What would you do if your boyfriend of 5 years is still betraying you to be there for his ex wife?
I have had the same boyfriend for 5 yrs and he still betrays and lies to me to be there for his ex wife. He says he doesn’t love her and it’s not her I have to worry about. He says he will stop but doesn’t and he somehow justifies it in his own mind as "no big deal". He says when I get upset and cry that I’m all about drama. He also says if I would let him move in and marry me it would all go away and we would be happy together.
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You’re "boyfriend" is a manipulative jerk.
Moving in and marriage provide extra pressure, they certainly don’t make problems go away, generally problems are magnified!
He’s lying to you now, how is living together or marriage going to improve that? What’s he doing with his ex?
He certainly doesn’t respect you, or even care enough to be honest with you.
I’d suggest dumping him like a hot rock, find someone who actually cares for you enough to be honest.
Sorry
Luck
leave him on his own
Once guys have married sex, their hearts stay with that woman forever. I don’t recommend married or ex-married guys, no matter how desperate you are.
dont do it because if you arent his "one" then dont marry him… dump him. He is a jackass
you know why you wont let him move in and marry you. Stick to that intuition. God gave it to us for a reason, to have a defense again the lies. no reason he should hold anything with or for the ex-wife even if there is a child involved.
id dump his a*s the moment i knew id never forgive him :/
If he loves you, He will leave her alone now. I wouldn’t marry him and then find out later that he lied. Most men won’t do what they say they will after you marry them. He needs to decide who is more important. Tell him if he wants to see her and they are just friends, That he won’t mind you going with him to see her.
Well, don’t move in and marry him. I’m a little unclear on the status of his relationship beyond that. Is he sleeping with his ex, or just doing tasks for her on request? Do they have children? That could be a tying factor.
One way or the other, if you;re not happy now, then DON’t commit further. Never marry a person when you already know why you’re going to divorce.
Dump him and move on, This guy obviously is still hung up on his ex, but he wants to be with you at the same time. It does not work like that! Give him an ultimatum, she goes or I do!
Good luck
Stop complaining… you have tolerated him for 5 years? This is all your Fault! You have let him get away with this…. he will never stop… Put up or Shut up!
Get a guyfriend and do it to him!!! If he cries about it, say "no big deal". Dont even think about moving in together. that’s the worst!!!
well they’ve been married so thats a connection they will always have.
To be honest i really wouldn’t feel threatened unless she’s like this really gorgeous person.
either than that i wouldn’t care….he’s not sleeping with her is he??
You should have left him a long time ago. If he’s like that now, he will not change. Stop being a push over, grow balls and leave him, theres other guys out there that will not cheat. Tough Love girl, it HAS to be done. stop wasting time
it wont all go away if u move in together and get married. It probly will just get worse. break up with him and let him come begging 4 forgiveness
I wouldn’t worry about it. I don’t think its nothing serious. But just ask him what hes is doing over there with her. You are his gf I think you have the right to be curious and mad! Maybe he thinks he owes her something I don’t know, but my friend ex husband helps her out sometimes because i don’t know why but he has a gf so I don’t know. But just have a long conversation with him. And he obviously loves you or he wouldn’t have said if you marry him. I think you should find out what hes doing first before you get all worried. And he lies to you because he doesn’t want you to be mad. Maybe hes trying to be a friend?
His guilt is so deep. He’s made a promise within himself to watch over his ex wife. For whatever reasons, he has made this a priority.
To demand otherwise from him, to order him against his conscience, is a travesty.
Why can’t you support his efforts to take care of her and be honest with you? If he knew he wouldn’t get in trouble and that you actually understood why he needs to continue to take care of her, then he’d share with you, but you’ve made it taboo.
Marriage vows, God’s laws, etc. can really hit the grain on a person. It’s the very person they are. They need to keep this promise to God or they will deteriorate.
He’s told you what he wants. he’s told you what he needs. AND? You haven’t given that to him, so you can’t keep the dramatics up. He’s told you. … you either give it to him or be quiet about him….basically what he’s saying.
he is making excuses, I had a boyfriend that was always in touch with his ex all the time for their daughter until I found out he had a close up with her and I found that out when I decided to leave him. I was hurt and felt good I broke up with him. Leave him and if he looks for you tell him that you want him to change and respect you more.
I do not understand the question really.
You want him to be an stand-up guy for you but you deny him the same feelings for his Ex? A stand-up guy is always a stand-up guy not only when it is good for his image, just always.
If you can’t handle it then move one with your life I am sure you will find some one else closer to your emotional level that will make you happy.
Bull…
You should leave him..he obviously doesnt care about you if he keeps going back to his x wife even if he say its no big deal..it actually is if its bothering you but he doesnt seem to care..so just leave him.
he is not happy with what his life is… he thinks its okay to date and still see his ex wife…. if so.. then why did they get a divorce..?? he’s confused and use you there so he wont be sooo lonely…… if you guys ever do get married.. he will not change anything..! he will still try to see his ex wife………. you should leave him for the better and have him move on with his life of what he wants to do….. you dont want to get stuck with a divorce man who doesnt know which path to take….
i think he might still be in love with his ex wife… dont marry him instead.. find a better man….