Should I save my virginity for marriage if a girl didn’t save hers for me?
Ok, I’m 22 and still a virgin. I have strongly considered saving it for marriage but the only way that seems like it would work is if the girl was a virgin as well. If I were to get with a girl that has been sexually active, do you think it is wrong that I feel like I shouldn’t save it then? If she is sexually active, and didn’t save her virginity for me do you think it’s worth the wait? Or should I just go forget the waiting until marriage thing? I wouldn’t wanna not date a girl just because she has been sexually active, especially if it’s only been with one guy before and things didn’t work out, but I feel like it would be a waste for me to wait and save it for her if she didn’t do the same for me. Do you think it is wrong to feel this way?
Miss Sunshine, I don’t know where you got me saying that. I said if a girl has been sexually active it wouldn’t stop me from dating her. I don’t think it makes someone a bad person(unless they slept with a bunch of guys already) and that is what I was saying.
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In my opinion, I don’t think that’s how it works. What about if she lost her virginity to that one guy but regrets it now because she would have rather given it to you?
Saving something that special for the one you are going to spend the rest of your life with is never a waste of time.
That is something you can only give once. Just remember that.
Nope, you have a valid argument. But personally I wouldn’t save it for a woman who didn’t save it for me
Being 22 years old, i don’t think that you would be able to find another person that believes the same thing that you do. People like that are hard to come across nowadays so my suggestion to you would be to maybe forget the saving for marriage thing. You won’t have truly lived until you have sex for the first time!
If you made it this far keep it up. I have felt the same way but i’d rather wait, and end up with someone that hasnt. Then not wait and end up wit someone that waited for me.
when you loose your v-card to someone you have a bond with them that lasts forever basically. If you marry a girl and she has sex with a couple guys before you sex wont be as special to her as it is to you. You will be much happier marrying a virgin. Trust me.
I know how you feel, I am also saving my virginity for marriage. The problem with our society is that it makes us feel like we are wrong for doing so. Even if your spouse has been sexually active it is still worth waiting. Hopefully your spouse will be a virgin two so you can enjoy each other without fear of being compared to previous lovers. The Bible also explains that we are to save sexual intimacy for marriage. In this day and age it is an accomplishment to wait until marriage to have sex, don’t give that up just for a "what if".
Hope this helps
so, i’m worth less because i slept with a guy already? it doesnt matter that i am a good person that loves life and embraces it?
Focus on more important aspects than that…
don’t focus too much on the whole virginity thing. It’s kind of a crazy and messed up idea. you should wait for the right person, regardless of that person’s sexual experience. How could someone wait to save their virginity "for you" if they didn’t know you? life is tough, relationships that people think are going to work out don’t, there is sexual abuse and coercion, all sorts of stuff happens in people’s pasts. It’s better if everyone waits for the person they will be with forever but sometimes it doesn’t work out that way and there’s no point sticking in a bad relationship just because you had sex with the person and you only want to have sex with one person in your life. People of marrying age don’t come untouched by the rest of the world- everyone’s got some baggage by that time, emotional, physical, sexual, whatever. Virginity is not a gift to your partner, it’s a gift to yourself, saving yourself from a lot emotional stress (and possible disease).
I really like this question, few people really seem to ask something that is truly debatable.
You have a really good argument. I would encourage you to save it for the special someone that you know you want to be with. I think that if you reached a point that you do consider having sex with someone that you would also be able to comfortably talk to them about what they think.
Every relationship is different.
What if you don’t make it later and find someone else who did wait?
You are a smart, young man who can decide what is right for him.
When in doubt talk to your partner, it usually helps =)
It’s not wrong to feel that way, but the question is: is saving it for marriage more important to you because of strong moral values, or were you doing it for the mutual experience of taking a girl’s virginity and her taking yours?
If it’s the former, hold onto it. Just because in this day and age it is a rare thing, it’s not something to throw away because everyone else has. If it’s the latter, you still may be able to find a girl who is a virgin if you look in the right places, but if you don’t think you will, no one would blame you for deciding against saving it for marriage for someone that didn’t save it for you.
You have too many morality issues. Go ahead and enjoy yourself, but be responsible and you’ll be okay.
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I’m 20 years old and still a virgin, as is my boyfriend who recently turned 24. Although it’s hard there are people out there who are still virgins because they chose to be. One of my close friends and her bf are getting married after 3 years of being together and they are both virgins. My other friend is a virgin and is going out with a non-virgin. It just depends on the actual person not their ‘type’
Look for a nice girl who you’re compatible with, if she so happens to be a virgin then that should only sweeten the deal.