How do you get an ex wife (mother of your husband’s kids) off your back?
I am currently a very happily married woman, however I have this problem. My husband’s ex wife won’t stop bothering me, She always trying to do the things I do, always wants to know what I"m doing or asks stupid random questions. Yet she claims she doesn’t want to hear bout my husband and I life. She just makes me feel on edge and I really would like to kick her ass but I’m better than that. Anyone have advice?
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+ Ask your husband what things really annoy her. Hope he can tell you a pile of them. Then start doing them and try to talk about nothing else to her. she will hopefully get frustrated and leave you alone. Maybe there is a song or sound that really gets to her(like fingernails on a chalk board and then get a recording of it and play it for background music) Tell her you think it is soothing and relieves your stress. This works pretty well for the tel la sales people also.
Good Luck
Stop speaking to her
file a restraining order. lol
You married her BS when you married him in a wierd threesome with out the sex kind of way.
Hope that helps
Have her killed. Or have your husband grow some balls and tell her to get lost.
Ignore her! If she doesn’t get the hint then tell her straight up how you feel and that your life is none of her business!
try the "Scott Peterson"method
Sounds like your hubby needs to talk to her. The wacked way she is acting towards you really has nothing to do with you at all. It’s all about your man. He should talk to her and put her in her place.
just do what i do and rell her to stay out of ur business
Tell her you don’t want to hear about her or her life or talk to her either, maybe she’ll get the hint.
be the adult of the situation. try not to let her bother you, maybe talk to your husband about her behaviour.
Your husband needs to get this situation under control and tell her to back off and stay out of your life and business. Some ex’s try and want to be friends with the new ones but it doesn’t sound like this is the case. If she wanted to be a true friend she wouldn’t get upset about hearing about you and her ex husband. I think she is simply being a busybody and prying to find out whats what. Tell hubby to get her out of the picture.
your husband needs to step in and tell her to back off!!
the only conversations that need to go on between any of you is the care and well being of the children. do not lower yourself to her standards by kicking her azz… it will only get you thrown in jail and that may be the one thing she is looking for…to say SEE I TOLD YOU SO….
just put all your efforts in the children.. ONLY
ignore her…don’t talk with her…..
What you might do is tell her that you presently are unable to talk however when you have a moment you will get back to her.
Don’t call as you know she will call you anyhow. What you are doing is good for you but you don’t need an android to be a complete copy of you. You don’t have to answer what your doing even though you can be respectful of her requests advise her you don’t want a clone of yourself.
the other thing is that you really do not have to respond.
Just let her know that don’t know. From one moment to the next what you will be doing or what you are doing.
Ta da.
Advise her that you are a very busy woman and just have to go.
Wishing you all the best of luck
what a pain that must be always having her in your face.
Good luck my lady
block her number change your number
put in a report to the police that she is harasing you
if all else fail kick her but but only if she comes to you
you can claim self defense
Just be as nice as you can be but don’t let her get too involved. Don’t be afraid to tell her something isn’t any of her business, but try your hardest to be kind. After all, she is the mother of your husband’s children and there’s always some baggage in that type of situation. No one says you have to be friends with her but it is very important to remain civil with her for your family’s sake!
you can either ignore her completely or cuss her out depending on the kind of person you are. sounds like your like me and would cuss her out if you had the chance. also, tell your husband that she wont leave you the hell alone and your going to slap her if she doesnt go away. really tho, its your husbands problem and he should take care of it.
I dunno, maybe she is doing this in a snide or nasty way because according to your description of her actions, she sounds like she is just trying to be pleasant, or just may not exactly know how to carry on a normal conversation with you.
They say, "Imitation is the highest form of flattery". Maybe she is impressed by you.
Relax a little. You got the man, so no need to fan it in her face. She is an ex for a reason. Enjoy your husband and family and ignore her.
ignore it and give vague answers when she asks personal questions. she’ll get the hint…or LOL…you could be mischievous and totally tell her some elaborate, made up, ridiculously ludicrous story to a question she has.
Personally, I’m mischievous….lol
Tell her random off the wall (fictional) things about your husband to shock her. She will probably confront him about it so have a game plan ready for him to confirm what you say. If she asks where you are going, name a place on the opposite side of town. That should teach her.
Tell her that as much as you don’t want to offend her, you would prefer not talking to her unless it has something important to do with the kids. Worked for me….told her once, and never had to speak to her again.
just sllllllllloooooooooowwwwwwwww wayyyyyyy down. It will get anyone off your back eventually. People get tired of waiting for you to actually do something they can complain about or comment on. Silly to say, sleeping all day on that heating pad, "you really are doing that wrong."
When the going gets tough, become less efficient.
All the crazy stressed out people will leave you alone eventually if you do that.
Why is she even around you at all. Maybe you are being too nice to her. Stay away from her, don’t answer the phone if it is her. Get away as quick as you can with a phoney excuse if she traps you, she will eventually get the hint and leave you alone.
well first of all what kind of a relationship do you have with her???? you see i am that ex wife but i have the problem with his new girlfriend she is a bit jealous of me why i have no idea i don’t call the guy at all unless i have to go pick up our kids and even then i call his mother so like this i don’t give him problems. I would just tell her straight up hey mind your business
Welcome to the 2nd Wives Club. I feel your pain since I have been there too. Listen, I don’t think it’s a good idea you talk to her. You have a new life now and I realize there are kids involved but I personally would not be available for her. You are HAPPY now and believe me, she’s not digging it. If anything, she may be trying to annoy you so you complain to your husband and in turn you and your husband may start arguing. I would just not be around when she calls. Let the machine pick up. Good luck.
Ask your husband to have her visit the children at the park or a restaurant, someplace other then where you are and not in your home. This is your marriage you make the rules. He should be fine with this, but make sure you tell him why you would rather she not come around you.
first off all, do not be in contact with her whatsoever, are the kids very small? If she bothers you, make a complaint with the police and get a restraining order. do not let her call you or talk with you at all. you are not best friend and it is non of her business what is going on in your life. If u cut her out of your life then the problem will stop.
Well if it gets to the point of hitting she needs to get away from you!! She has to see the anger you showing when your upset! Try to avoid her as much as possiable. Talk to your husband about it and maybe he can give you something to help you out with her! The X’s are always hard to get rid of. Just stay calm, if your husband loves you and he’s not going anywhere she should understand and move on with her life! But first it sounds like she needs to get a life!! Good Luck!
Been there. I made mine leave the state, when the kids visited, no personal info was discussed & all personal pics etc were put away. Nothing to tell mommy about. Really ticked her off & I got a good laugh at her desperation for info.
We’re divorced now, but I still laugh about it.
It sounds like she is trying to have consistency in her children’s life. You should be greatful she talks to you and trys to do things the way you do them. Why can’t you talk to her about it if it’s bothering you? They are her children and always will be, so you might as well learn to get along with her!
Confront her non confrontationally. In other words, address her and the situation person to person, say- over coffee, and let her know that your private life and your husbands are of no consequence or concern of hers. Ask her to please stop invading your privacy, and if there is anything else that she wants to know about you, then alll correspondence should be directed to who shivs a git.
just try to keep the peace, at least for the sake of your husbands kids.
you might not like it, but she is a part of your family because she is the mother of his kids, you should accept her, that doesn’t mean you have to answer every question she asks you, you could just tell her "i prefer not to answer that" or " that is too personal" but you are going to have to accept her if you want there to be peace for the kids. it will also give them a great example of maturity.
try to be her friend…instead of getting mad at her for doing things that you do…be flattered about her wanting to be like you.You know that no matter how much she tries to copy you that she will never be you vice versa. Next time you see that she has done something u did…compliment her….kill her with kindness….after all…if there are children involved….u need to be civil with her for the sake of ur marriage because the bottom line is that those kids come first….even if they are not yours….u came into an already shaped family….ur job is to try to find your place in that family and make it as pleasant as possible….goog luck
My advice is just ignore her. She may very well be jealous of you. My ex husbands’ ex was like that. She always wanted to know from other people about our relationship, but didn’t have the guts to ask herself. You need to just continue doing what you are doing and not give her the attention she is requesting. You will find that the more dignity you show the more you will be respected by your family. Thank you and good luck.
I would tell her that she needs to live her life and let me live mine. (It sounds like she is jealous and has never gotten over her ex husband. )You would like to have a civil relationship between you because of the children, but if she doesn’t keep stocking you then you will be forced not to have any thing to do with her.
If you don’t want her to bother you anymore, tell her, " Look you
are my husband’s ex and I really don’t want to be rude but I have nothing in common with you and I would appreciates if you wouldn’t bother me anymore. I don’t know where you got that I wanted to be your phone buddy but I’m very busy and I would certainly appreciate it if you wouldn’t call back anymore". Then block her number from your phone if she goes elsewhere and calls you when you see it’s her just slam the phone down.
There are alot of complications with relationships. It may also depend on how close they were before and the kids. She’s there forever so she may do what ever it takes to keep testing you.
Hopefully she isn’t that ignorant where she would try anything with the kids.
But she may be just getting used to everything. It may have already been awhile but kill her with kindness. They say it but it may work. So will have nothing bad to say and may get irritated and then stop. Worth a shot.
Good luck.
well, that is cause she was the controlling factor when she was married to your husband.Even though the marriage is over she still wants to play strict mommy with him.
He needs to back you up and stand up to her and tell her to back off.
Look the kids are hers too and some things you will have to just deal with when it comes to them, but its yours and his home and when the kids are there they live under your rules,not hers.
If he doesn’t want to say anything then Next time she calls let her know point blank. "look lady I don’t know you I don’t want trouble between us especially for the sake of the kids, so I tell you what, you keep mind to your business and I will do the same.If you are calling and wanting info on anything other than the kids I am sorry but I will hang up the phone on you no matter how many times you call.
So its up to you, we either be civilized adults here or we have problems that will only lead to more grief for all.Whats it going to be??"
Stand your ground and she will back off. maybe not right away but trust me she will get tired of not getting anywhere and stop the crap.
To me, it sounds as if the ex is not ready to let go of her "old" family, or she may still hold a special place in her heart for your husband. She may claim that she doesn’t want to hear about your lives, but in fact, that is what motivates her to stay involved with your family. Obviously, if children are part of the situation, she will need to stay in the picture. But, maybe you and your husband (if he’s a willing party), can make an effort not to share personal details about what you’re planning. For instance, you say she’s interested in doing what you do. But, if you don’t tell her that you’re planning a vacation for two, headed out for the weekend, going here or there with the kids, she doesn’t have the chance to mimic your activities. Even the simplest details (where you and your husband are going for dinner) can be used in the wrong way.
If you don’t have children, then you are free and clear to cut her completely out of the picture. She is, after all, an ex-wife. And unless she and your husband have an agreement to stay extremely cordial, the less contact you have with her the better. She may have severe jealousy issues and you should block all contact until her "flame" for your husband dies out. If you find that she is still bothering you, consider changing your phone number (unlisted or blocked), or simply screen your calls. If she comes to the door, don’t answer it. It’s a simple matter of not allowing conversation to happen between the two of you. However, if you happen to meet in town, simply smile and continue on your way. You, after all, are the one with the happy marriage and the man you love!
boy do you have a problem i had the same a few years ago ,she turned out to be a nightmare ,but it all turned out she was jealous she wanted him back ,,,over my dead body ,what you need to do is this ////love your husband and the kids ,with all your heart and show them this love and if you can let her see it too treat them like kings and queens ,,it will piss her off more than ever for her to know that in you he has the total love ,more than she could ever show or have shown him or the kids,make your family the main priority over anything else ,,,and mean it it is not hard to do when you truely love some one and the thing is the more love you show them the more they show it back to you ,your husband will realise you are the best in the world and he will be the one to eventully realise just what this woman is doing ,he wont want any little thing to upset the love he has for his family ,,,he will vend up telling her to get lost ,,and to keep her nose out ,dont answer her questions and if you do always bring the love into it ,,,tell her you are so pleased she didnt want him as with out him you would never have known such love ,,,,,,really pile it on hehe ,,,she will soon get sick of hearing that hehe ,,,,love is the answer sweetie ,,,this is what i did and we have more love in our family than you would ever imagine possible ,,,but its there and its great ,,,and as for her well she got so sick of it ,,,,shes just married a man she dont love ,,,,well she cant shes been sleeping with his mate ,,,he will find out and she will be history again hehe ,and if her name gets mentioned the first thing my husband says is ,,god only knows what i ever saw in the woman,,,,let her see who happy you are and how happy you make him and the kids,,,play with her mind ,,,,and strong love will do it for you ,,,she will hate the thought that you can giv him more than she ever could after all shes the one who is the ex hahaha
think about ways to kill her everytime she opens her mouth. that would help me. i would never try to involve my self in my ex’s life. not even when it comes to my kids. as long as they don’t complain about any stupid girl my ex decides to introduce to her to my kids i could care less. (but then i’m the type of person that HOPES my ex will get a girlfriend one day. i truely believe there has to be another stupid female out there. i can’t be as dumb as they get)
Keep all conversations limited to the children only. if she even goes in a different direction…..hang up on her.