So what if my husband and I want to have fun with other couples but?
don’t want to be labeled as swingers. What if we just want to have fun with friends. Do we get to make our own rules together? Do we have to start off at a club?
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Sure, it all starts out in fun until someone gets hurt!
Your just setting yourself up for a divorce.
I don’t think that you can swing without being a swinger.
You can do what you want with like minded couples. Just be cool and no one else will care.
You have to make the rules so you get what you want and make sure you don’t get what you don’t want.
You might try to go to a resort that specializes in what you are looking for. Check out Hedonism in Jamaica.
But that’s what they’re called.
No, you don’t have to go to a club. All you need a deck of cards and a bottle of Tequila.
Whether or not you want to be labeled as swingers, in effect, that’s what you will be.
However, as it seems you won’t be joining some already formed swinging group, you can set up your own little club. Maybe only another couple at first, then perhaps, if you find some other couple, have your own little club.
As you will be the ones starting it, you make the rules, as to what should happen or not.
If there are only four or six of you, once you have the couples, that think like you do, you all must sit down and see just exactly what you guys want to do.
Is Anal, or Bisexual, going to be part of your swinging, or BDSM, etc. Or will it just be regular sex, with you just changing partners. These should all be stated and accepted before you get started.
Personally, I think it’s the wrong road to take, but to each his own, but if you want to avoid any problems or misunderstandings, you need to have a rule book all set up, prior to switching beds and partners.
My philosophy in life is this……if you are thinking of doing ANYTHING with your spouse that requires deep discussion, soul searching and "RULES", it’s probably not a good idea!
LMFAO!
You do not have to be called anything and you do not have to start at a club. What goes on with your friends is up to the two of you.
my gf and I are looking for a couple and more friends like you. Let’s talk.
You absolutely make your own rules together, and decide exactly what you agree on as fun and safe. You have to make the rules between you and your spouse, and then with the other couple.
You don’t HAVE to do anything.
Like it or not, you will be engaging in a form of swinging. It is what it is.
Rules are essential in swinging. Set up your comfort zone, and DO NOT break your rules once the evening starts. You can always talk and modify the rules afterwards when it’s just the two of you. Never during the heat of the moment.
Going to a club (and there are hundreds) might be a good idea, just to observe, get an idea how it all works. You aren’t required to participate.
Manners count for everything. No means no, and safe sex always.
You have to look at this thing first as open marriage. The most conservative label is just open marriage, you date, run around with other people of the opposite sex with the possibility of sex as well. Some are very sexually charged, but not exclusive to just being sex.
Then the extreme end of open marriage is swinging. This is the opportunity to meet and get it on with strangers.
You are talking about friends, so if you feel better you might be closer to open marriage, especially if you not doing it in group setting like a swinging club.
Rules are important, but more than that being open to renegotiate your relationship is the upmost importance. Things are going to get weird, different, uncomfortable and strange, so you have to be ready for all the things you are not focusing on. If you do not do your research, you’re building a plane without a lot of forethought and planning.