Would you consider remarrying your ex-husband under these circumstances?
We were just generally not getting along because of separate things in each other’s lives going on and we were taking things out on each other. I got frustrated and very quickly got divorced. We have one son.
Now I can’t stop thinking about it and despite the divorce, he has never stopped trying to be with me and we love to give my son a sibling.
Everyone will think we are crazy, but two people should do the best thing for each other. We are not rushing, just dating to see of things will work back out. (we have not even slept together!) We just talk things out in ways we never did before.
Share your thoughts and advice please.
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DEFINATELY give the dating PLENTY of time… things may seem great in the beginning but there is a reason you split up. If you can work things out then great! if not don’t keep getting back together and then breaking up because that causes more hard times for the babies…good luck
Give the dating some more time and see what happens.
Do it. Not like do it like the horizontal tango but do it as in get married again . Then do it. You now do it. Like the horizontal Tango.
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It would be good for your son if you can get back together. It sounds to me if you rushed into the divorce. Just be sure this time – you don’t want your boy growing up in a home where fighting is considered the norm.
Hi. Though the statistics don’t look good regarding the results of taking back an ex (the issues from the past tend to creep back in after the glow of arousal pipes down), in your case, it sounds like it could be promising. The one condition, that may make or break this, is communication (your original issue). Pre-marital counseling, to re-visit, and explore what blocked you both in the first place, is the only way to give this reunion the best chances of success. Have either of you changed? Are you willing to learn new ways of dealing with stress? Best of luck!
look many people get divorced and regret it but are too dang stubborn to admit they made a huge mistake. Not getting alond isn’t reason for a divorce…it is reason for some counceling though. I think if you take it slow and get some counceling together to see where you clash and how to handle those situations then you may be very happy being back together.
Divorce is painful for the children, we as adults always look at what we want and forget the children.
My X is now wanting to date a year after she left. The grass was not greener on the other side of the fence. Issues will always be a part of a marriage, we all see things through different glass’s. Get a good book, see a counselor and make sure you could make it this time. I will date, but it will take a lot of time before we would make that step.
Thanks,
Rick
If you and this man still love one another, you certainly should remarry. Doesn’t matter what other people think. It’s up to the two you. Sometimes married couples make the mistake of breaking up, instead of working on the marriage. You don’t jump out of a marriage, simply because you’ve gotten frustrated. You have to be patient enough to work things out. Neither do you allow outside interferences or "separate things in each other’s lives" to jeopardize your relationship. You have to be wiser than that. The doors of communication must stay open in a marriage. You have to be willing to talk things out, openly and honestly, as you are doing now. Best wishes!
I think you should keep dating and get some counseling at the same time.
really work on your communication skills together.
if this is working out and you still love each other than I think getting re-married would be a good thing.
It would be good for your son as long as you don’t keep breaking up.
Best wishes to both of you!!!
Don’t worry so much about what others think do whats best for your son and yourself~~
I don’t know how long you have been divorced but it sounds like both of you grew up a little, realizing that marriage is not a game, so if you date and both of you feel that it can work then why not. But then you have to stick it out as it won’t be nice for your son to have divorced parent marry and divorce again as that will have a negative impact on him so be sure before you take that BIG step again. Good luck
Take your time and make sure it is what you want. I personally think if you can find your way back to eachother, you deserve a second chance at happiness. And yes, it is good for your baby.
You are both realizing that you are in LOVE and that’s great! You probably got a divorce too soon, but regardless you should never stop your feelings for each other. Love is a natural feeling. Divorce is just a bunch of paperwork.
Taking it slow and just dating is also a very intelligent way to go.
The fact that you have a son together, makes it even more important to heal the wound. If you as parents could both raise your son in the same household that will make such a difference, because divorce really hurts children, very much.
What your doing is very uncommon, but it is wonderful. Keep up the good work. Good Luck
Restoring your family can be done and has been done many times, even after a divorce. You just need to be sure that you can answer some very basic questions first. Can the both of you sit down and talk about what caused the divorce before and solve those problems. Either one or both of you felt they were bad enough to end your marriage and you both need to be sure that they are corrected or manageable. One of the biggest mistakes re-married couples make is forgetting why they got divorced, get back together and quickly re-discover that nothing has changed. Don’t make that mistake. Second, can each of you forgive (and I mean like nothing bad ever happened) the other about the divorce. It will not be a new marriage, no matter how bad you may want to start over, you have a history together and a child. Lastly, make sure if you get back together, it is for the right reasons. Good luck, I wish you two the best.
Carry on dating and talking, make sure the hurt of the past has been forgiven (truly forgiven) and see how it goes, who really cares if anyone thinks you are mad, it is your life and you have to do what makes you happy