would this make you want to take your ex back?
My ex broke up with me, and since then I have been working hard to fix the issues that we were having. I am bubbly, positive and now try extra my best to look my best.
We are still very close friends and hang out about 1 -2 x a week (having dinner, city trips etc..) I listen and support him where ever necessarily.
I can see in his eyes that he has noticed I have changed and he is probably considering getting back to me but still has our ‘bad’ times fresh in his mind.
Just wondering if this tactic works, I mean while we were going out due to uncontrollable circumstances I was not able to be myself (illness , work stress etc…)and now that I had started to revert back to my old self he ended it because it had been too much for him to take.
I know I will probably have to give it more time, but just would hate to not see any results.
He is not dating yet and has said no when someone asked him out on a date.
Could it be that he is not over me yet?
Has anyone got any experience at this working.
The reason I want him back badly is because I do feel he did not give me a fair chance and hated myself and the way I was with him because it wasn’t me. I have tried talking to him about it and nothing worked and he said that we should focus on just being friends for now and not focus or rush into things. We still do talk together as if we have a future together, and we are a great emotional support for each other.
I guess I am afraid that he will now never see me as more than friends?
Please give me positive feedback?
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I think that you need to work on yourself FOR yourself, and not for him.
I mean, you are doing all of this for a guy that clearly just wants to be friends right now, and you are NOT focusing on yourself to better yourself; you are focusing on HIM and changing for HIM. I know you are going to deny that, but it is very obvious that the motivations behind your ‘changes’ are based around him.
What you need to do is to work on yourself for yourself, make new friends, socialize, and basically just develop a life that does not revolve around him because you don’t know whether or not he is going to want to be with you. It seems as if he isn’t interested in anyone right now; if he was interested in the girl that asked him out- he would have gone out with her. If he was interested in you, well, he would be with you.
If he just so happens to actually meet a girl that he IS interested in, then you are done for. That could absolutely happen. You don’t know.
So you can’t just count on him taking you back, or you will be devastated and you will revert back to your old ways because you weren’t gaining anything for yourself.
You need a backup plan.
And you don’t have one.
He could, very well, meet someone else. I think, actually, that he might be considering meeting someone else, or waiting to see if anyone else who interests him comes along, and if they don’t, then YOU are HIS backup plan, but I can’t be sure of that. It just seems like that is a possibility.
Just find something to do for YOU.
Make a life for yourself so that, if things don’t work out with this guy, you won’t have lost everything.