Single and in love with guy who has found someone else–I want him back but he’s not, we talk, workout,sex
we dated 2 years when he was going through a divorce, no money bitter and jealous. We broke up 4-5 times, but he always came back and I accepted him. This time He is weighing his options and he said he will have to choose between us. What should I do? I love him and want him back. I have changed my attitude to be very accommodating, but he is still with his other girl.
Is dating about being with more than one partner? Should I wait and see what he decides to do before I look for someone else. So, far, he appears to be happy with this girl. But he also appears to be happy around me 2, but he does talk about what I didn’t do in our relationship. I want him back!
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Why do you want someone who does not care enough about you to be exclusive? He needs to choose?!! PULEEAZE! YOU need to make the choices in YOUR life. You should choose.
That choice should be to move on already and find someone who is willing to treat you with the respect you deserve. There are a whole lot of men out there, and not all of them are like the schmuck it sounds like you are involved with.
What makes you think that this guy is ever going to change if you have gone through a similar cycle 6 times already? Answer: He’s not going to change. If you don’t want to live the rest of your life this way, then move on.
Noo! Never cheat.
Ever, seriously i did that once and i have learnt from my mistakes, never again.
Just talk to him and say "do you want to be together or not"
and then you will know what to do.
First of why did he dump you, or you dump him? I know that you care very much for him…maybe what you will just have to do, is date for awhile,,,and just take things slowly…but, don’t expect anything…keep being friends with him..and see how it goes…because there really isn’t much that you can do at this point….let him be with her for now,,..The ball is technically in HIS court…so you are going to have to just sit tight and wait, until he decides…but, in the meantime…you need to "have a life" for you…
okay? Not saying that you don’t love or care about him…but, he is involved at this point and time…so, do what you need to do, just for you,….that’s important…Part of me would say, move on….and yet there is another part of me, that says, I understand how you might feel inside…I have been there, some form or another…so I can totally relate to what you are having to go thru…it is no picnic….but, if you are sure…then ,make up your mind…"be positive" before you leap!
look ,just leave him alone. The only thing you are doing is getting your feelings hurt. Find someone else. Just get it through your head, you are not going to get him back. It was wrong from the beginning. Stop being the other woman. Be the number one woman. Besides if you get in a relationship with him, he is not going to respect as much, because remember, you was the other woman. Tell you the truth I hate woman like you. Just go and get your own man!!!!
If he has someone and continues to see you he is cheating and leading you on. you deserve someone who wants you and only you. Launch him and find a real man. Good luck.
Dating does not mean "being with" more than one partner, dating means dating, going out to dinner or the movies etc. I think you should back off and date others. You broke up 4-5 times and you have only been together 2 years? That seems like an awful lot of disputing and not agreeing to me. Personally I don’t think you are meant for each other. You sound like you only need "someone" anyone. Be by yourself and just date. Get on with your own life. And close the door to your ex’s.
Painful as this will sound, why should he come back to you exclusively when he is getting what he wants from more than one woman? He is controlling the situation here, manipulating you and the other woman. If he wants sex with you, he shows up on your doorstep. If he wants the other woman, it’s off to her place. If he isn’t monogamous now, what make you think he will be in the future. Break off your contact with him. If he really wants you, he’ll find you. If he can’t stay monogamous with you, toss him away.
He has no incentive to go back to you as you have allowed him to have you and this other girl also. Stop being so desperate. The more you cling to him the more he will want to pull away from you. He has learn-ed to disrespect you and sees you as a pushover. My advice to you would be to stand firm and let him know that if he wishes to be with this other girl then you will set him free and wish him well. If he wishes to be with you, then he needs to know that he will have to let the other girl go. If his decision is to be with her, then you must do just as you said, wish him well. And do NOT call him or contact him in anyway. He has to see you are serious about not tolerating cheating from him. If you do not do this he will continue to disrespect you because you will have allowed to. Hope you think about what I have said and good luck to you.
I know the feeling..
Ican understand what you are going through but I want to ask you some questions,do you know where he use to go, what he has been doing ther, can you try to reflect back on when he do live you and check all those times, the type of situation that has been on ground, your sexual life with him, your communication with him, the economic situation at those times, his relationships, his limitations at those times,and the kind of pressure you put on him at those times he do live you. if you check all these and others you will know where that problem is coming from then you will be able to prevent him from living you again. for it is a risk for your LIFE. NOTE: with God it can only be beter