Comments on: Would you take your ex wife or ex husband back if…? http://howdoigetmyexboyfriendback.org/4379/would-you-take-your-ex-wife-or-ex-husband-back-if/ Sat, 11 Feb 2012 14:09:15 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Diane Just Got Married!!! http://howdoigetmyexboyfriendback.org/4379/would-you-take-your-ex-wife-or-ex-husband-back-if/comment-page-1/#comment-29656 Diane Just Got Married!!! Tue, 02 Feb 2010 20:58:28 +0000 http://howdoigetmyexboyfriendback.org/4379/would-you-take-your-ex-wife-or-ex-husband-back-if/#comment-29656 This is why, in the Bible, it states that once a spouse has "laid" with another person, that spouse is now "soiled" and is "unclean", and that you are not supposed to "lay" with her ever again. Never settle and never be settled for. Just because she drove across country to be with you, with your children, does not means she loves you more than her own life. It may be that she was running from something.....bills, ex boyfriends, no life, fear....etc. If there is NO emotional connection.....which makes the sexual connection disappointing.....than do not settle because you feel obligated to her just because she "drove" across country to be with you. The two of you should be each other's best friends and have ultimate trust. And considering that she was with so many guys, regardless of the fact the two of you are divorced, that brings up the question of whether you can truly trust her and her motivation in "wanting" to be with you. Some women go from man to man in search of themselves, they usually have a low self esteem and are hoping that through sex, they can get a guy to fall in love with them......only to realize that she settled and than she goes to the next guy. It sounds like your ex has a very low self esteem and, absolutely, no self respect. Just think what your children had to endure while they watched their mother "date" several men. She provided no stability for them. How sad. Having sex with an ex is one way to determine if the relationship is over......and it sounds like it is. You can not MAKE love and forgiveness happen.....and marriage should never be a struggle....it takes work, yes.....not struggling. So, honestly, I do not believe your ex is with you because she loves you......she is with you because she needs you to provide a safe harbor for a while till she doesn't need you anymore. A person needs another person because he/she loves that person.....You are not supposed to love someone BECAUSE you need him/her........ The saying goes: "I need you because I love you....not I love you because I need you." There is a huge difference. This is why, in the Bible, it states that once a spouse has "laid" with another person, that spouse is now "soiled" and is "unclean", and that you are not supposed to "lay" with her ever again.
Never settle and never be settled for. Just because she drove across country to be with you, with your children, does not means she loves you more than her own life. It may be that she was running from something…..bills, ex boyfriends, no life, fear….etc.

If there is NO emotional connection…..which makes the sexual connection disappointing…..than do not settle because you feel obligated to her just because she "drove" across country to be with you. The two of you should be each other’s best friends and have ultimate trust. And considering that she was with so many guys, regardless of the fact the two of you are divorced, that brings up the question of whether you can truly trust her and her motivation in "wanting" to be with you.
Some women go from man to man in search of themselves, they usually have a low self esteem and are hoping that through sex, they can get a guy to fall in love with them……only to realize that she settled and than she goes to the next guy.
It sounds like your ex has a very low self esteem and, absolutely, no self respect. Just think what your children had to endure while they watched their mother "date" several men. She provided no stability for them. How sad.
Having sex with an ex is one way to determine if the relationship is over……and it sounds like it is. You can not MAKE love and forgiveness happen…..and marriage should never be a struggle….it takes work, yes…..not struggling.

So, honestly, I do not believe your ex is with you because she loves you……she is with you because she needs you to provide a safe harbor for a while till she doesn’t need you anymore.

A person needs another person because he/she loves that person…..You are not supposed to love someone BECAUSE you need him/her……..
The saying goes: "I need you because I love you….not I love you because I need you." There is a huge difference.

]]> By: Into the Mystic http://howdoigetmyexboyfriendback.org/4379/would-you-take-your-ex-wife-or-ex-husband-back-if/comment-page-1/#comment-29657 Into the Mystic Tue, 02 Feb 2010 20:58:28 +0000 http://howdoigetmyexboyfriendback.org/4379/would-you-take-your-ex-wife-or-ex-husband-back-if/#comment-29657 Yes I would. Maybe she was having sex with 20 guys to get over you? Start fresh. Let the past be in the past. She is with you. Have you tried to make the sex more then just sex? Yes I would. Maybe she was having sex with 20 guys to get over you? Start fresh. Let the past be in the past. She is with you. Have you tried to make the sex more then just sex?

]]> By: AhManDuh http://howdoigetmyexboyfriendback.org/4379/would-you-take-your-ex-wife-or-ex-husband-back-if/comment-page-1/#comment-29658 AhManDuh Tue, 02 Feb 2010 20:58:28 +0000 http://howdoigetmyexboyfriendback.org/4379/would-you-take-your-ex-wife-or-ex-husband-back-if/#comment-29658 Even though you weren't together while she was banging every guy she could I can see that its bothering you and that's no way to begin the reconciliation process. Your marriage is over, you should move on. Even though you weren’t together while she was banging every guy she could I can see that its bothering you and that’s no way to begin the reconciliation process. Your marriage is over, you should move on.

]]> By: kala♥ http://howdoigetmyexboyfriendback.org/4379/would-you-take-your-ex-wife-or-ex-husband-back-if/comment-page-1/#comment-29659 kala♥ Tue, 02 Feb 2010 20:58:28 +0000 http://howdoigetmyexboyfriendback.org/4379/would-you-take-your-ex-wife-or-ex-husband-back-if/#comment-29659 what i wanna know is when the hell did she have time to have sex with 20 guys while having your 3 kids? i mean dam she's freaking super woman. but i honestly think if you are just not happy like you were, then the best thing to do is leave her and be happy, life is short. what i wanna know is when the hell did she have time to have sex with 20 guys while having your 3 kids?

i mean dam she’s freaking super woman.

but i honestly think if you are just not happy like you were, then the best thing to do is leave her and be happy, life is short.

]]> By: Omangutang http://howdoigetmyexboyfriendback.org/4379/would-you-take-your-ex-wife-or-ex-husband-back-if/comment-page-1/#comment-29660 Omangutang Tue, 02 Feb 2010 20:58:28 +0000 http://howdoigetmyexboyfriendback.org/4379/would-you-take-your-ex-wife-or-ex-husband-back-if/#comment-29660 Think of it this way: Would you have said no to 19 other women who wanted you? Probably not so you shouldn't be upset, but if you can't get over it then screw it, it will suck for you if you can't handle it. Think of it this way: Would you have said no to 19 other women who wanted you? Probably not so you shouldn’t be upset, but if you can’t get over it then screw it, it will suck for you if you can’t handle it.

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