How do I get into the good graces of my boyfriends Mother and family?
I am in a position where I am the new girl in my mans life. However, his family has not recovered from his break up with his ex who is practically part of the family. Because of this they automatically refuse to get to know me or like me. I am angry because I am a beautiful woman with a lot of good qualities but they refuse to even acknowledge me when I say something simple like "HI" To make matters worse my boyfriend is in his late 30′s and I am in my early 20′s. I really care about him, and when I met him that is all that I saw; not his age or situation. I just feel that I am being judged. How do I make this situation better? My boyfriend says that we should not care about what his family thinks its about our relationship not theirs, but a family can make or break a relationship. The thing that really sucks is that I really love his family. It’s big, everyone is close; full of love and tons of kids, but I am on the outside looking in…..Help!!!
Another point is that my boyfriend and his ex are close because they are parents together. My boyfriend makes the situation worse sometimes because while he has never formally introduced me or told his folks about me it was a pop up situation so they really don’t know too much about me, but he is really close with his mom, so if we have a disagreemet….he tells her everything. So she might be hip to only the negative aspects of the relationship opposed to the good things about me and us as a couple.
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Time has a way of taking care of things. You might be looked at right now a road block in him and his ex getting back together.
Hang in there, with all the kids and love in the family, it will not take long for their wall to come down. Kids are a good starting point, they are honest and can’t help being trusting and open.
\They will love you !
ummm do everything that you can to make them like you. they just want him to be with his ex. and he is right it is your guys relationship not there.
Just continue to be yourself and love and support your boyfriend. Sooner or later they will have to face the fact that you are the new girl and they have to get over it. If not screw them!
He’s right. Don’t care about what they think of you. He picked you they didn’t. Just focus on your relationship. If you worry too much about that then you might just push him away, then they end up right…
Do you talk with his ex? Maybe you could get a relationship going with her–I don’t mean a romantic one just a friendship one–that way the family will see that the two of you get along so maybe you’re alright and that it was in the best interest that your boyfriend is no longer involved with her. Just a thought.
give it time when they see your good to him they will change thier mind if not then chances the are upset with him because he rushed into a relationship and with someone younger then him and they are taking it out on you so just ignore it and just keep enduring what they throw at you. and just keep loving him.
Though it is not good to judge many people are quick to do it.First and foremost always respect a mans family because to love him is to love everything about him,good and bad!didn’t give up just be patient and if you are a good genuine person eventually they’ ll have no choice but to see the good in you
I WAS JUST ONE OF THOSE FAMILY MEMBERS—-I GAVE MY SISTER’S NEW BOYFRIEND ( NOW HUSBAND) A HARD TIME BECAUSE I LOVE MY SISTER’S FIRST HUSBAND (NOW X-HUSBAND). WHEN THEY BROKE UP-IT FELT LIKE MY SISTER WAS MURDERING A BROTHER TO ME AND MY PARENTS. WE WERE IN SO MUCH PAIN (MY SISTER CHEATED ON HER NOW X-HUSBAND) AND DIDN’T TALK TO HER FOR 8 MONTHS.
THINGS ARE BETTER NOW AND I AM GETTING TO KNOW HER NEW HUSBAND BUT VOW NOT TO GET THAT CLOSE JUST INCASE SHE DECIDES TO GET RID OF THIS ONE.