How Do I Get My Husband To Fall In Love Again?
i know what i need to do per his advice (not wear slutty clothes, not be jealous of other women, enjoy sex, all the sh8t)….but what else do i truly need to do to get this guy to fall head over heels in love with me again. weve been married 2 1/2 years, have a 2 year old daughter, weve had a rough past and he doesnt want to work on his end of things, but im trying to work on mine…he doesnt find me attractive, doesnt want to do things with me like spend time with me, he ignores me most of the time unless we need to discuss groceries or something. when he talks its usually a note about a tv show or music and i dont feel like its meant for me, i feel like he is just saying it to say it so sometimes i dont respond.
what as a wife can i say or do, or not do to get through this. i want him madly in love with me again, and im terrified that even if i do the things he asks, he wont be.
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Unfortunately, no one o Y A can give you the answer you are looking for, because it depends on why he originally fell in love with you.
You know him better than anyone else, or at least you should, so just try to think about how you and how your circumstances have changed from his point of view.
Other than that, all you can do is to try to talk to him about how you are feeling and how much you miss the way things used to be. Ask him what he wants and needs from you, beyond what you have listed in your question, and try to provide it.
Also,make sure that he knows that you love him, but, at the same time, try to give him some space and some time alone to process things.
You also might try to arrange a date night between the two of you every week or two. That can work wonders for reigniting the spark and the passion.
Good luck, and kudos for wanting to improve your marriage instead of contemplating divorce. It takes courage and strength to fight for what you believe in.
well it won’t work if only you wants it to work, sorry only 2 1/2 yrs and you have this problem already? just move on you can’t make anyone do or fall in love, he either does or doesn’t, and it seems he doesn’t sorry good luck.
I hear this from women all the time. Take the focus off HIM and what he might like or not like about you!!!
Focus on yourself and do things for your own pleasure. And by that I mean long-term pleasure. Get yourself hobbies as far as possible, get in shape, and cultivate healthy friendships. Those things all give you long-term, long-lasting pleasure that he can later partake in.
u can’t make a person fall in love withu again either it is there or not. u pretty much answered your own question…
You both have to want to make this marriage work. Try Marriage counseling. Sometimes that works. But it really takes both of you to make a marriage work.
That’s a tough one. Sounds like he may already be gone and if that’s the case why do you settle for this kind of behavior? I understand you have a child but that environment can’t be good for her, and it will get nothing but worse. Can you both go and see a counselor? If he won’t agree with that, I’m sorry to say it may be time to move ahead.
I think (without knowing you at all or what you look like) is to get a makeover – go to the gym, hair done, new clothes, new image, new interests outside the house. He takes you entirely for granted at the moment and that is the major worry. You have a small child so you will have to work with difficulty around being a mom but I think that he’s started to see you as a mother not a lover. He is absolutely treating you like he is taking you hugely for granted.
You need to improve your self esteem and feeling of pride in who you are. Perhaps ask him to look after the little one while you have time out of the house without him, to see friends or go to an evening class. Do anything but be captive in the house. A little bit of mystique will go a long way, and being a mother I’m afraid we all lose our mystique.
I’m interested in the fact he doesn’t seem to think that he has to make any effort – well if you improve your side of things as above, you will be seen to be very attractive and hey he will have to wake up his own ideas for you!
umm wow this is a tough one,but whats this about not be jealous of other woman? is he having a affair? got female friends? and about not not not ? uhh seems like he is having second thoughts about you since he won’t work on his flaws ,just plain out say what happened to us why are you being this way with me? go to marriage counseling if he wont work with you you should not be walking on egg shells he is your husband but you dont explain enough what problems you guys had maybe that could help me figure out what the real problem is this is sad to be married to a man like that ,im sorry give me more details if not just ask him what went wrong ,still no word file for divorce get custody of you kid sounds like he has another woman in mind …..think about it
How do you get your husband to fall in love again? After reading what you wrote, I suggest you introduce him to some nice young lady so he can fall in love again.
Where theres a will theres a way. You want to make it work, so good on you. You should be proud of yourself for that. Dont listen to those people on here who are saying give up. Never give up!
You are married, so you have to make it work somehow. He sounds like he is just bored, or in some kind of routine. He cant be happy.Also he’s taken you for granted, and this can easyly happen.
You care for and love him. So do something different, change the pace.
I would suggest you go out. Have a group of mates, and go out now and then without him. Tell him you are going out with the girls or whatever.
Also take up a hobbie, to get your mind healthy. So you focus on growing within yourself, and its not all about him and you not getting on. There us more to marriage than the ‘honeymoon’ phase. (thats the lovy dovy kissing and hugging 24/7)
You are now over that, so now the teamwork begins. This is what they mean by you have to work to keep your marriage. We all go through it.
Also find something you both enjoy doing together.
Tell him if he wants this marriage to work, he better put forth his 100% percent and show it or else you’re leaving him for good.