How do you get over your husband having an affair?
My husband had an emotional affair when I was pregnant with our daughter. There was no sex involved. He was sneaking around to see an ex girlfriend and letting her call him on his cell while he was at work. I found out back in June when I was 6 months pregnant. I was of course livid, but decided I want this marriage to work. Our daughter is now 5 weeks old and I am having such a hard time giving trust back to him. I still feel very hurt, but want to move on from this.
So, anyone go through anything like this? How did you move forward in your relationship?
Oh, it wasn’t a sweet, "Oh, come back home." I put my foot through his stereo, broke all his collectible action figures, broke his cds, broke his games, etc. I was pissed he was sneaking around. Still am. I do like the idea about making him dress like a fairy princess.
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I would never "get over" a betrayal like that.
He would be my EX husbans ASAP.
If you forgive him, get ready for it to happen agin.
Make him dress up as a fairy princess for halloween! Wal mart has those Hanna Montana wigs. Put make up on hin and make him go out in public. That woule be a total scream! LOL
Well I’m not nice so I would tie him to a chair, duct tape his mouth and make him watch me do his best friend in front of him.
aaww..poor guy..he gets what he deserves…(and so do I)
My husband had a "friendship" with a girl at work. It was over a year ago and I am still no over it. I am not sure what to tell you honey but to hang in there if this is what you want.
I don’t want to give him any excuses but I think we women sometimes forget how scary parenthood can be for the man. I don’t know if this is his first and/or only child but I think some men handle change and big responsibilities different then we would. Im sure you are feeling hurt. Maybe you can find a way to discuss your feelings with him without making him feel like he needs to defend his self. Cuz you know he will shut down and you wont get the answers that you are looking for.
Accept that this was an emotional time for him as well. The fact that he didn’t have sex is good. He knew he didn’t want to go that far.
Also realize you are still very hormonal. Give this time. If in 6 months you don’t feel like you are making progress than it is time to see a marriage counselor.
All you can do is remember that his relationship was just one of having a friend.If he didn’t have sex with anyone,he wasn’t unfaithful.Be glad it was only a friendly situation.
How can you be sure there was no sex involved? Why would he sneak around just to ‘chat’? doesn’t make sense, sorry.
There’s no correct answer for this question. We all accept different situations for different reasons, despite what other people think. Most people would be so angry, hurt and humiliated that they would end the marriage. But if you want your marriage to work, you need to talk to each other, be honest, he needs to explain his behaviour, and understand that he has hurt you and destroyed your trust. Only when he fully understands what he has done to you and is truly sorry and promises NEVER to be unfaithfull again, only then can you start to rebuild your trust of him. Counselling would be very helpful, if you are both willing.
you say it was an EMOTIONAL affair,that sounds like there really wasn’t sex involved,quite possibly he was stressed out by your emotional ups and downs,if all he did was show someone else emotions that should’ve been directed to youthat should be forgivable.If there was sex that’s different and keep in mind the thing called post partem stress,that could be the reason for you not wanting to trust him.All you can do is give it time and see what happens,if it continues to go awry,then check into counseling,and if that doesn’t work leave him,or tell him you want out. Good Luck
My ex cheated on me. The second time I found out I divorced her. A cheater will cheat again if they get away with it a first time. I would leave him now and save yourself some time, money, happiness etc. He’s not worth it. Get a lawyer and get child support-spousal support too if you can.
I don’t know that you ever get that trust back. I would be so hurt, I don’t know that I could get over it. If I was able to forgive it, I don’t know that I would forget it. It would take monumental effort on his part to make me feel like I was the only one for him and that he really wanted me and his family. Keep talking it through with him and as long as he’s being honest and willing to talk until you are all talked out about it you may have a chance. I hope he’s worth it.
I think betrayal begins when one spouse keeps secrets, with holds information, misleads, or lies to their spouse. Especially when that knowledge could be considered hurtful to their spouse. I would know unfortunatly…. My husband ended up having an affair that lead to sex and this was also when i was pregnant with our second child. I’m devestated. Somedays I want to leave others I want to work it out for the kids. I dont’ know what to do either but time does help. I’m so sorry. Infidelity hurts jsut as bad even when it never gets physical.
This will be the hardest time of your life. Betrayal by someone you love and trust is not easy. Look at the websites I list at the end of my post and see what you think.
Go to youtube.com and do a search and listen to these songs:
should of said no by taylor swift
take a bow by rihanna
cheated on me by degraw
Try to call and make an appt with a marriage therapist asap. You cant do this alone. you need a third person…a neutral person to help.
Good luck sweetie. You can make this work if you both are willing. But dont sit back and wait for it to just fix itself on its own, it wont happen.It will be alot of hard work and some pain. But it will be worth it.
Just sleep over it. U have done enuff damage by breaking his stuffs.
he was only being in touch with an old friend. Wat makes u think he is being infidel? Come on! That guy is innocent I’d tell you!