Want my husband back. Please help, how can a relationship blossom again? How can u make it work again?
Hi I am 24, my dilemma is that I married too young I was 20, he was 26.We have a 3year old. I decided to separate this year in Feb. 07 because I wanted to date other people, go out, live the single life I never had a chance to live. The issue is that now I am feeling really lonely, I’ve realized that a single life is hard, especially at night and weekends when u r alone & need a loving person beside you. I know he is/was completely heartbroken, I called last night and told him that I wanted my family back, he said we’d talk about it some other time. He was a SUPER GREAT husband, father, friend & all I wanted was to b single. I know that he was really in love w me and what I did broke his heart in a terrible way. How can I prove to him that I have changed, that I want my family back, that I want him, how can you prove that to someone you let down, someone who gave you everything & u broke his heart. How can you start over in a relationship, it’s been 6 months since we separated. Help!!!
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Your delimma wasn’t that you married to young. It was that you weren’t ready to get married and when you did, you decided you liked the single life better. Are you sure you changed, or are you just feeling lonely? There is a difference. Just make sure you are sincere. You are dealing with a man who has been very hurt through this. Just make sure of what you are doing.
Give him time
if he was that much in love he will go back to you.just start dating!invite him on dates!get someone to baby sit and make a nice sexy dinner for him.
Firstly you need to be honest with yourself before making any further decisions…
Then you should talk with him and tell him how you feel and the reason you took some time off and how you plan to make things better….
you were selfish and you deeply hurt your husband. if he can forgive you truly, it’s going to take time and a lot of work. the act of you leaving will always be in the back of his heart and mind, that will take a lot of time, love, strength, rebuilding of trust ,etc to heal from.
regardless of whatever faith you may or may not have, pray. prayer works…blessings to you and your fam
Don’t try! Even if comes back – the connection won’t be there! Soon he will leave you – just bacuse he won’t trust you any more!
A lot of girls leave, because they wanted to "live"! This is so stuped!
show him what he saw from you before, and go straith forward, let him feel again your love, everybody deserve a second chance,
appologise to him with your folt and fall down his leg
Leave the poor guy alone, you have already destroyed a part of his being. I doubt that you would not do it again at some point so it would be best for him to have it happen once by you and life shattering for it to happen twice at the hands of the same person.
You were selfish and are now paying the price. If he is good to himself and his mental state, he will steer clear of you.
You haven’t changed, just your situation has, and I’m sure thats what he’s hearing as well. You can expect someone just to pick up where YOU left off. YOU decided to leave , now YOU want him to take you back, because you found out the grass is indeed not greener on the other side. Have you apologized and told him how good he was to you, not only did you affect him, you also affected your child that you have with him. I think you owe some people an apology, and then you need to start working on yourself, 6 months is not enough time for you to have left started dating and changed all together. YOU need to send roses, YOU need to start doing all the sweet and kind things he use to do for you, and they need to be done for him, then maybe he will reconsider. Self reflection will also help, then maybe the TWO of you can begin to heal, and start to work on rebuilding the relationship you once had.
What I find missing in your post is you saying that you love this man. If you don’t, let him be free to find someone who can give him the love he deserves. If you do love him, take baby steps and reconnect and rebuild slowly. It takes quite a while to trust again once you’ve been hurt so deeply.
Well you really got yourself in hot water didn’t you? Guess the grass wasn’t so green on the other side.
The first thing I would do is take it slow….. He said you two could talk about it. I think one of the issues you’ll be facing is that the reason you want to come back is because you got lonely. If I were him, I’d wonder what would happen when you weren’t lonely anymore… would you want to be single again?
I think the key here is a low and slow approach. First, stop dating anyone else. You have to PROVE you’re serious and believe you made a mistake. That’ll take time and allot of effort on your part.
You need to understand that by telling him you wanted to be single and date others is a DIRECT rejection of him as a husband and man. Those words say, "I don’t care about you, you aren’t enough, I made a mistake by marrying you, and I don’t want you anymore". Kind of hard to overcome.
I wouldn’t go overboard with the whole thing, just be steady and consistent in my actions. Make plans together, keep those plans and show up on time, and rebuild a BETTER relationship than you had with him before. Don’t be angry if he doesn’t trust you, you deserve that. Be patient and SHOW him your intentions.
Above all else….make sure you know what you’re doing this time…..don’t break this poor guys heart again.
One last thing….be prepared for the "you made your mess, now lay in it" attitude. If I were your husband, you wouldn’t stand a chance. Sorry, everyone makes mistakes, but some just rock you to your core. For me, this would be one of them.
Good luck to you, I hope you find your happiness.
Before you do this you should take a long hard look at your reasons for doing so. Factor in the possibility that he won’t be quite so forgiving and this could create more issues than you had before. Sit down with him and be as honest with each other as you can. Ask yourself where you see yourselt in 10 years and see if both of you share the same vision of the future. If you left so you could date other people he may not be so receptive to your coming back .Lonliness isn’t the proper reason to go back. You may have hurt him far too much.