wev’e been married for 7 yrs. my wife says she wants to seperate.how do i get her to fall back in love with me?
my wife was 17 when we met,so she hasn’t been in very many relationships before me. we’ve been together for 10yrs.and have 3 kids but now she says she not in love with me anymore. she wants to see whats out there.she says she wants to date other people to see if i’m who she wants to be with.She wants to do a trial seperation, 6 months.and then she’ll decide. so how do i get my wife to fall in love with me again?
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do the same things/reasons why she fell in love with you 10 years ago, woo her as if she’s just about to know you, do something different that is not you, like being romantic, she’ll love you back.
I pray that you’ll have her love back, you are a good guy I suppose.
omg I wish there were more guys like you. You actually care. Well I would say surprise her with flowers and take her on a romantic date, something that means something to the both of you. and just talk and compliment her.
When you meet at this young age it’s very likely to think you missed something some day. I met my husband at 16 and we’ve been together until he died 14 years later. I never felt this way, but I’ve seen many people who did so maybe you should just let her ave some space, you can’t make someone love you if he doesn’t.
If you really DO want to do something you could probably save up some money and show her the world and spoil her a lot.
why dont you try to recall all the romantic/fun stuff you guys used to do at age 17. act young.. you know what i mean? buy her presents, yadayada.. do all the things that made her fall in love with you in the first place. goodluck! : )
Tell her how you feel, from the bottom of you heart. Tell her how much you love her and try to revisit the old days while telling her how much you love you. Be all mushy, I mean, tell her how she is the only woman you ever really loved and you never want to love anybody else. Try to touch her heart and remind her what made you two fall in love. Be all romantic (girls love that). Basically, talk from your heart. Tell her how you feel about separating and how you don’t want to separate.
I don’t think it would be very good for the kids if you seperate either.
Hope I helped! Good luck!
I am really sorry but I think this means she already has someone. If it doesn’t work out with him though, I am sure you will be the first person she will come crawling back to.
Hope in the six months you meet someone wonderful to share your life with.
She was very young when you guys married but you seem like a good soul, and all that said I think the best you can do is give her time to sort herself out and grow up.
I know you are hurting but please don’t sit around getting depressed, get out and about, and who knows, once she sees you with another woman that might bring her back to her senses, that’s if you ever want her back when you are happy again.
I wish you all the best.
by listening to what she is saying, its gone past he flowers stage you need to let her go if she comes back then you know you are the 1 for her. if not after 10 years!! if you havnt done it by now i dont know what you can do
Hire a PI or start snooping. All you really need to do is get rid of the other guy who has caught her eye. There are other things of course, like taking a step back and thinking about the things she has complained to you about. Write them down and notice the theme. You don’t talk enough? You don’t have wild sex? You don’t take her out? You fight about bills and money? Whatever she has said is probably a big part of the problem. The things she is saying now however are code for "I’ve met a guy and before you catch me I am going to leave you and be with him."
http://www.amazon.com/gp/search/002-9117740-0084062?url=search-alias%3Dstripbooks&field-keywords=Gary+Chapman
These books by Gary Chapman are great and while they have a Christian focus they are not off putting so even someone who is not of that faith can read the books and get a lot of good out of them without feeling they are being preached to or having a faith crammed down their throats. They really helped my marriage.
The same thing it took to get her.
I agree the Gary Chapman books are very good. Give her space, but show her you love her in many ways, that youll be there for her. Do little things, or big things, like everyone else said do things that you did when you fell in love with her. A random love note, flowers, fight for her, but at the same time give her space.
Not much you can do. All you can do at this point, is hope she can regain the feelings, that way the marriage can be strong again.
Enzyte. This should solve your problem.
Good Luck!
Unfortunatly there is not a lot you can do to make her fall inlove again, because u met at such a young age she probably feels as if she has missed out on being single and wants to know what its like again the only thing is you really shouldnt let her make this choice as she WILL come back to you but once she had slept with and dated other men because she wants a taste but also wants to know that yourll still be there when she decides shes had enough and wants to come home to the security. If i was you id make the choice for her advice her she ether decides to stay with you or sees other people but that she will not be welcome back you cant let her have her cake and eat it its not fair on you, this will not work you will feel resentful when she comes back knowing that she has slept with other men. You cant choose to leave a relationship when u feel like sleeping with someone else then come back like nothing has happend trust me on this your going to have to make her choose before this happens and either way everything happens for a reason. All the best x
I’m not sure how you get someone to fall back in love, but I do know she wouldn’t be able to have a 6 month vacations from being a wife and parent. If she can’t find better than you in 6 months, she will fall back in love with you? True love is unconditional and just doesn’t go away like that. If she decides to stay, how long will it be the next time when she needs a "break" from the responsibilities of being a wife and parent? Good Luck!!!
I’m not sure you can get her to fall back in love with you because I doubt if she has stop loving you – people don’t fall out of love overnight, but since she was only 17 when she married you – she is wondering "what if"
Give her some space, but let her understand that it will affect you emotionally as well if she becomes involved with another man intimately?
Dating and having sex are two separate choices – hanging out with the girls and exploring news ways to interests herself is a safer choice –
She has to think of her kids first – we all would like a "REDO" in life but being mature and adults some time we learn to live with our choices and accept them and love those that were there when we made them.
Give her some space – tell her you hope she makes the right decision, but you cannot make her love you MORE!
This is one locomotive you cannot stop, its coming at you full speed, just let it by. Your wife was way too young before she decided to marry you and it is very normal that she is curious about what life is all about.
At this point, again, there is no sense in trying to keep her, she is young, inexperienced and eager to walk the path of different options. There is nothing stronger than that to set a mind strong.
It is very unfortunate this had to happen but you need to be strong for your children and just be the best father you can. As for your wife, its going to take her a lot more than 6 months to realize the mistake she is making. It took me 5 years, then it was too late. Good luck
take her out like you did when you 2 first met… if you dont still have the car, borrow one from somewhere, make her feel all extra special again… dont only make her feel like a worn out housewife, and mother… make her feel like 1 HOT MAMA !!!!! show her you love her, and do not want anyone else, and the rest should work itself out…good luck…if you truly love her, do not let her go away and wreck the family…