Comments on: Why does a nice guy, loving and loyal husband, proud father fall out of love with wife of 12 years? http://howdoigetmyexboyfriendback.org/4316/why-does-a-nice-guy-loving-and-loyal-husband-proud-father-fall-out-of-love-with-wife-of-12-years/ Sat, 11 Feb 2012 14:09:15 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: goingcrazy121 http://howdoigetmyexboyfriendback.org/4316/why-does-a-nice-guy-loving-and-loyal-husband-proud-father-fall-out-of-love-with-wife-of-12-years/comment-page-1/#comment-29165 goingcrazy121 Mon, 01 Feb 2010 06:29:40 +0000 http://howdoigetmyexboyfriendback.org/4316/why-does-a-nice-guy-loving-and-loyal-husband-proud-father-fall-out-of-love-with-wife-of-12-years/#comment-29165 Deep Hurt, Ignore that idiot who said about a Pity Party. People like him are the last thing you need right now. What you DO need to do is get yourself quick smart down to your Doctor, and tell him what you have told us. YES, you are depressed, and you need something to pull you out of this hole you are in. Anti-depressants will get you the sleep you need, and balance out the chemicals in your brain that are making you feel this way. How do I know all this? Because my Hubby went through an episode of depression a few years back, and that's what he had to do. Everything got on top of him - too many things going wrong all at once - and that's what has happened to you. It's no surprise you feel like you do. You haven't fallen out of love with your wonderful wife, you are just not feeling very loving to anyone at the moment, including yourself. Your wife is being very supportive, which will help you immensely to get back on your feet. Comments like "pull yourself together" will not help... she is doing things right. She wants the best for you, the same as you want for her. Get down to your Doctor, and believe me, within the week you will feel more emotionally able to tackle your problems. It sounds like your most important aim is to find another job. If you can't find something that you are trained to do, take something on the short term, if you can find something, just to get the moneyflow situation moving again. Or get yourself signed on at the jobcentre, and get some money from the Government to keep things moving along. You have paid your taxes in the past, so you are entitled to ask them to help you out for a while. Also, if you are in arrears with your mortgage, tell them ,and they can change your mortgage to an Interest Only one for the time being. It makes the mortgage longer to pay off, but it will make things a LOT easier on the short term. They don't want you to lose your home, (not because they are nice caring people, but because they don't want the hassle of taking it off you and having to sell it to get their money back) but you MUST let them know you are in difficulties. I guess for all the other bills you will have to speak to someone like the Citizens Advice to find your best route. Feel free to message me if it helps. I hope you feel better very very soon. It will be a long struggle, but your wife loves you and wants to be there with you when you both get out the other end of this tunnel. All the very best. Deep Hurt,
Ignore that idiot who said about a Pity Party. People like him are the last thing you need right now.
What you DO need to do is get yourself quick smart down to your Doctor, and tell him what you have told us.
YES, you are depressed, and you need something to pull you out of this hole you are in. Anti-depressants will get you the sleep you need, and balance out the chemicals in your brain that are making you feel this way.
How do I know all this? Because my Hubby went through an episode of depression a few years back, and that’s what he had to do. Everything got on top of him – too many things going wrong all at once – and that’s what has happened to you. It’s no surprise you feel like you do.
You haven’t fallen out of love with your wonderful wife, you are just not feeling very loving to anyone at the moment, including yourself.
Your wife is being very supportive, which will help you immensely to get back on your feet. Comments like "pull yourself together" will not help… she is doing things right. She wants the best for you, the same as you want for her.
Get down to your Doctor, and believe me, within the week you will feel more emotionally able to tackle your problems.
It sounds like your most important aim is to find another job. If you can’t find something that you are trained to do, take something on the short term, if you can find something, just to get the moneyflow situation moving again. Or get yourself signed on at the jobcentre, and get some money from the Government to keep things moving along. You have paid your taxes in the past, so you are entitled to ask them to help you out for a while.
Also, if you are in arrears with your mortgage, tell them ,and they can change your mortgage to an Interest Only one for the time being. It makes the mortgage longer to pay off, but it will make things a LOT easier on the short term. They don’t want you to lose your home, (not because they are nice caring people, but because they don’t want the hassle of taking it off you and having to sell it to get their money back) but you MUST let them know you are in difficulties.
I guess for all the other bills you will have to speak to someone like the Citizens Advice to find your best route.
Feel free to message me if it helps.
I hope you feel better very very soon. It will be a long struggle, but your wife loves you and wants to be there with you when you both get out the other end of this tunnel.
All the very best.

]]> By: Missy Moo http://howdoigetmyexboyfriendback.org/4316/why-does-a-nice-guy-loving-and-loyal-husband-proud-father-fall-out-of-love-with-wife-of-12-years/comment-page-1/#comment-29166 Missy Moo Mon, 01 Feb 2010 06:29:40 +0000 http://howdoigetmyexboyfriendback.org/4316/why-does-a-nice-guy-loving-and-loyal-husband-proud-father-fall-out-of-love-with-wife-of-12-years/#comment-29166 Talk about a pity party, Mate we have all felt like crap at some point in our lives, no job, no money etc but why oh why would you destroy everything that is still good in your life. You are being selfish and childish, you say you love her, you say she supports you but you cant seem to see past yourself. Seriously if you leave her you will regret it so much, show her the man you are, go and bloody clean toilets to earn money if you have to. Step up and be a man Sorry for the harshness of this answer I can see you are hurting but if you do what you say you want to the hurt with get so much worse for you, your wife and your child. Oh and go and see your Doctor you seem to be suffering from depression Talk about a pity party,

Mate we have all felt like crap at some point in our lives, no job, no money etc but why oh why would you destroy everything that is still good in your life.

You are being selfish and childish, you say you love her, you say she supports you but you cant seem to see past yourself.

Seriously if you leave her you will regret it so much, show her the man you are, go and bloody clean toilets to earn money if you have to.

Step up and be a man

Sorry for the harshness of this answer I can see you are hurting but if you do what you say you want to the hurt with get so much worse for you, your wife and your child.

Oh and go and see your Doctor you seem to be suffering from depression

]]> By: TeeTee http://howdoigetmyexboyfriendback.org/4316/why-does-a-nice-guy-loving-and-loyal-husband-proud-father-fall-out-of-love-with-wife-of-12-years/comment-page-1/#comment-29167 TeeTee Mon, 01 Feb 2010 06:29:40 +0000 http://howdoigetmyexboyfriendback.org/4316/why-does-a-nice-guy-loving-and-loyal-husband-proud-father-fall-out-of-love-with-wife-of-12-years/#comment-29167 First and for most get yourself together! You love her and she loves you and she sound like the BEST WIFE IN THE WORLD! Marriage is all about ups and downs! That's just how life goes! She married you for better or for worse, for richer or for poorer till death do you part.Those were real words coming out of both of y'alls mouth. I know that you feel like your less of a man but you are not!! Hold on in there and just don't give up! Life is hard and I hate to hear all of this that has happen to your family! Please don't make her life any miserable then she all ready is. She hates to see how this is effecting you and it's effecting her and your son as well. She is doing the best that she can right now and she is holding on to dear life trynna make ends meet and the worst thing that she can see is her husband falling apart. You need to be talking to God and go to him in Prayer and just let it all out and ask God to please help you get out of this mess. God won't put more on you then you can handle! Please don't give up on you, your wife, your son, They need you to be complete!! The storm will pass and you may not be able to see it now but a time will come when you will no longer suffer! Talk to your wife and let her know that you can't financially can't be all that you can be but you sure as hell will not give up on being the best husband you can be for her and your family!!! Your suffering from depressing right now so that's why you feel the way that you do. Go to your church if you attend one and ask for help! Keep looking for jobs every day and something will happen for you. You have got to belive and know that a change will come. Have Faith!!! May God Bless and I know that it will get better before you know it. First and for most get yourself together!

You love her and she loves you and she sound like the BEST WIFE IN THE WORLD! Marriage is all about ups and downs! That’s just how life goes!

She married you for better or for worse, for richer or for poorer till death do you part.Those were real words coming out of both of y’alls mouth.

I know that you feel like your less of a man but you are not!! Hold on in there and just don’t give up!

Life is hard and I hate to hear all of this that has happen to your family!

Please don’t make her life any miserable then she all ready is. She hates to see how this is effecting you and it’s effecting her and your son as well. She is doing the best that she can right now and she is holding on to dear life trynna make ends meet and the worst thing that she can see is her husband falling apart.

You need to be talking to God and go to him in Prayer and just let it all out and ask God to please help you get out of this mess. God won’t put more on you then you can handle!

Please don’t give up on you, your wife, your son, They need you to be complete!! The storm will pass and you may not be able to see it now but a time will come when you will no longer suffer!

Talk to your wife and let her know that you can’t financially can’t be all that you can be but you sure as hell will not give up on being the best husband you can be for her and your family!!!

Your suffering from depressing right now so that’s why you feel the way that you do. Go to your church if you attend one and ask for help!
Keep looking for jobs every day and something will happen for you. You have got to belive and know that a change will come. Have Faith!!!
May God Bless and I know that it will get better before you know it.

]]> By: thebigB http://howdoigetmyexboyfriendback.org/4316/why-does-a-nice-guy-loving-and-loyal-husband-proud-father-fall-out-of-love-with-wife-of-12-years/comment-page-1/#comment-29168 thebigB Mon, 01 Feb 2010 06:29:40 +0000 http://howdoigetmyexboyfriendback.org/4316/why-does-a-nice-guy-loving-and-loyal-husband-proud-father-fall-out-of-love-with-wife-of-12-years/#comment-29168 You need to tell her how you fell. This just another down hill but just wait ...the rollercoaster goes up. You need to tell her how you fell. This just another down hill but just wait …the rollercoaster goes up.

]]> By: Emily Hobhouse http://howdoigetmyexboyfriendback.org/4316/why-does-a-nice-guy-loving-and-loyal-husband-proud-father-fall-out-of-love-with-wife-of-12-years/comment-page-1/#comment-29169 Emily Hobhouse Mon, 01 Feb 2010 06:29:40 +0000 http://howdoigetmyexboyfriendback.org/4316/why-does-a-nice-guy-loving-and-loyal-husband-proud-father-fall-out-of-love-with-wife-of-12-years/#comment-29169 You're looking in the wrong direction. It's not your wife you're out of love with, it's yourself. You're suffering from depression, and why not? You've got reason to do so. We marry the men in our lives because we love them, and yes, through sickness and health, and all the other troubles inbetween. What guarantee have you that if your wife was on her own, she wouldn't have more troubles? She could be married to a man who mistreated her, but instead she considers herself lucky to have you. You're not hurting her by not providing for her - that's part of life and the crosses we all bear. You're hurting her by rejecting her. Your wife loves you, there's no guarantee that she would find anyone else. She wants to be with you, accept that - stop navel gazing! And go and see a doctor. You’re looking in the wrong direction. It’s not your wife you’re out of love with, it’s yourself.
You’re suffering from depression, and why not? You’ve got reason to do so. We marry the men in our lives because we love them, and yes, through sickness and health, and all the other troubles inbetween.
What guarantee have you that if your wife was on her own, she wouldn’t have more troubles? She could be married to a man who mistreated her, but instead she considers herself lucky to have you.
You’re not hurting her by not providing for her – that’s part of life and the crosses we all bear.
You’re hurting her by rejecting her. Your wife loves you, there’s no guarantee that she would find anyone else. She wants to be with you, accept that – stop navel gazing!
And go and see a doctor.

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