Saving yourself for marriage if you are nonreligious?
I have a friend who is nonreligious (but considers herself spiritual, she just does not like organized religion) and is saving herself for marriage.
She says it is because she doesn’t believe in casual sex and wants to make sure she is in a committed relationship before she has sex.
A lot of her friends think she is really religious when she says she is waiting for marriage and then she has to explain herself, which tends to annoy her after a while. What is your opinion on the subject?
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I’m an atheist and I am completely against casual sex and one night stands. To me, sex is an intimate connection between 2 people who love each other (that could be in or out of a marriage).
That’s why I’ve only had 1 sexual partner.
So I really don’t see why she would be receiving flack for not wanting to have sex. You don’t have to be religious to understand the emotional connections that come as a result of sex.
I’ve had several sexual partners and I plan on having several more before I get married. I personally think it’s fine to live your life either way. My decisions are right for me given my own life, but that doesn’t mean everyone has to live the same way. Maybe your friend would be happier not having sex until marriage. To each their own.
She shouldn’t allow herself be drawn into a conversation on the subject if explaining her position annoys her… In future she should decline to discuss the topic and change the subject…
Good for her. I don’t agree, but I honestly could not care less about other people’s sex lives.
You don’t have to be religious to be celibate. It’s a personal choice, and that’s the beauty of it. No damnation if she chooses to change her mind either.
i think saving yourself for marriage is foolish and the opposite of that is not casual sex you can be serially monogamous for a while. it helps one to know what they like and what others like in bed. you should definitely have sex with the person you plan on marrying before you marry, what if your sexually incompatible? just be safe abut it. there’s nothing wrong with consenting adult men or women enjoying sex.
I think she’s being smart. However, "saving herself for marriage" may sound too much like the fundies. Perhaps she should just say she doesn’t believe in casual sex and let it go at that. After all, there are good rational reasons: avoiding pregnancy, loathsome diseases and emotional drama among them.
i am a straight edge. this means that i don’t believe in casual sex either. i am not waiting until marriage, however. i’m just waiting for a long term relationship.
i also abstain from alcohol, illegal drugs, and tobacco.
Is she waiting for marriage specifically or any form of committed relationship?
It sounds like her "friends" are not supportive of her decision. I think that it’s great that she has self-respect to not allow casual sex. Good for her.
That is fine for her to do.
I wish I waited, at least until I met my current boyfriend (i’m not married) we’ve been together for almost 3 years and we will be getting married and I wish that we had the classic first time together, and romantic.
not rushed after school before my parents got home.