I want him back! How do I get him to give me another chance?
A wonderful guy and I were going out for a little while, but then for some reason I just sort of freaked out and dumped him abruptly. Even I’m not sure why. Now every time I bump into him (which is several times a day, ugh) I feel so horrible for treating him like that, and I can’t believe I gave up on the great thing we had. I am definitely starting to have second thoughts.
The problem is, well, I have several problems. First, I’m not entirely sure whether I really want him back, or whether it’s just guilt hitting me like a ton of bricks. How do I tell?
Second, is it even within my rights to ask him to take me back? I feel like I don’t even deserve to ask anything of him after how nicely he’s treated me through all this and how much of a ***** I’ve been to him.
Third, if I do decide to ask him to give me another chance, how do I go about it? What on earth can I say??
I would love some advice from people who have been on either side of this situation before — Dumpers, how did you get your loved one back? Dumpees, can you give me perspective on how he might react?
Thanks a ton! ^_^
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You possibly just want him back because he doesn’t want you now and you don’t want to accept that he’s moved on.
Leave this person and their feelings alone. You are too hung up on you for a relationship and that’s just not fair. Hopefully he’s found someone who can treat him with love and respect.
FIND OUT WHAT YOU WANT.
If I were the dude – I wouldn’t give you a second glance. You had the chance and you missed out. It isn’t always about YOU.
i have been in a similar situation when i just suddenly felt uncomfortable and then regretted it later. But if you feel like this (horrible for most of the day)…why not give it another try? Once you have decided if you like him or not (try and think about how you would feel if he wasnt there at all), just talk to him by himself and explain that you suddenly freaked and you are sorry and that you understand if he doesnt want to take you back but if he does….
haha yeah you hurt him good! There isn’t much you can do in this situation. He is a guy, so play on that. Apologize formally about it and then ask if you can be friends. If he says no, then say," I’m sorry I hurt you, I was going through some weird things in my life and you were there to take the fall. It wasn’t right for me to do that, and I hope one day we can be friends again." Then just leave him with that. Trust me if a girl did that to me and then told me that, I would seriously consider forgiving her.Then work your feminine charm on him when you guys are friends again. If he is over you then you are SOL, but if he isn’t then you still have a window. However if you did dump him for a reason, then that reason is sure to surface again soon leading to more hurt and more problems. Think about what you want.
Definitely there will be a reason as to why you freaked out.
First of all, you find out the reason.
Then think how he would react if you told him that.
Then talk to him straight about your feelings for him.
If everything adds up, I guess he will think about it.
If your not sure you want him back then maybe you don’t
No one can tell you how you feel. You need to have a good think if this is the man you want to be with or if you want to play the field.
Its not fair to toy with his emotions.
If you do decide he is the one you want i suggest u ask him to your place or out to lunch somewhere that u can talk but not be interupted
I would suggest that you be honest explain ti him how you were feeling and that you freaked out that the relationship felt a bit heavy but you have realized how much he means to you and how badly you no that you made a mistake.
he is no doubt very hurt and confused and you have to be aware he might not want you back.
i would continue to apologize and ask him for another chance i would advise him that i no i would have to build the trust back up.
once again though be prepared for a no.
If thats the case hun your just going to have to move on.
Don’t say anything at all to him. If you truly care about someone, you know it.
Get a grip! you lost out, all my X’s that come back will get a serious cold shoulder.
First think what you want. Now if your sure enough that you want him back, go to him and tell him about your feelings and that you want him back in your life. Maybe he’s still waiting for you and wants you to come back. Maybe he’s just waiting that you make the first move. Some lovers forgive their love easily, but some take alot of time. If you say to him what ‘Da great b8tor’ has told you,and the guy truly loves you, I think he should give you a second chance. Cause there’s no harm in giving your love a second chance. But this time don’t break his heart again. Cause this time if you loose him, you’ll surely forever loose him. Best of Luck.