is it wrong to still love your ex-wife whom you have a child by?
im currently going thru a divorce and have a 15 month old daughter. i still love my wife (exwife what ever you wanna call it) i dont thnk so i believe its a bond that not everybody gets to share and you should cherish that. but i dont think its a love love its just that bond kinda love? my main point is that i am seeing this other girl who doesnt admit it but obviously gets jealous whenever the subject comes up, and constantly tells me why dont i just work things out with my ex when we talk about it… any advice is welcome or help on giving advice to this girl i am seeing… she also has a child by her ex husband to if that helps out with giving advice? thanks ya’ll
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Love is something that is infinite. It should be given freely, and once given, is difficult or impossible to take away. That and once you love someone, if you really love them for who they are, you will always have feelings for them. I have feelings for a girl I fell in love with 15 years ago, just like it happened yesterday. I still love the girl I was engaged to six years ago, even though we no longer speak directly, only through friends and kinda hate each other.
Love is something that never goes away. You just eventually get over them and accept that they are not in your life anymore.
As far as dating while your in the process of getting divorced, just know that those kinds of relationships really don’t last. They are what is classically called a rebound. If you are already in love with someone and would still be willingly married to them if they weren’t forcing a divorce, you should not be attempting to have a relationship right now. I would say, use your best judgment on that, but just know that it never ends well.
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no i don’t think its wrong you were married and had a kid of course its not wrong
You are not doing this new girl any favors dating her while you are still emotionally attached to someone else.
it’s not wrong to love anyone, if you think you can make it work with your ex wife I’d say that’s the right thing to do, after all you do have a child together and if you love each other and are willing to put in the effort it may be worth saving
Her saying that is b/c she can tell you really are still in love w/ your ex.
She has probably left her love for her ex husband where it belongs, in the past.
it appears that both of you should have stayed with the other person. discuss it.
Of course it isnt wrong you have a child by this women and you been married and have committed yourself to her and for all that to go down the drain it kills me and it isnt even my life! I hate divorces and stuff like that. Maybe tell the girl your seeing that you like her alot (if you do) but that you love your ex wife and still have feelings for her but before you go about telling her all that make sure your ex feels the same way about you still. And if you two feel the same about each other go back with your ex wife and see if things can work out! And if it doesnt then it wasnt meant. But all great things should get a second chance.
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Dude all i can tell you is with who would you be happy with. And if you get divorced you will always have contact with your ex-wife and you never know what can happen. So think wisely on your decision. Also the best of luck.
People who are divorced often forget that there was a reason they got divorced. It just didn’t work out. They try to rationalize that they could have done something else which could have made the relationship work, BUT think about this for a moment:
If it were something you could ignore or have done something about, you wouldn’t have gone through all the trouble of getting a divorce in the first place!
Your ex is bad for you. Don’t ever make contact again or at the very least make no attempts to interact and make minimal contact. I’m not being a douche. I’m telling it how it is.
Of course you still have feelings for the woman with whom you created life. That is only natural, and it is commendable too. Explain to the new lady in your life that now she is the one who will come first in your life , but what came before her can never be erased .The love you feel for each lady now is different and one will not impede upon the other.If she cannot understand this, especially as she has had a child with another man, then I don’t think she is worth having a round. Good Luck .
You’re not going to be very lucky in the love life department if you’re still clinging to that "bond-love-whatever" thing. Plenty of ex’s still "love" the other…doesn’t make life any better for them either though.
Ok, well you not in love with the gf, so its time to let that one go. There is a movie "fireproof" rent it. It is okay to love your wife.
I think it’s normal to feel a bond and have respect for your ex-wife since she is the mother of your child. In fact, I think it’s healthy and can help you maintain the needed relationship with your ex for the sake of your child. I don’t think I would call it "love" though. If you are still in love with your ex-wife, then you need to work through those feelings before trying to have another relationship.
Why is the subject of your ex-wife coming up with your current girlfriend? I’m sure she expects you to have contact with your ex-wife because you have a child together, but if you are constantly talking about your ex or mentioning that you still "love" her then I can see why your girlfriend is getting jealous and upset. Wouldn’t you if she was talking that way about her ex-husband? Don’t talk about your ex with your girlfriend unless absolutely necessary.
Good luck!
Don’t confuse "love" with "responsibility."
Once you separated, your allegiance was decide for you. From now for the next 17-1/2 years, your sole concern should be for your daughter.
You gave up all rights to "love" when you created a child. When that child came into existence, you were thrust into a sacred bond. Whenever you do anything that detracts from that bond, you are shirking your responsibility.
You should avoid all romantic entanglements until your daughter is 18. But if you are weak, then at least you should make it clear that any and all life decisions put your daughter front and center and #1. If the new honey can’t deal with that then you are shirking your responsibility as a dad.
You can’t decide for the ex-wife about this. But you can decide for yourself.
What’s it to be? Your selfish desires or the entire life of your daughter?
Note: If you or your ex allow extramarital sex then your daughter will learn that she is a hanky to be used and discarded at the whim of whatever guy crosses her path. Your actions speak louder than any words.
There’s nothing wrong with caring about your child’s mother.
If the girl you’re seeing gets jealous, well, it’s only human nature to get jealous if she has feelings for you, but hopefully she’ll accept it.
1. There had to be something between you and your ex or you would never have gotten together.
2. You can love someone and accept them for their faults and still not have what it takes to make a marriage last.
3. It is best not to have an adversary relationship with your ex if kids are involved.
4. She needs to come to grips that you share a past with your ex wife. You need to let her know that you intend on moving on and your goal is to have a relationship with her. A stable relationship between you and another person would be a great example for your kid. She is your future, your ex is your past. We all have baggage.
I think the most important thing is you to be the best father to your daughter. For a daughter, father in her life plays very important role, even more important then mother. She learns what kind of man she likes to be based on her father. Her success depends on how much love she received by her father. So focus on yourself to be the man she can be proud of. It’s good that you still love your ex wife. It’s a lot better than hating each other like some other people do. Just take it slow, keep it simple.