How would you react if your ex-wife divorced her new husband?
I divorced my ex-wife about 8 years ago. To make a long story short, she left me 6 months after she graduated from nursing school, 3 months into my return to school to get my degree, had an affair at work, got pregnant by him and eventually married him to year later.
To make matter worse, we have two kids which we both care for dearly and have worked well enough together for them. Still…. she is a "typical" ex-wife that people complain about. I have my kids 3 days and she has them 4. I was really bitter for awhile as I put her through school and she dumped me after I returned (7 year marriage).
My kids are now 12&14.
Her new husband (married 6.5 years) was thrown out. The kids told me it was because of excessive drinking and not making enough (saving enough money). I kinda empathise for the guy. He just finished trucking school this year past year. She is really tough on people, and pretty self centered IMO. My first reaction internally was maybe she drove him to drink (lol) although I would never mention that to my kids. It really is too much of my business though my kids are involved. This has been building for a while now and it doesn’t shock me.
I made sure my kids new that I supported them through this and that they could always fall back on me if they needed. I would love to have the kids all week, but it wouldn’t be fair to the ex (not that she would do the same as she always tries to wittle away at my time with them). I imagine her life is going to upheave as she is one of those that lives paycheck to paycheck with bad credit making 70K per year by herself.
I personally save and have very good credit (make about 55 per year without a degree – had to drop out to support my kids – 750/month CS plus extras).
I must admit that a small, very small part of me had the though of reuniting after all these years. She was very emotionally abusive, but I am sure I still have some feelings for her.
he has two more kids with her. apparrently his parents were abusive drunks which I guess would explain the alcohol.
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You must have serious feelings for her still if she gets under your skin after being divorced for 8 years.
Divorce sucks, but if my ex divorced his new wife for whatever reason I’d think, "Gee that’s too bad" and move on. I’m not with him anymore, so what business is it of mine?
why would u ??
past is the past amigo for a reason don’t go to the dark force good jedi lol haha
I would say shes on a roll…..joking aside I think you will always have feelings for her she is the mother of your children but don’t get the mixed up with love or maybe its pity. You know in your heart if you are in love with her but there are more things to think about the other children and her bad credit and her actions and no matter what her ex will also always be in her life so you have to weigh all those things pros and cons and see whats best for YOU and your kids good luck!
I’d bet that you probably think so little of yourself that you’d let her use you again. Of course you’ll tell yourself that you’re helping the kids.
Listen, if you were the kind of guy who had a great lifestyle that included tons of attractive women, then you wouldn’t give a rat’s @ss about what was going on with her.
You guys are killing me tonight with your ex’s.
Think about it. Do you really want to go there? You’re doing fine without her. If you are really concerned about the kids, keep your life simple. Allow them a place to go to that’s safe and calm.