I dont wanna hold on cuz it hurts me so bad! There’s no third party involved. It was just too many arguments cuz I was so stressed out lately. He broke up with me cuz he could not take too much arguments anymore. He said he will keep in touch once in a while and he said "goodbye for now"..for me that means "unfinished business"
Now, I dont wanna keep his presents/gifts to me. I know it came from his heart but he crushed my world. I dont wanna throw them away nor give them away. I’d rather give it back to him so he can decide what to do with the presents/gifts. I dont want anything in the garage or under my bed. I know myself as it will bring back the hurt if I see it. I really wanna give them back to him..like ship out those presents. Will that send him a message that its over? Well, its not that I dont really care about him…I just dont want anything from him around my house and garage or people I know and other people. Please help! am I making a big mistake here? am I gonna hurt his feelings if I send the gifts to him? please any good advise? thanks!
we haven’t talked since the break up. Its been a month now that we have no contacts…I’m so hurt and I dont like this feeling anymore..I love him so much but I gotta move on and I wanna ship out his presents to me and give it back to him…is this right or wrong? I still wanna be friends maybe down the road and in good terms..am I gonna ruin this? hurt his feelings?
I dont know if returning his gifts to me will hurt his feelings and ruin the future relationship. But I know myself, even if I put it in the attic or a place where I cannot see it..I’ll still fell the pain. If I retun them to him, it will ease the pain…I dont know! I just dont want anything from him anymore…please help of what you think of returning all the gifts your ex bf has given you to him? do you think its okay? ADVISE! really nice good advise! thanks
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Look i didn’t read it i agree it’s too long but honey just keep them
TOO LONG!
No Don’t give them back to him. That’s like a slap in his face. Just throw them away..that’s what I would do. Or if you really love him.. put them in a box and pack them away…that way in a few years when the pain is gone you will still have something to remember him by but only when you want to remember.
keep it… it hurts when someone gives you something and then you give it back, unless he broke up with u. If you don’t want it, give it to charity.
Oh get over it. Its over. If you dont want the crap, sell it on Ebay. He prolly dosent want it either. Geez!
i think returning the gifts is an immature move to make. You should just keep them away and when the time is right, you will get over him and it wont bother you to have the gifts anymore.
Give him the electronics. Tell him thanks, you enjoyed them. If you get back together again someday then you would feel better about having them.
The other gifts are sentimental. DON’T give them back. Store them away if you have to.
Does he understand that your emotional issues aren’t because of him? This happened to my GF, and I didn’t get it at all.
I think you should send them out and tell him exactly what you just told us! Your true feelings are in this! Just write him a note and stick it in the box with the stuff. He will totally understand your feelings on why you did it if you put these words in that letter!
I would keep the stuff….it was given to "me" ( you in this case) although if you do not want to keep it, take it to the Salvation Army where it can be put to good use, or sell it all on Ebay, and get you something that you can "celebrate" a "new beginning" with the money from the items you sold! Hope this helps, and sorry about the break up.
You cant get rid of him completely he will always be a part of you. so getting rid of everything hes ever given you isnt gonna make it better becayse everything that you own is gonna remind you of him somehow or another. are you gonn aget rid of the bed that youall slept in together or the couch you cuddled on. doubt it keep the stuff and whe you see them think of the good thingd and use them to make sure you dont go through the same thing again.
good luck
Gifts are given out of the heart. I would definately not return them. If just having them around will bring back memories and you dont want to keep them, then sell them for some extra cash (garage sale, ebay, etc…) But make sure that it is over for good b/c if you guys get back together by chance then you will be upset that you got rid of everything.
I know you said that you’ve accepted it’s over, but you seem to be concerned on hurting his feelings way too much. He’s hurt your feelings so why should you care about his?
If what your asking is, if you sending his gifts back will make him stop and think or even contact you, well no one can know this as we don’t know your ex-boyfriend. If your intention is to give him a little pain by returning his stuff, go ahead and do it. You know it will be final, once you send those back there will be no other reason to contact him, I think you are scared of not getting a reaction once you return the gifts and then not having a reason to contact him again.
If you really truly want to move on for now, you really need to send back the items and do as you intend……….move on. Time is too short to spend in negative thought, spend it positively thinking about your future.
Good Luck, I know things are bad right now, but unless you begin to move on, you’ll never get there.
you should go talk to him and then decide but i know that if he really love you his heart is going to crush by telling him that you dont want his presents anymore so dont think only in yourself maybe he wanna get back together the only thing he needed was some free time i dont know!!!