Comments on: My husband wants a divorce, is depressed and doesn’t love me…hmmm? http://howdoigetmyexboyfriendback.org/4382/my-husband-wants-a-divorce-is-depressed-and-doesnt-love-me-hmmm/ Sat, 11 Feb 2012 14:09:15 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: opetke http://howdoigetmyexboyfriendback.org/4382/my-husband-wants-a-divorce-is-depressed-and-doesnt-love-me-hmmm/comment-page-1/#comment-29709 opetke Wed, 03 Feb 2010 01:42:09 +0000 http://howdoigetmyexboyfriendback.org/4382/my-husband-wants-a-divorce-is-depressed-and-doesnt-love-me-hmmm/#comment-29709 Yes, your situation sounds recoverable. Here are some good first steps: 1. Have your husband have a second opinion. Clearly his medication is having adverse effects on his emotions. Anti-Depressants don't make you happy...they just make you numb. If numb feelings are the problem, it might be time to get different meds. 2. Remember that a) depression and b) falling in and out of love...are NORMAL!! They aren't sicknesses unless they go on for extended periods of time. So your husband may not even need medication! I'm not a doctor, but with this down economy, two wars still going on, and the TV blasting non-stop about disasters...WHO WOULDN"T BE DEPRESSED?? 3. I'm glad you've found God and are making personal changes. Kudos! One of the best ways you can improve your husband's behavior is to encourage him (not nag) to do things. Have him start working out (even just 10 push ups a night can do alot!) Have him chop fire wood, build a shed, rake the leaves, repaint a room, start a diet, etc. Have him do things that are both MANLY and SIMPLE. And follow this procedure: a) Ask him to do something very very nicely...FOR YOU! b) Encourage him while he does it (a glass of lemonade goes with any home improvement) c) When he's done...celebrate with him (preferably naked) It won't be long before he has a smile on his face. Then he can throw the meds away, square his shoulders and start making other improvements to your life and your marriage. Good Luck! Yes, your situation sounds recoverable.

Here are some good first steps:

1. Have your husband have a second opinion. Clearly his medication is having adverse effects on his emotions. Anti-Depressants don’t make you happy…they just make you numb. If numb feelings are the problem, it might be time to get different meds.

2. Remember that a) depression and b) falling in and out of love…are NORMAL!! They aren’t sicknesses unless they go on for extended periods of time. So your husband may not even need medication! I’m not a doctor, but with this down economy, two wars still going on, and the TV blasting non-stop about disasters…WHO WOULDN"T BE DEPRESSED??

3. I’m glad you’ve found God and are making personal changes. Kudos! One of the best ways you can improve your husband’s behavior is to encourage him (not nag) to do things. Have him start working out (even just 10 push ups a night can do alot!) Have him chop fire wood, build a shed, rake the leaves, repaint a room, start a diet, etc. Have him do things that are both MANLY and SIMPLE.

And follow this procedure:

a) Ask him to do something very very nicely…FOR YOU!
b) Encourage him while he does it (a glass of lemonade goes with any home improvement)
c) When he’s done…celebrate with him (preferably naked)

It won’t be long before he has a smile on his face. Then he can throw the meds away, square his shoulders and start making other improvements to your life and your marriage.

Good Luck!

]]> By: heavenlyhotchild http://howdoigetmyexboyfriendback.org/4382/my-husband-wants-a-divorce-is-depressed-and-doesnt-love-me-hmmm/comment-page-1/#comment-29710 heavenlyhotchild Wed, 03 Feb 2010 01:42:09 +0000 http://howdoigetmyexboyfriendback.org/4382/my-husband-wants-a-divorce-is-depressed-and-doesnt-love-me-hmmm/#comment-29710 it happens, people grow and fall out of love, keep ur self respect, and let him go it happens, people grow and fall out of love, keep ur self respect, and let him go

]]> By: like it like http://howdoigetmyexboyfriendback.org/4382/my-husband-wants-a-divorce-is-depressed-and-doesnt-love-me-hmmm/comment-page-1/#comment-29711 like it like Wed, 03 Feb 2010 01:42:09 +0000 http://howdoigetmyexboyfriendback.org/4382/my-husband-wants-a-divorce-is-depressed-and-doesnt-love-me-hmmm/#comment-29711 Best thing you can do is to remain friends but get a divorce. Best thing you can do is to remain friends but get a divorce.

]]> By: Mr. Taco http://howdoigetmyexboyfriendback.org/4382/my-husband-wants-a-divorce-is-depressed-and-doesnt-love-me-hmmm/comment-page-1/#comment-29712 Mr. Taco Wed, 03 Feb 2010 01:42:09 +0000 http://howdoigetmyexboyfriendback.org/4382/my-husband-wants-a-divorce-is-depressed-and-doesnt-love-me-hmmm/#comment-29712 This is a complex situation, and unfortunately there are no easy answers. The good news is that you and he have both done exactly what you should have done: got professional help. Now all you can do is wait it out and see what happens. Yes. People can fall back in love. But there is nothing you can do to force your husband to do it. The bad news, then, is that the ball is in his court. If he decides to give up, there is not much you can do about it except get a really good attorney. But if you want this to work, tell him so and be patient. Let him know you still care. Then just go with the flow and hope for the best! Good luck! This is a complex situation, and unfortunately there are no easy answers. The good news is that you and he have both done exactly what you should have done: got professional help. Now all you can do is wait it out and see what happens. Yes. People can fall back in love. But there is nothing you can do to force your husband to do it. The bad news, then, is that the ball is in his court. If he decides to give up, there is not much you can do about it except get a really good attorney. But if you want this to work, tell him so and be patient. Let him know you still care. Then just go with the flow and hope for the best!

Good luck!

]]> By: Boof http://howdoigetmyexboyfriendback.org/4382/my-husband-wants-a-divorce-is-depressed-and-doesnt-love-me-hmmm/comment-page-1/#comment-29713 Boof Wed, 03 Feb 2010 01:42:09 +0000 http://howdoigetmyexboyfriendback.org/4382/my-husband-wants-a-divorce-is-depressed-and-doesnt-love-me-hmmm/#comment-29713 ...I actually read this whole thing... Please, continue with proper Professional help...Not the loonie and unprofessional answers you're going to get on a place called "Yahoo" ! ...Oye ! …I actually read this whole thing… Please, continue with proper Professional help…Not the loonie and unprofessional answers you’re going to get on a place called "Yahoo" ! …Oye !

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