Should I go back to my ex-girlfriend?
Should I go back to my ex-girlfriend?
I dated my ex girlfriend from Feb 07 to May 08, but the reason we broke up is because her dad told her that we were done, because her step mom didn’t like me and snooped through her phone and tried to find reasons for us to break up. Her dad originally planned for us to ‘break up’ for a month, but her step mom thought I got too many chances.
Well, come to find out yesterday, her dad approved that we could be friends, although her step mom pitched a fit over it. Her real mom still cares for me and asks how I’m doing often.
I’m going home from college this weekend to be with my family and my ex told me that she’s going to a dance and the guy she would have gone with backed out at the last second. I told her, being nice, that if she didn’t find a date, that I would take her.
I’ve still got feelings for her as she has feelings for me. My family doesn’t like her parents cause they put me through hell the last two months of when we dated. My mom and brother don’t think its a good idea that I’m talking to her, let alone going to be hanging out with her.
As stated before, I have major feelings for her and I’m going to be seeing her this weekend. It seems like that her family wants to give me another chance, cause her dad and mom feel like I’m a good kid. I don’t want to get hurt again, but I want to patch things up with her step mom. I really love her to death cause she was a great girlfriend, but I really dont want to get hurt again..
So should I go back to dating her, or should I wait a while and see how things go?
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This is a tricky situation because you two sound great for each other. However, her step mom is part of her family, so you’ll probably have a hard time having a steady relationship with her around. The unwritten rule of dating is that their friends and family should approve of you before you take it further. Think about if you two got married: I am sure the step mother would be there.
However, before you get back together, I would sit down and talk to her step mom and let her know exactly how you feel. Have your girlfriend sit in with you too, so if you say you do really love her, and the girlfriend reacts positively, the step mother should see what she is creating. I don’t know your girlfriend and step mom’s relationship, either, but that could be a strong point if she didn’t approve of her dad getting with a new lady. According to what you say, she has no basis to judge you for no reason, and if she has to search so deeply, she is just trying to hate you for fun, which is just unhealthy.
But it sounds like you have a relationship worth saving, but if it is not you and your girlfriend, then make sure everybody on the outside is okay with it first. Otherwise, it will be deja vu all over again.
shes your ex for a reason………..
yes. and tell her not to let her parents control her life.
if she’s 18 marry her then they can’t do anything
How dare her stepmother search for reasons to break the two of you up??
And why does her dad need to approve for the two of you to be friends?
It sounds like the reason the two of you broke up has nothing to do with your feelings towards each other and if you both still love each other, give it a shot.
It shouldn’t be her parents decision whether you two can be happy together.
No
If you love her then you can maintain for a while I would wait until she says shes ready.
I say that you wait just to see how things will go. You care for her, and she cares for you, but when parents are mixed in there are always issues. BTW……don’t think that you will ever win over her stepmom. This lady has it out for you. I am not sure if she just wants to control the girls life, or if she really truly just feel like you are a bad guy. Talk to the mom and dad. Let them know your intentions. If the stepmom still doesn’t approve who cares. She can only make you miserable for so long, then she’ll move o to someone one else. So, talk to your girl, and take it slow. Then talk to her parents. That will get things moving in the right direction. Best of luck!!
The whole "she’s your ex for a reason" is total BS. When the reason isn’t at all related to the actual relationship but things outside the relationship, saying that is just stupid.
I would have a heart to heart talk with her and see how she feels. Maybe she cares for you enough that she will date you whether her family likes it or not. And if she won’t date you because of what 1 family member thinks, she is probably not the girl for you anyway. When you feel strongly about something, you can’t be talked out of it, by anyone.
Aww…it’s hard, but I think you should just wait a little while longer and see how things go. Her family’s starting to turn around, but what if they ultimately don’t? You don’t want to get hurt again and you don’t want to have to deal with any more of her family’s problems with you.
Although, if you and her care about each other as much as you do, I’m sure it’ll work out the way you want it in the end. Good luck.
think of it like this, its her parents not her friends. You can always avoid annoying friends but family is going to be a little harder. I say take her to the dance but only as friends do not push the envelope any further then that. Have her home at a respectable time and arrive early to talk to her parents and get any instructions. Follow their instructions and they will soon learn to trust you. Its their little girl and they may feel like she’s trying to grow up to soon.
if you are my ex then yes you certainly should
lol jkz.
see how things go is my bet
screw her step mom. she doesn’t have any reason to not like you in the first place. her dad is ok with you two being friends so be friends and if it leads to something else go for it. nobody should have say so of who, what, when, where, why, and how you date someone. it’s up to you and if your happy then they should have nothing to say
go out with her secretly
good luck