Comments on: Is it possible to fall back in love with my husband of 12 years? http://howdoigetmyexboyfriendback.org/3959/is-it-possible-to-fall-back-in-love-with-my-husband-of-12-years/ Sat, 11 Feb 2012 14:09:15 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: VNCGirl http://howdoigetmyexboyfriendback.org/3959/is-it-possible-to-fall-back-in-love-with-my-husband-of-12-years/comment-page-1/#comment-26327 VNCGirl Sat, 23 Jan 2010 20:53:39 +0000 http://howdoigetmyexboyfriendback.org/3959/is-it-possible-to-fall-back-in-love-with-my-husband-of-12-years/#comment-26327 I wanted to leave my husband as well and we had a big blow-up and I was ready to book a flight and get the heck out of here. He thought about what I had to say and said he wanted to change. People always advise that men who say "I want to change" are just using that as a last ditch attempt to keep women around; however, I thought, Well, I have lasted this long, the least I can do is give him a chance to prove himself. If he doesn't in fact change, then I will know I did all that I could to save this. So, give him the benefit of the doubt and don't hold resentment. Should he really mean it through the long-term, then good for you guys. If, on the other hand, it only lasts a few months or whatever, then you will know for certain that you have made the right decision. I wanted to leave my husband as well and we had a big blow-up and I was ready to book a flight and get the heck out of here. He thought about what I had to say and said he wanted to change. People always advise that men who say "I want to change" are just using that as a last ditch attempt to keep women around; however, I thought, Well, I have lasted this long, the least I can do is give him a chance to prove himself. If he doesn’t in fact change, then I will know I did all that I could to save this.

So, give him the benefit of the doubt and don’t hold resentment. Should he really mean it through the long-term, then good for you guys. If, on the other hand, it only lasts a few months or whatever, then you will know for certain that you have made the right decision.

]]> By: deb a http://howdoigetmyexboyfriendback.org/3959/is-it-possible-to-fall-back-in-love-with-my-husband-of-12-years/comment-page-1/#comment-26328 deb a Sat, 23 Jan 2010 20:53:39 +0000 http://howdoigetmyexboyfriendback.org/3959/is-it-possible-to-fall-back-in-love-with-my-husband-of-12-years/#comment-26328 i sure would give it a try don't you think that would be fun and maybe rekindle the fire i sure would give it a try don’t you think that would be fun and maybe rekindle the fire

]]> By: frazzled http://howdoigetmyexboyfriendback.org/3959/is-it-possible-to-fall-back-in-love-with-my-husband-of-12-years/comment-page-1/#comment-26329 frazzled Sat, 23 Jan 2010 20:53:39 +0000 http://howdoigetmyexboyfriendback.org/3959/is-it-possible-to-fall-back-in-love-with-my-husband-of-12-years/#comment-26329 unfortunately i don't think you can fall back in love.i didn't.i was with mine for over 30 years and once that feelings gone theres no bringing it back.my husband was so loving and devoted,yet something was missing in the last years.if i was going to fall in love again it should have been with him because i couldn't have asked for a better man,it just wasn't there anymore though.thats just it,men and women want to try harder after they find their spouse is tired of it and wanting out,too little,too late. unfortunately i don’t think you can fall back in love.i didn’t.i was with mine for over 30 years and once that feelings gone theres no bringing it back.my husband was so loving and devoted,yet something was missing in the last years.if i was going to fall in love again it should have been with him because i couldn’t have asked for a better man,it just wasn’t there anymore though.thats just it,men and women want to try harder after they find their spouse is tired of it and wanting out,too little,too late.

]]> By: James http://howdoigetmyexboyfriendback.org/3959/is-it-possible-to-fall-back-in-love-with-my-husband-of-12-years/comment-page-1/#comment-26330 James Sat, 23 Jan 2010 20:53:39 +0000 http://howdoigetmyexboyfriendback.org/3959/is-it-possible-to-fall-back-in-love-with-my-husband-of-12-years/#comment-26330 no one said marriage is an investment that's going to yield dividends. you want to leave him because you haven't gotten much in return? let me guess, you give out gifts on one Christmas and when the person doesn't give you anything back, you don't give gifts to that person the following year, right? i got a news for you. you said you're married to selfish man for 12 years. go look deep into that mirror. maybe you're the one that's selfish. i guess love is measured on what someone does for someone else. go ahead, find out what breaking apart a family is like. they deserve better. no one said marriage is an investment that’s going to yield dividends.

you want to leave him because you haven’t gotten much in return? let me guess, you give out gifts on one Christmas and when the person doesn’t give you anything back, you don’t give gifts to that person the following year, right?

i got a news for you. you said you’re married to selfish man for 12 years. go look deep into that mirror. maybe you’re the one that’s selfish.

i guess love is measured on what someone does for someone else.

go ahead, find out what breaking apart a family is like.

they deserve better.

]]> By: Yvette D http://howdoigetmyexboyfriendback.org/3959/is-it-possible-to-fall-back-in-love-with-my-husband-of-12-years/comment-page-1/#comment-26326 Yvette D Sat, 23 Jan 2010 20:53:39 +0000 http://howdoigetmyexboyfriendback.org/3959/is-it-possible-to-fall-back-in-love-with-my-husband-of-12-years/#comment-26326 You shouldn't use your kids as a "might be solution" to stay in your marriage and try to make it work...Yes, they are a very important aspect but, no matter what happens you both will still remain their parents...Twelve years is a long time and although you might not have been happy most of those years have you ever really told him that you very unhappy or that you were considering leaving him?? It sounds like this is the first he is hearing about how you want out for him to now try and change....If thats the case then you really never gave him nor your marriage a chance....It's not like my marriage where I constantly told my"ex-husband" and things were good for awhile and then it would change again and basically I just got tired...He couldn't gave me what I needed and I was okay as long as he was honest instead of dragging me on....We also have two kids together and believe it or not we are better being friends as co-parents then when we were together and miserable....You have to think of "YOU"....Your kids will be okay*** You shouldn’t use your kids as a "might be solution" to stay in your marriage and try to make it work…Yes, they are a very important aspect but, no matter what happens you both will still remain their parents…Twelve years is a long time and although you might not have been happy most of those years have you ever really told him that you very unhappy or that you were considering leaving him?? It sounds like this is the first he is hearing about how you want out for him to now try and change….If thats the case then you really never gave him nor your marriage a chance….It’s not like my marriage where I constantly told my"ex-husband" and things were good for awhile and then it would change again and basically I just got tired…He couldn’t gave me what I needed and I was okay as long as he was honest instead of dragging me on….We also have two kids together and believe it or not we are better being friends as co-parents then when we were together and miserable….You have to think of "YOU"….Your kids will be okay***

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