How do I get my wife to trust me again?
I will start by saying I never had an affair. What I have been into is gambling and yes lieing to her about it. So she caught me when I was talking to my sports book and told her I wasn’t since it was around Christmas she said she didn’t want to make any decisions before the holidays but she would let me know on January 19 which is when she started school again. So around December 7 we found out our daughter was being molested by a family member and our whole world was turned upside down, and we have been devastated everytime we think about this. So January 19 comes and goes On January 22 we are dealing with this mess and she flat out tells me that if this incident would not of happened she would of asked for a divorce. Now she don’t want to do anything till we have healed. I really am done with gambling of course the football season is over but hopefully by August I won’t want to gamble. Anyway I am hopeing we can put this back together as she claims (sometimes) she stills loves me but everytime she gets mad at me she tells me she wants to leave any tips will be helpful
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No one likes being lied to. Counseling for your gambling and marriage and daughter will do you all a world of good. I divorced my husband over an affair and it’s sort of ironic how parallel our stories are. I was pissed at him and we lived apart and barely spoke after we divorced. It took a family tragedy… well our son broke his arm (nothing like what your daughter went through… i’m sorry). After tending to out child we grew close again and I wound up falling in love with the pig all over again. I learned to forgive and trust him with counseling and it took a while but I have since regained the trust in my ex-husband who is now once again my husband….. I am currently pregnant with out second child. If your wife sees you trying to change and get help the road to reconciliation has begun. You must TRY and if you still fail…. at least you gave it your absolute best shot.
Wow. First off sorry to hear about that. Don’t let her threaten you every time she gets upset. Next time she says i want to leave then tell her she knows where the door is, but word it better than that. And tell her that she can’t keep threatening you with leaving. If you want her trust back then show her you are serious about not gambling anymore.
Don’t lash out and TRY, TRY, TRY. It’s going to take patience and a lot of dedication and work on your end. SHOW her you love her and want to make it work. Talk is cheap.
Good Luck
Did you bet on the super bowl?
saying you are done with something and proving it are two different things
i hope you take care of the injured child and seek emotional support-
act like you can be trusted
Ever hear of Gamblers Anonymous? Now would be a great time for you to get into some sort of therapy for your gambling habit. Maybe you can really get control of it before gambling season gets here.
I have to tell you that security is really important to women, especially when you have kids. The idea of your risking your financial base is not just your business. On top of that, there are some bad a$$ characters involved with gambling, which also represents a threat. No matter how much she loves you, she isn’t going to stick if things get too threatening, financially or otherwise.
You have issues to work on and I hope you will not just focus on getting her to trust you. That isn’t going to happen until you get your act together. Good luck.
The football season isn’t quite over; the Super Bowl is coming up, in any case you need to go to Gamblers Anonymous meetings and show her you’re serious about quitting. If you really are serious about quitting then you won’t wait until August, that’s a cop out.
You need to show her that you are serious about getting treatment for your problem. Right now, you seem to be relying on the fact that the football season is over and "hoping" you won’t want to gamble. That’s not really a treatment plan.
There are 12-step groups for gamblers. Find one, join one, participate in the program.