Comments on: How can I recover my relationship with my live-in girlfriend? http://howdoigetmyexboyfriendback.org/4162/how-can-i-recover-my-relationship-with-my-live-in-girlfriend/ Sat, 11 Feb 2012 14:09:15 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: rwdycwgrl http://howdoigetmyexboyfriendback.org/4162/how-can-i-recover-my-relationship-with-my-live-in-girlfriend/comment-page-1/#comment-27986 rwdycwgrl Thu, 28 Jan 2010 21:49:45 +0000 http://howdoigetmyexboyfriendback.org/4162/how-can-i-recover-my-relationship-with-my-live-in-girlfriend/#comment-27986 SHe has to figure it out for herself. and unfortunately you get the job of tryin to keep ya'll intact while she does.I know where she's at unfortunately. I just had the same happen here. He was married ( told me he was divorced) we were together over two years, lived together everything. His wife just had a baby in may. THrough the whole two years he would always have an explaination for every slip etc. He also had even more girls on the side besides me. Right now she is torn by what the right thing is to do. What she knows is right, what she knows is wrong. But he has that hold and its really hard to break. I had my support team actually move in to make sure I didnt slip back to him this last time. ANd it took all six of them. But they made sure I didnt talk to him or anything and it took me about three months to totally let it go and start looking at him as the huge player he was. Stand by her. She'll figure it out, I hope. Have her email me, Ill help her realize hes nothing but continued heartache and confusion. Like I said it took alot of people to help me break the bond. I am so much happier now. No more tears and self doubt. Just lots of smiles for the first time in a long time. SHe has to figure it out for herself. and unfortunately you get the job of tryin to keep ya’ll intact while she does.I know where she’s at unfortunately. I just had the same happen here. He was married ( told me he was divorced) we were together over two years, lived together everything. His wife just had a baby in may. THrough the whole two years he would always have an explaination for every slip etc. He also had even more girls on the side besides me. Right now she is torn by what the right thing is to do. What she knows is right, what she knows is wrong. But he has that hold and its really hard to break. I had my support team actually move in to make sure I didnt slip back to him this last time. ANd it took all six of them. But they made sure I didnt talk to him or anything and it took me about three months to totally let it go and start looking at him as the huge player he was. Stand by her. She’ll figure it out, I hope. Have her email me, Ill help her realize hes nothing but continued heartache and confusion. Like I said it took alot of people to help me break the bond. I am so much happier now. No more tears and self doubt. Just lots of smiles for the first time in a long time.

]]> By: lisette http://howdoigetmyexboyfriendback.org/4162/how-can-i-recover-my-relationship-with-my-live-in-girlfriend/comment-page-1/#comment-27987 lisette Thu, 28 Jan 2010 21:49:45 +0000 http://howdoigetmyexboyfriendback.org/4162/how-can-i-recover-my-relationship-with-my-live-in-girlfriend/#comment-27987 let her decide for herself, wait if she decides to live with you then go party! let her decide for herself, wait if she decides to live with you then go party!

]]> By: DiamondDiana http://howdoigetmyexboyfriendback.org/4162/how-can-i-recover-my-relationship-with-my-live-in-girlfriend/comment-page-1/#comment-27988 DiamondDiana Thu, 28 Jan 2010 21:49:45 +0000 http://howdoigetmyexboyfriendback.org/4162/how-can-i-recover-my-relationship-with-my-live-in-girlfriend/#comment-27988 Remind her that this other guy is MARRIED and is sweet-talking her only to use/abuse/leave her later. Also, remember, you two aren't married. Maybe if that changes, she will tell him to get lost. I will pray for your situation. Remind her that this other guy is MARRIED and is sweet-talking her only to use/abuse/leave her later. Also, remember, you two aren’t married. Maybe if that changes, she will tell him to get lost. I will pray for your situation.

]]> By: Julie http://howdoigetmyexboyfriendback.org/4162/how-can-i-recover-my-relationship-with-my-live-in-girlfriend/comment-page-1/#comment-27989 Julie Thu, 28 Jan 2010 21:49:45 +0000 http://howdoigetmyexboyfriendback.org/4162/how-can-i-recover-my-relationship-with-my-live-in-girlfriend/#comment-27989 Take her on a mini vacation to get her mind off of things. A nice long talk would help. Add a lot of "I appreciate that you..." and "I care about..." so she knows how important she is to you and how YOU feel about the situtation. Make sure she realizes that he is jeopardizing the relationship and all you want is for you two to be happy. Communication is the key. Good luck! Take her on a mini vacation to get her mind off of things. A nice long talk would help. Add a lot of "I appreciate that you…" and "I care about…" so she knows how important she is to you and how YOU feel about the situtation. Make sure she realizes that he is jeopardizing the relationship and all you want is for you two to be happy. Communication is the key.

Good luck!

]]> By: WitchTwo http://howdoigetmyexboyfriendback.org/4162/how-can-i-recover-my-relationship-with-my-live-in-girlfriend/comment-page-1/#comment-27990 WitchTwo Thu, 28 Jan 2010 21:49:45 +0000 http://howdoigetmyexboyfriendback.org/4162/how-can-i-recover-my-relationship-with-my-live-in-girlfriend/#comment-27990 You shouldn't be shacking up with her if she has kids...they have enough to deal with without you two presenting that kind of a relationship. If you really care, quite playing house and marry her. If you don't ......move on. You if care enough to shack up you ought to care enough to get married...at least as man and wife if he is harassing her you can bring charges yourself. There is such a thing as a harassment order, its similar to a restraining order but its more of an agreement, the judge calls it a be nice order...might want to look into that. You know what? I just reread that....ask her to marry you, then you have a united front in which to deal with him. Just elope, do you know how shocked he will be when he finds out? You shouldn’t be shacking up with her if she has kids…they have enough to deal with without you two presenting that kind of a relationship. If you really care, quite playing house and marry her. If you don’t ……move on. You if care enough to shack up you ought to care enough to get married…at least as man and wife if he is harassing her you can bring charges yourself. There is such a thing as a harassment order, its similar to a restraining order but its more of an agreement, the judge calls it a be nice order…might want to look into that.

You know what? I just reread that….ask her to marry you, then you have a united front in which to deal with him. Just elope, do you know how shocked he will be when he finds out?

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