My boyfriend’s ex wants him back….(makes me want him more due to competition?)?
Ok so I got together with my boyfriend 3 months ago. We only dated twice before getting officially together. My reasons for going out with him might seem wrong to some (I was going through a depression state in my life and desperately wanted a companion). But regardless of this, I learned to like him and care for him deeply (still questioning if I love him though..might be too early to tell). This guy saved me at the deepest point of my life and he made me happy. He accepted all my faults and made me feel better all the time. Everything is going right with him. So here comes the ex girlfriend..
They have been together for almost 3 years. After two year together, she broke up with him and got together with another man. When the guy dumped her, she came running back to her and he took her back. However, things are not the way it used to. He tried to love her again but his feeling changed for her. And so he broke it off with her because according to him "its not fair for her that she love his and he cant love her the same way." Two weeks after they broke up, we started dating and got together with him quickly after.
Some may say that he used me to get over his ex or that I was just a rebound. My other friend said that he might just want a fling before he leaves for the navy in 3 months. Regardless, I believe and trust him though.
So his ex girlfriend still keep bugging him and calling and texting him. He tried to ignore it but she uses other numbers that he know so he cant really ignore it. On her friend’s birthday, he got invited and dared by the birthday girl to kiss his ex and he did. He told me this right after and it made me upset. But i forgave and appreciated his honesty.
So Im not really sure if I really like him or I jsut want his friendship or company. HAving his ex wanting him so much makes me not want to ever let him go. I do know that I care for him very much though. We broke up 3 days before he left for his navy bootcamp but talked it over the next day. We decided to have a cooling off period and decide on things again when he comes back.
His ex girlfriend, of course, rejoiced that we broke up and got her hope up again. She visited him before he left and told him that she’ll wait when he comes back to see what he decide on…if he still wants them to be together..he gave her a quick kiss and said their goodbyes…
This made me upset of course. But I know that I was the last person he called before landing the plane and before it took off..and the first person he called when the plane landed and tha last person he talked to before he got his phone taken away. and last person he texted to say I love you..
So should I wait for him until he comes back in two months or should use this time to try to get over him.
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Sweetheart, I’m going to be honest with you; it’s time for you to get over him and move on! Your boyfriend has way too much baggage, because there’s competition between you and his ex-girlfriend. This isn’t something that you should tolerate.
Because of this conflict, you’re questioning about whether or not you love him. But, you need to listen to your heart and find out what you want in a relationship. No, there’s nothing wrong with having someone special in your life, but out of desperation, you’re basically dating someone that doesn’t meet your qualifications.
Find someone that will love and appreciate the woman you are and doesn’t have baggage. It’s best to end it now before you really get hurt and who knows-he would probably get back together with his ex-girlfriend. You deserve better. Best of luck.
Way too much baggage. Move on before you get more attached.
Sounds to me he cant make up his mind about having u or his ex as his current.
You probably should wait for him cos’ it wouldnt dampen your mood for the rest of the days to come until he returns. If your relationship level with him is just warm but not the lover’s type then u should try get him out of your mind
Screw the competition. Time to lay down the law.
Tell him to pick. If he wants to go with her then go. But don’t even think about coming back and sniffing around you when they split…and they will split. They did before, they will again. (Trust me on this).
If he stays with you then he needs to tell her that he is in a relationship and thanks but no thanks.
It should not take him 2 months to decide either. Give him until this evening.
Personally, if I were you I would be looking for a new squeeze. This guy sounds like a bit of a player.
i am sorry girlfriend i would say that you should get out of that confusing relationship and just keep him for a good friend. because it sounds like she is doing the same thing you are doing and he is falling for it which can make trouble all around. and you need to find someone else. and since he left how do you know that you were the first or the last of anything when he landed or the first or the last before they took his phone. you really really do not know these facts for sure. do you???
I would say to try to get over him. I know it will be extremely hard, but as others said, he has too much baggage, That girl will obviously try to take him away from you, and if it were to happen you would be very hurt.
Even though you have been going out for three months, you even said you’re not even really sure if you really like him or just want his company. So before you get too attached, let go, and find someone who will not have that issue.
But then again, if you realize that you DO love him, then don’t let that girl get in the way.
Also, if he loves you, if he really loves you, he will tell her to get lost and make you sure that you’re the only girl he wants to be with.
What you need to do first is find out what YOU want. Listen to your heart, and figure out if you truly love him. because if you love him, do what you think is right and give him a fair chance.
If you aren’t in love with him, make the best decision and save yourself from the possible risk of pain from being dumped, especially for him to get back with her.
best of luck hun!
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well as u said before he help u get out from the depression so that u avoid be in that depression again just move on and be happy
something happened to me like yours ,my boyfriend’s ex came running back to him but he refused ,he told me he hate her but i found something he wrote for her on his cyberspace.the girl still is his special friend.Do you think two people broke up can be good friends?Anyway I was confused of move on or give up,then I chose to belong together with him.you know,if you dont love him,why you become competitive? i am not sure it’s a bright idea,i just know that if i get over my boyfriend i won’t be happy or relax.coin has two sides sweetheart,just follow your heart.Good luck.