My husband “fell out of love” How can I get him back in love with me?
My husband and I have been having maritial problems lately and a few weeks ago it got so serious that he decided he wanted a divorce. To make a long story short he recently has noticed a change in me and can’t decide if he wants to stay or go. I am trying so hard to work on myself and show the love that he deserves. He lost trust in me over the past year or so because he feels like I wasn’t giving him the love he needs and thus he fell out of love with me. I know it is possible to fall in love again with the same person but I need some ideas that I can use to get the spark back. He is a very negative person in general and says that he expects negative things to happen so I know it is going to be really hard to help him feel in love with me again. He also says that he doesn’t know how long I can keep it up… What are some more things I can do or say to help reignite the flame? We are still intimate.. but he has trouble kissing me on the lips or recieving kisses from me.
Sorry to be so vauge I just know people don’t like to read and read and read, anyway what I mean by changed is that I am being more loving, kind, friendly, considerate, and I have been doing a lot of reading about love and what it is. I am young so I thought that love never went away… he is not cheating I am almost possitive about that so anyone with good advice?
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***I’m so sorry. I wish I could reach through and give you a hug. I totally understand this feeling, but it is possible to heal your relationship and make things work again. I’m glad you haven’t given up hope yet. There is always HOPE!
Okay– if your husband seems bored with the relationship, it’s time to kick it up a notch and bring some spice back into the relationship. I know this seems kind of hokey and may even feel awkward initially, but it works. Think back to the way things were when you were first together. Think about your intimate life and how it has changed. Are things too scheduled and routine now? Is sex the same time after time? Maybe this is a great place to start–by thinking of ways to make things unpredictable in the bedroom.
Or perhaps you just aren’t connecting emotionally. Do you sort of live separate lives and have different hobbies? If so, work hard to find things he enjoys that you can enjoy with him. For example, if he is obsessed with sports and you have always found them boring, you may have to spend some time learning about his favorite sports and players. It may not be your favorite thing, but by making the effort to meet him where his interests lie, you are showing that you really care about him.
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he is cheating on you !
What the hell have you done?
How can you be so vague and expect to get any meaningful answers? He "noticed a change in you"? What the hell does that mean… what changed? Geeze…
Ask him if his optical nerve is connected to his anus because he has such a shitty outlook on life that it’s hard to break through that barrier. Let him own his own crap.
I would be doing a little snooping to see who he’s got on the side. it sounds like there is an affair brewing to me.
I don’t think that you can fall "out of love" with anyone. When you meet someone, you find that you have things in common, you begin to feel strongly about that person, and you may even want to marry. In the courting ritual, you find that you make compromises, some good, some bad, because you perceive that this individual is everything you are ever going to need. Down the road, you realize that you (or he) may have compromised a little too much. Do you want to live a life where you aren’t true to yourself?