I took my girlfriend for granted and she left me, how can I get her back?
I took my girlfriend for granted and she left me. Can anyone please give me some decent advice on how I can get her back? Long story short, I ignored the signs that my girlfriend was starving for attention, I really didn’t know it until it was too late, now I see what I was doing and I feel terrible.
She really doesn’t even know how much I loved her because I never really expressed it, saying “I love you” just isn’t enough sometimes… She left me and said she needed space, I know the real reason, but she never explained it. I tried to talk it out but she didnt want to hear it, wouldn’t return my call and was actually kind of nasty. She said she would return my stuff on my porch in 3 days and its been nearly 12 days. Since she still has my things, is that a good sign? Just so you know, me and that girl got along amazingly, we rarely fought, and had a great sex life…
Should I call or text her, or should I wait it out and hope she contacts me first? Is there a way I can show her I love her, but not look too desperate to get her back? I have already purchased “the magic of making up” and “the ex2 system”, I am just looking for advice on my particular situation.
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I think you should initiate the conversation-it’ll show how much you love her. If she doesn’t answer, leave her a message telling her how you feel about her and you’re sorry and such. you two really need to talk face to face so that it’s more meaningful and you can let her know how you’ll change so that she won’t feel unwanted or whatever
You could always leave her roses on her porch or something sweet with a letter saying this stuff or why you love her
Anyways, good luck
I’m going threw the exect same situation with my girlfriend together for 2 years and i thort she would never break up with me so i took her for granted didn’t show her enouph attention and she broke it off last weekend over nothing really.
But i really did love her and i coyuldn’t believe she broke it off she also is being quite nasty about the whole thing like she just doesn’t care at all its hard to deal with. I also purchased the ex2 system i reckon the best approach to the situation is just dont initiate contact.
I’ve had break ups before where i’ve been dumped and i didn’t contact her and she contacted me after about a week! we didn’t get bak together but when i moved on and found myself a new girlfriend the ex kept ringin me to catch up!
The best way to get em bak is to move on and enjoy life with out them as hard as it may be, and most of the time they’l be interested again! talkin it out or sayin i love you hasn’t worked at all for me so far.
All the best my friend
This is the first site I’ve come across that actually has everything in common that mine did. I’m very much still in love with my ex, but I too took my loved one for granted and we have a child together. I knew how much we loved each other and I got too comfortable in the relationship and just started being an ass to her and walking all over her.
I loved her very much and I had a hard time trying to show her when I wasn’t being mean. She tried very hard, but I was ignorant to it. She asked for a two week break then a week for my birthday for us to get together and try after that time away. Five days into the break she broke it off and in a really mean and cruel way and she said all kinds of hateful things. She’s out of state and I’ve sent her messages, called her, sent her hand written letters with pictures of us three as a family, and, well.. nothing but cold in return.
She changes her mind daily about getting back together and whether or not we do have a future. It hurts pretty damn bad. I’ve only made it one day without crying in almost 3 weeks of her being gone, and that was yesterday when I almost had a complete meltdown. Unlike you all.. I can’t play the “get on with your life” and no contact thing. I have to call her or see her weekly to monthly for our son. I never meant to take them for granted I just put all my effort into the wrong areas and I got too ok with fighting and arguing about the stupidest things.
She told me that over the period of 6 months to a year that she had been losing feelings for me, and when I try to explain that it’s because I was an idiot and I realize that now she gets defensive and now she’s on to dating other guys. It sucks badly. I would die for that girl in a heart beat. I wish us men could just tell a woman how he felt and she’d listen.. unfortunately not.
It’s not my fault though that she didn’t give it another chance which is what I’m coming to realize. I have to own up to what I did and make those changes before she’ll even look this way again. And, well, it sucks that she may not come back ever again and even if she does she may have been with another man (sexually) before so. It is very much because we’re very young people, but that’s what we loved about each other to begin with.. our immaturity and ability to not feel pressured to grow up. We were perfect in a very unperfect way.
I’ve learned my lesson and hopefully other men out there can learn from our mistakes. This isn’t an easy one to overcome and possibly not overcomeable at all.. Please fellas.. if you love her.. take the extra time to show it and not just say it.. spend that extra moment playing monopoly or cuddling in bed with her.. it’s those moments that mean the most in the end.. not where you live or what you eat or watch on tv.. or even so much what you say..
I gotta stop.. I’m already in tears again.. Good luck fellas.. If you miss your girls even half as much as I miss mine.. I know you’re in a world of hurt. Everyday it’ll get easier. You have to focus on things that you can change and maybe then she’ll notice that confidence and that change in personality.. I know a man in tears isn’t the best one to say this.. and I should take my own advice..
but CHIN UP.. prepare for the worst and anticipate her next chess move and play it from there.. afterall.. the ball’s in her court now.. just hope she misses you as much as you miss her..
i lone girl.
I have a similar situation. I was with my gf for two years we woulld fight here and there but would alwyas get over it. She went away to school for a year and every weekend i would drive 3hrs to see here. if i wasnt there for the weekend she would come home to see me. I lived at my own apartment so when she moved home she basically lived with me. Everything way great i thought. I took her for grant it though i was mean to her as well. I didnt mean to be, i really love her. Now its to late my “best friend” then told her i cheated on here when i NEVER did and it sucks. She told me today that she is dating him and she hates me and we will never be back together. ITs so hard for me, i have lost 30 pounds and havent slept in my bed sinc this has happend going on (13weeks) I feel so wrong sleeping in my bed, i tried going out on a date since she i think is seeing this kid, instead i cried to this girl about how much i love my girlfriend. I would do ANYTHING in the world to have er back in my arms. to show her i didnt cheat on her and how much i care about her. I wish she gave me a second chance and didnt just give up on us and all she says is.. we will never work.. however before this we always said to eachother always together forever and always we will get though anything not matter what.. clearly not now she isnt giving me the time of day. I hope she isnt with him (sexually) already. I miss her and icry basically everyday about her. I dont really no what to do.. she tells me she moved on and is happy now, is that the truth? How do you move on that fast aftr two years!?!?!?hell we even talked about getting married and starting a family one day.. i am stuggling with this really bad anyone have any suggestions…
Hello
I\’m a girl whose boyfriend is currently taking her for granted and I\’m really hurt. I only fully realized it last night when I simply wanted to spend about 10mins sitting on the couch with him to chat, my idea of winding down after a big kitchen clean-up. He said \"I want my newspaper\", and, gutted, I said ok and reached to give it to him, and he then realized that I was sad and acted like he\’d changed his mind and said \"No, I want you instead!\" Then he spent a minute or two talking about himself, after having whined about having to help me with some housework. Then he seemed to get bored suddenly and suggested watching TV and I was surprised and told him I didn\’t really want to (as if it wasn\’t already obvious that I wanted to spend a little time with just him). Then he got bored and decided to go to bed. That\’s when I realized that I was the one putting in 100% effort to keep the love flowing and that he was just sitting back and letting it come to him. I got really down but went to bed anyways. Before we went to sleep he asked me what was wrong, then actually identified the problem himself and I said \"Yes, all of that\" and then all he did was say \"Don\’t worry, we\’ll always be together.\" And off he went to sleep.
Today I didn\’t talk to him very much, wasn\’t nasty or giving silent treatment, more that I\’ve just run out of things to say to him. I don\’t know what more to do. All I\’m doing lately is talking to him about problems and he\’s doing nothing about any of them in spite of promising to fix it. I went to town by myself to get some shopping and I\’ve not received so much as a text to ask what\’s wrong. He must already know but, again, be refusing to fix it. I\’ve gone from subtle hints at desire for us-time to extremely obvious ones like grabbing the remote and switching that TV off and sitting down beside him… And that didn\’t seem to work any more, so I started saying directly \"I want to talk to my lovely boyfriend\" and similarly fool-proof statements, but still it doesn\’t work. When it comes to anything physically or emotionally intimate, I\’m always the one to get the ball rolling. What do I have to do to get him to act like my boyfriend and not like I\’m just a handy side-kick? Why didn\’t you guys do anything to keep your girlfriends, and what do I have to do to stop him from taking me for granted? Why is he even with me if he doesn\’t want to make it work???
Hey well I just think that is really sad what is going on with you! Kind of sounds like how I was, well now I’m alone and want her back in my life! There is one thing that could have helped… Sit down with him and tell him how you feel, every word to the most detailed! And let him know that this is not a joke, and that it’s as serious that it can lead to a break up… If he still does not get the hint or does not change at all. Try leaving him for a week and see how he feels about it. If still continues then girl sorry to say but his love for you might be lost! I feel relieved telling you this, it helped me. Hopefully you guys can make it right again… Good Luck!
Maybe you guys can help meee! I’m really in need me and mi x girl are separated we were together for 8 years have abeutifull daughter together who Is 5.. We see each other and I get the hint sometimes that she cares fore me, for example last time it was raining and she called work to ask if I wanted a ride home. And she did come pick me up and everything we had some food coffe and she took me home because she had to work. She has guy frends and she has actually told me that she likes one of them… Which finished riping my heart in half! But yet we still go out she looks for me and it’s relly hard not to see each other… I have laid my cards in front of her and told her that I wanted to get back with her but she does not care much…she says she wants to go out and be single, but that I could be her best frend! I dont know how to be a frend to her, since we were together for so long I just want to hold her in my arms love her kiss her and tell her how much I’m really sorry for everything I did and never let her go! Even when we were not together we used to be intimate but now things have changed! The thought of her giving her body to some one else makes my heart cry….:’-( and breakes me down! What do I do when I don’t even haver her number, she always calls me private and well she has my cell! I miss her so much… Everything about her the routine life we used to live when we lived together, how she sneezes a lot..ect! Makes me cry just writing this, what do I do? I would marry her now if she would let me… I feel that the more time we have apart more and more I will fade away from her heart! And some one else will take over completely, I don’t want to loose her she means the world to me! I just need one more try, I would spend this life and the next making her the happiest women in the world! If she would only let me…. Every one tells me to let her go and avoid her, but really they cannot feel what my heart is feeling. Please God help me out with her,That is all I ask….
I feel I am being taken for granted in my relationship. I do so much for my boyfriend. I buy him nice alcohol, cook us dinner, I even GOT HIM A JOB at my work just two weeks ago. Anyways, I went on vacation with my best friend from kindergarten and was going to be gone for a week. The night before I left, we made plans to hang out. We did, but with his guy friends also over to drink, and the only time my boyfriend paid attention to me was at night, for sex. I took him out to breakfast the next morning and eventually left town with my friend.
I just got back tonight, and haven’t seen my boyfriend in a while and was very excited to tell him about the trip. When I called him, he told me he didn’t really feel like hanging out; he’s going to watch a movie at his house instead. I snapped unfortunately and told him I was done making all the effort. He desperately tried to call and has been constantly apologizing and that he will make it up. But this is recurring. I told him he can do all the texting/calling/planning, because I was done. How do I make it clear I want it to stop?
I’m a girl. I know my fiance misses me a lot and I miss him too. He took me forgranted a lot of times and i have not been happy the last few months. We tried to work it out but I can’t feel if he really loves me or not. But I’m done with him. I finally have the courage to move on even if I love him so much. Oh well. Life.
i’m a girl and my boyfriend has started taking me for granted. I’m planning to break it off. But guys, i would really expect him to call me and return back to what he really was before. Maybe your girl wants the same. Initiate the talk and ACTUALLY mean your sorry.
I too am in this same situation. I was with my fiancée for 5 years, engaged for 1. I took her for granted and now she is gone. I know she loves me but does not want to continue the same cycle of her taking me back, it being good for a few months then take her for granted again. Not that I take her for granted but I get to comfortable and relaxed and forget to keep the spark going. Any advice on how to win her back? This is the first full separation.
She says this is best for us and that she truly believes if we are meant to be together we will reunite one day. I can not bear to think of her with someone else. I never helped with the planning of the wedding tithe point that she stopped planning also. Any one have any advice on how to make her see I will not continue this cycle? Any girls out there with any advice? And the girls that are being taken for granted. Give him a scare and leave him for a few weeks.
Trust me he will come back begging. Don’t give up on him just yet. Sometimes we need a good scare to realize our mistakes. I would treat her like a queen if she was to return to me.