Comments on: what am I going to do with my husband’s ex-wife trying to get back with him? http://howdoigetmyexboyfriendback.org/4700/what-am-i-going-to-do-with-my-husbands-ex-wife-trying-to-get-back-with-him/ Sat, 11 Feb 2012 14:09:15 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Diusgh http://howdoigetmyexboyfriendback.org/4700/what-am-i-going-to-do-with-my-husbands-ex-wife-trying-to-get-back-with-him/comment-page-1/#comment-49556 Diusgh Thu, 01 Apr 2010 00:15:46 +0000 http://howdoigetmyexboyfriendback.org/4700/what-am-i-going-to-do-with-my-husbands-ex-wife-trying-to-get-back-with-him/#comment-49556 sorry a few typos on the last one I want to make it clear that we "aren't" fighting and have a very tranquil professional relationship with one another. Further more I wish I would have read astutewomen's post first. She details out exactly what I myself think, believe and practice. Make sure that the ex-wife knows it is a unified front. I will say I admire the manipulation that females can throw out there. I constantly use my g/f as a sounding board when a comment rubs me the wrong way, ugh makes me shiver just thinking about it. sorry a few typos on the last one I want to make it clear that we “aren’t” fighting and have a very tranquil professional relationship with one another. Further more I wish I would have read astutewomen’s post first. She details out exactly what I myself think, believe and practice. Make sure that the ex-wife knows it is a unified front. I will say I admire the manipulation that females can throw out there. I constantly use my g/f as a sounding board when a comment rubs me the wrong way, ugh makes me shiver just thinking about it.

]]> By: Diusgh http://howdoigetmyexboyfriendback.org/4700/what-am-i-going-to-do-with-my-husbands-ex-wife-trying-to-get-back-with-him/comment-page-1/#comment-49521 Diusgh Wed, 31 Mar 2010 23:59:48 +0000 http://howdoigetmyexboyfriendback.org/4700/what-am-i-going-to-do-with-my-husbands-ex-wife-trying-to-get-back-with-him/#comment-49521 Tbh I am in a similar'ish situation. My ex-wife has dropped many inferences and I have told her on numerous occasions that the ship sailed a long time ago. I have talked with my g/f of two years about this and we have discussed how it would be a good idea to not do outside activities together. Frankly they aren't a family anymore and he shouldn't be doing alone time with her and the son and possibly get his hopes up that they will get back together. I don't do anything alone with my ex... ever. The most that will happen is that we talk at drop off. My daughter is 4 and I have heard the excuse well it's good for her to see us get along, which my reply is swiftly she sees us get along fine we are fighting and she has a secure relationship with both of us. I would say for your husband if he is concerned he needs to set the boundaries and not allow her to try and weasel her way back in. If he continues to go out on these things he is reinforcing her behavior. He is saying no, but his actions are saying it's okay for us to be a family again. She may just choose to follow what she perceives his actions to be. She sounds pretty shady. My best suggestion would be to look at it like a professional relationship with a client. Don't get too involved (her life's sob story) and only discuss the business at hand (the son). Hope it helps from a male perspective of a similar kind. Cheers, Diusgh Tbh I am in a similar’ish situation. My ex-wife has dropped many inferences and I have told her on numerous occasions that the ship sailed a long time ago. I have talked with my g/f of two years about this and we have discussed how it would be a good idea to not do outside activities together.

Frankly they aren’t a family anymore and he shouldn’t be doing alone time with her and the son and possibly get his hopes up that they will get back together. I don’t do anything alone with my ex… ever. The most that will happen is that we talk at drop off. My daughter is 4 and I have heard the excuse well it’s good for her to see us get along, which my reply is swiftly she sees us get along fine we are fighting and she has a secure relationship with both of us.

I would say for your husband if he is concerned he needs to set the boundaries and not allow her to try and weasel her way back in. If he continues to go out on these things he is reinforcing her behavior. He is saying no, but his actions are saying it’s okay for us to be a family again. She may just choose to follow what she perceives his actions to be. She sounds pretty shady.

My best suggestion would be to look at it like a professional relationship with a client. Don’t get too involved (her life’s sob story) and only discuss the business at hand (the son).

Hope it helps from a male perspective of a similar kind.

Cheers,
Diusgh

]]> By: CHICKA http://howdoigetmyexboyfriendback.org/4700/what-am-i-going-to-do-with-my-husbands-ex-wife-trying-to-get-back-with-him/comment-page-1/#comment-31916 CHICKA Mon, 08 Feb 2010 17:32:17 +0000 http://howdoigetmyexboyfriendback.org/4700/what-am-i-going-to-do-with-my-husbands-ex-wife-trying-to-get-back-with-him/#comment-31916 Bake him cookies and when he comes home from work greet him with a smile on your face. The fact that he tells you everything I don't think you have anything to worry about. Now if his telling you he wanted to be with her then that's different. She is controlling him by having the dinners alone and that should stop. You are his wife and that should include you too if you so choose. But they had their chance to be just his parents and both of them married other people. Bake him cookies and when he comes home from work greet him with a smile on your face. The fact that he tells you everything I don’t think you have anything to worry about. Now if his telling you he wanted to be with her then that’s different. She is controlling him by having the dinners alone and that should stop. You are his wife and that should include you too if you so choose. But they had their chance to be just his parents and both of them married other people.

]]> By: Darcy http://howdoigetmyexboyfriendback.org/4700/what-am-i-going-to-do-with-my-husbands-ex-wife-trying-to-get-back-with-him/comment-page-1/#comment-31917 Darcy Mon, 08 Feb 2010 17:32:17 +0000 http://howdoigetmyexboyfriendback.org/4700/what-am-i-going-to-do-with-my-husbands-ex-wife-trying-to-get-back-with-him/#comment-31917 Im going to sound really blunt but heres what I would do/ say. Firstly tell your husband to completely nip it in the bud, he needs to tell her straight, that it will never happen, and she needs to STOP. If he has told her no, and she continues, then she don't deserve him to be 'polite' to spare her feelings etc ....... If she does it again, then YOU should tell her to back off! I certainly would. Next time she sends boxes of cookies........send them back to her. She has no right to do this! Im going to sound really blunt but heres what I would do/ say.

Firstly tell your husband to completely nip it in the bud, he needs to tell her straight, that it will never happen, and she needs to STOP. If he has told her no, and she continues, then she don’t deserve him to be ‘polite’ to spare her feelings etc …….

If she does it again, then YOU should tell her to back off! I certainly would.

Next time she sends boxes of cookies……..send them back to her.

She has no right to do this!

]]> By: J K (Semper Fi) Beer is good!!! http://howdoigetmyexboyfriendback.org/4700/what-am-i-going-to-do-with-my-husbands-ex-wife-trying-to-get-back-with-him/comment-page-1/#comment-31918 J K (Semper Fi) Beer is good!!! Mon, 08 Feb 2010 17:32:17 +0000 http://howdoigetmyexboyfriendback.org/4700/what-am-i-going-to-do-with-my-husbands-ex-wife-trying-to-get-back-with-him/#comment-31918 She don't want him to have anymore kids, that way she can make sure he don't with you, she wants " instead of 'Many', maybe she just misses him in her bed, who knows when it comes to dealing with exes now a days? She don’t want him to have anymore kids, that way she can make sure he don’t with you, she wants " instead of ‘Many’, maybe she just misses him in her bed, who knows when it comes to dealing with exes now a days?

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