Please tell me if overdosing is a sure quick and painless way to kill yourself?
I’m a 26 year old woman and recently found out my husband is in love with another woman after months of suspicion, had it confirmed a week ago when I heard him talking to her on phone. He left me after telling me he no longer loved me, hasn’t done for months and wasn’t interested in saving our marriage. He has been ignoring me since he left, wont answer my calls etc.I dont know where he is or what he’s thinking.
He has loved and adored me and vice versa for 5 years and I never ever doubted his love for me. This is the most earth shattering thing that has ever happened and I cannot survive it. I cannot exist without him loving me.
Totally devastated and suffering fits of crying, panic attacks and torturing myself by reminiscing, looking at wedding photos etc. I just need him so much and he’s gone. Its like a nightmare I can’t wake up from.
I haven’t slept properly since it happened, keep falling asleep for about 30 minutes at a time, then waking up and crying, falling asleep again etc.
The mornings are the absolute worst worst. I seem to feel calmer in the evenings, then once I wake up it starts all over.
I have decided to end my life as I cannot carry on existing like this anymore, and I know for certain the future will never get better. I am an emotional person and I will carry this with me forever, time will NOT heal me despite what people say, so i don’t want to live a painful life. I would rather just fall asleep and never wake up then deal with this agony every day.
What I want to know is this; is overdosing the best way? It may seem like a strange question but I don’t want to do it and then wake up brain damaged in hospital etc…I will make sure I take PLENTY of pills, enough to kill me but is it guaranteed?
I will write letters to my loved ones, and will ensure that they don’t find me dead in my bed. I will put a piece of paper on my front door saying don’t go upstairs, call 999 instead so they don’t have the shock of finding me.
It may be incredibly selfish of me but I honestly cannot go on. I just can’t.
Please don’t anyone try to talk me out of this I have made up my mind. I want the pain to end and this is the only way.
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First, it is obvious that you really love your husband very very much with all your heart and soul. Every man would love to have such a loving wife like you. But the way your husband left you is most selfish and heartless and unbecoming of a husband. Sorry for being honest, but I can feel my anger rising at the thought of his selfish and heartless action. I feel he did not and does not deserve to have such a loving person as you for his wife. I say it is good riddance, and you will be better off without him.
I understand the emotional turmoil that is engulfing you at this moment. Yes, after putting all your love, heart and soul into this marriage and have it being terminated in such cruel manner, no one can blame you for wanting to end it all and get out of this ‘evil world’. At the moment this feeling of despair, betrayal, sadness and the unbearable mental pain is too much to bear.
However, by overdosing yourself is not a surefire way to end this excruciating pain. It most probably won’t kill you but may render you in physical pain and damaged organs and would add more suffering to you.
I had gone through an attempted suicide by severe overdosing but I ended up in Intensive Care as a result of it. It is really not a pleasant thing to go through. That, I can assure you.
I highly recommend you to consult a psychologist or a psychiatrist who can better help you to overcome this emotional turmoil. You will be surprised that expert medical help can do wonders. With the right treatment, you will be relieved off this emotional torture and feel your normal loving self again. The world needs you back to your normal loving self again. Please give yourself another chance to live a wonderful life in time to come. You are only 26, you have many many bright years of life in front of you.
Your question has generated so much responses. So many people do care for you. If you don’t want to seek medical help for yourself, would you do it for all of us who posted a reply to you. PLEASE???
We do care,
Depwill
Don’t overdose, it’s slow and painful and is no guarantee.
I have been where you are. No, I have been far far lower, many many times over and I made it through. I’m 45 and when I look back on all the times I wanted to kill myself over this and that, I have to laugh and say "what was I thinking?".
In your case, your husband never was who you thought he was and killing yourself over one idiot is the best way to let him punish you even worse for something that is not your fault. Turn your depression into anger and take a higher course of action. You’ll look back and say the same thing I always say… "what was I thinking?". Time heals all wounds, I don’t care WHO you are, and life goes on to get better when the initial shock is over, and that is sooner than you can imagine. I guarantee it.
You need to go talk to someone and tell them how you feel. A friend or any adult you think will understand. There are support groups for people who are going through the same thing you are and who feel just like you do.
No it’s not. You will convulse and shake until it stops your heart. Bleeding would be better.
it is not guaranteed. People have survived the gun in the mouth trick, jumping from tall buildings, overdoses. Others have died in an inch of water. Good Luck.
Please talk to someone about this – suicide is not the answer. If you think you have no choice then think how you will affect the people you will leave behind – how will they feel? Just talk to your doctor about this – they can help you, it will get better i promise. Overdosing is not a good idea – the chances are that you will not kill yourself and will, as you fear, just wake up in hospital. Please talk to your doctor.
no, hardly surefire. You may not take enough. You may take so many that you become nauseous and vomit them, thereby not taking enough.
You may just wake up after a day or two, lying in a mess.
After you wake up you may find you had a stroke or some other kind of neurological impairment.
Too risky.
it’s one of the worse ways to die
There is no "sure and quick" way to commit suicide. Even a shotgun blast in the mouth won’t always work. And when that fails, you’re left disfigured for the rest of your life. Trust me, nothing is so bad that you have to end it all. Think about the loved ones you’ll leave behind. Don’t you think they want you around? You called them loved ones. Personally, I believe if you go through with this, you’re being selfish.
Look,
I can not blame you for choosing to end your life, it is your choice and nobody else’s. But honestly, your husband is not good enough for you. He has left you, you deserve better, you deserve happiness, please try to go on, it might get easier.
No. If you don’t take the right dose (too little or too much) it will make you really sick, and could be painful. You do realize that he is not the man you believed him to be. Somewhere out there might be a man as good as you thought he was. If you really want a kind, loyal, loving, caring companion- get a dog. You think you have it bad! My dog died and I really have nothing left to live for.
You’re being childish. It’s harsh but a true reality. People have this sort of thing all of the time and don’t kill themselves over it. Killing yourself is the easy way out. It takes time and work to solve a problem. Strong healthy people work through their problems, they don’t cop out on life because something awful happened to them.
There is no pleasant or easy way to kill yourself. Besides, you’re only letting your husband win if you do that. Show him you can be happy without him. There was life before him and there will be life after.
Don’t pretend like your family won’t be devastated as long as they don’t see you dead. They’ll still see it at your funeral. They’ll still care and be hurting deeply for years to come. You want them to feel what you feel now?
I would suggest you see a therapist. Someone who can help you work through your issues and make you feel better about the situation. He can help you work through your feelings of sadness. He’ll help you understand that it’s okay to feel what you feel but that you’re strong enough to move past it.
Good luck. I’m sure you’re stronger than you give yourself credit for. Do the right thing. Get help.
Overdosing is never guaranteed and you would most likley just get very sick. Just think of the pain and anguish you will cause your friends and family, please go and see your doctor as soon as possible, they han help you feel better.
takes too long and is quite painfu i have heard. why dont you just call the samaritans instead? they might help you see the situation from a different light
posting this on here is asking for trouble though, someone may come across this that has had a family member or friend go through this, or has been through it themselves, its quite selfish asking innocent people on here to help end your life and to not consider their feelings. you may get some sympathy but dont be surprised if you get some abuse too. you should be talking this through with friends or family not posting it on the internet.
anyway, no pills is not a good way. they will make you vomit, they will make your insides bleed and rupture. they work diferently in people, they can make you slowly bleed to death and you would be in a lot of pain.
go and see someone, go to a doctor, a counseller, get therapy.
its very raw for you right now, you may never get over it, but it will get better, you’re not even trying.
you think leaving a note saying do not go upstairs will stop loved ones going anyway?? no, they would rush up to help and find you, probably leaving them in such a state they will want to kill themselves too!
if you have loved ones like you say they do, invite them round, gorge in a tub of ice cream or your fav chocolates and tell them to bring lots of tissues, then sit up all night if you have to, cry to them, talk about it, about how desperate you feel, youve obviously got depression, but people get out of depression when they own up to the fact they need help. if your stronger than that you should try, killing yourself is the easy way out. i’m sure your friends and family woud rather you went to them than go through this alone.
You need to go to your local hospital and tell them this right away. You need serious help. Do you think being this way will bring him back? You cannot force someone to love you and if he has fallen in love with someone else,it just has to be. You dont seriously want to be with someone who doesnt want you back? Do not kill yourself. Make him pay by moving on and having a good life because you will get over it. I am an extremely emotional person too and i honestly know exactly how you feel. My current boyfriend,i am so deeply in love with him and if anything happened again with us,as it has done before id certainly feel the way you do but you can get over it. Ps by telling us all that you are doing it is a cry for help. You wont kill yourself,so dont try kid yourself. The ones that do it,do it. My uncle killed himself and noone even knew he was thinking that way. Go to hospital,they will help you. Ps do not even think of taking an overdose,as it is a painful way to go. You dont just fall asleep and never wake up. Trust me. You die a slow painful death,as your organs shut down,your bowel goes impacted and you are in agony. So get a grip of yourself and get down to a and e.
Darling i feel for you i really do, i am 23 and i tried suicide for years ever since i was 13, last year had to be the worst when i had a miscarriage it sent me into a black hole, a hole i thought i could never pull through, and i thought time would not heal, but then just a month later i was pregnant with my son and 8 months later i gave birth, so you see just because this b****** has taken off with some tart doesn’t mean to say you have to throw your life away, there will be more men and you are still young, it sounds like getting married at the age of 18 was too early, yes i understand you love him but is he really worth you ending your life? Yes it is selfish of you because you cannot let one man ruin your life, you have other people who care deeply about you, and so you need to think of them. I am not going to help you end your life, you are a 26 year old woman with your whole life ahead of you.
Try going to your GP and asking for help, he/she can put you in touch with people who can help and you may want to try anti-depressants, okay so it’s not a permanent fix but it will help you through the worst at least.
I only hope you reconsider your decision to end your life because you could get a bloke sometime in the near future and then you will be laughing at him, get a divorce and tell him to stick it where the sun don’t shine,because honey, he is not worth it if he can’t see what he has thrown away then more fool him. I wish you happiness and may you find peace with it. Good luck with everything sweetie x
No man is worth killing yourself over. You are very young. Lots of life ahead of you. Please talk with a trusted friend about your depression and heartbreak.
also, there is no shame in seeking counseling.
No don’t even think about doing that. Is he worth it??? …………..No I don’t think so. Best is to go to the nearest sporting shop and buy a boxing bag. If you feel like smashing his head against the wall, take your anger out on the boxing bag. I’m a male of 34 years old and live in Namibia. Believe me; men can be like that without blinking an eye sometimes. You must feel better about yourself and don’t be sad, but get that aggressive attitude in you and fight. And don’t say but it doesn’t help because he won’t come back. Fight for something worth fighting for, not somebody who can’t make his mind up. He thinks that life is like a roller coaster, and he can have as many women as he like. Two of my sisters are divorced and then re marriage again. Both very happy. I wouldn’t try an overdose. You never know which organ is going to fail first. Remember there’s no going back. Somewhere is people going to blame themselves and they are going to feel guilty, and it’s not going to be your ex – husband. You must talk to somebody. But please don’t do that. Take care, and remember one thing, you’ve only got one life and it’s not worth loosing over a husband that can’t appreciate You. There’s many “fish in the sea”.
Please reconsider
Take care
It is agonising when a person suddenly breaks off a relationship, i know, i’ve been there. It takes over all your thoughts and you live life purposelessly. You agonise every moment of every day and you try to fight it but you can’t. If your mind does wander away from the hurt, it’s temporary because something always comes along and makes you think of it again. You won’t get over it, and you don’t want to get over it. You don’t want to think that you can start again with someone else and you perish the thought.
The problem is there are no sure ways of killing yourself. An overdose is sure to bring you worse problems than you already have.
I remember many years ago when i went through this i thought the pain would never end. I knew i couldn’t love anyone like i loved my ex, and i didn’t want to. The break up devastated me, but the bottom line is you cannot kill yourself. You don’t want to be told that time is a great healer because you don’t ever want that time to come, and you don’t want to listen to reason, not even the same advice you would give someone else.
What i can tell you is this..You need to get a grip, you’re worth much more than suicide, much much more. I’m trying to find a publication for you, it’s free but it’s going to take me a while, it’s on my pc somewhere but i’m going to have to search. It’s all about getting your husband back and it’s really, really, good.
Here’s one i found after a quick search, i just browsed t quickly and it may be of help to you, but it’s not a patch on the one i’m trying to find for you. This is also free: http://getyourloverback.com/get-your-ex-…
And i’ll post back as soon as i find the other one.
Your story really hit my heart. I cannot say that I feel the same way, because I’m not you, and I am not in the same situation as you are. But, however, I can tell you that I can feel some of the things that you are going through. I honestly do.
I know you said you do not want anyone to talk you out of this, but before you down a bottle of pills, and end your life, please read what I have to say. Please, please read this because I’m writing you this from my heart.
First off, let me just tell you that I’m fifteen. I’ll be turning sixteen in three months. And as i said before, i know some of the things you are feeling right now. Angry, and upset, and hopeless, and useless, and at fault for everything, looking at pictures, trying to piece together what you did wrong, wishful hoping that suddenly turns to pessimism, crying spells that make your eyes red and puffy and swollen till the point that they hurt, having a panic attack and not feeling like you can breathe, and above all, just … so far gone that you can’t even imagine tomorrow because you don’t even want to make it through today. Am I right? I understand what it’s like to feel that way.
Back … over a year ago I got into a fight with a boyfriend who was cheating on me, and long story short, he committed suicide, and left a long letter for me explaining that it was all my fault. After I found out, I was so …. just …. gone. I didn’t want to be here anymore at all. The events just unfolded, I lost him, then two other friends to a car accident and another suicide, then I lost a family member. I blamed myself every single day for what happened to each of them – though it was never my fault for any one of the things that had happened. I got really sick. I developed a sleeping disorder, two eating disorders, panic and anxiety attacks, phobias, and an extreme guilt that kept me up at night. I got into a lot of drugs. And I even starting injuring myself. I had been injuring myself from the time I was 11, but the circumstances I was in made the injuries worse and worse and worse.
And finally, one day near my birthday, I decided that I didn’t want to do it anymore. I decided that a life without him was not a life I wanted to live. And I swallowed bottles and bottles of pills. The sensation of clumps of pills going down my throat was bitter-sweet, but I did it. I was sure that it would kill me. I was absolutely positive. And I was absolutely sure it would be quick and painless. I thought I would just go to sleep and never wake up. But within a short time after taking them, I got sick. Threw up, started convulsing, shaking, My throat felt like it was closing up, and my eyes felt like they were going to pop. And I thought to myself, this is my punishment, and now I"m going to die painfully just like I was scared of.
And when I woke up, I was in the hospital, bright white walls, and the faces of all my disappointed family members. They didn’t hug me. They didn’t tell me that they loved me. They looked at me with disgust and told me I was stupid, and that they would never forgive me for what I did. And they haven’t.
I had to talk to people about what I did for months, and I was watched like a hawk. I had no privacy at all. And it wasn’t worth it at that point. It really wasn’t.
Since then, I have had more suicide attempts. I have slit my wrists, and I have tried to hang myself. I had tried to overdose on pills again, and i have had a drug overdose. All were unsuccessful, and left me with more physical and mental problems – whether it be the scars on my wrists, or the damage inside my body.
I can honestly say that I have been through a lot even though I am only fifteen. And I know my story is not like yours, and that you may feel set on escaping, but please know that whatever is running through your head right now will only be temporary.
Suicide really is a permanent solution to a temporary problem. And I know you feel like your world is over, but please trust me, suicide is not right for you. You seem like such a warm and caring person, and whether you see it or not, there is a bright future for you. It may be without him, but you can’t think about that now.
What’s done is done. He can’t change the fact that he cheated on you, but this might not be the end for you two. There is counseling, and forgiveness. If you don’t want to take him back that’s fine too.
But think …. please, please, please think. There ARE other people in this world who care about you. Family? Friends?
This isn’t the end if you change what you are about to do. If you put those pills down, its only the beginning.
I want so bad for you to change your mind. I don’t even know you and I am in tears right now. I know you can find your way, I know you can. This was never your fault, its not your fault now, and it will never be your fault.
Please, take into consideration what I have said. I want my advice to help you. There’s a new path that you’re gonna have to take, and you’ll
I’m not going to waste my time trying to talk you out of it,kinda stuoid to do that when you asked us here not to,right?But what I will do is tell you what happened to me(and I’m still here…YAH!!!!
) Anyways,I was married for 16 years,had 2 beautiful daughter’s.My husband at the time was dabbling into drugs(he did from the start of our relationship)but it got sooo much worse as time went by.Anyways,he and his friend decided to try making "meth" in OUR home in the basement.I didn’t know of course,until around 12am I was just getting ready for bed.I heard a very loud BOOM!!! from downstairs.I just thought to myself (for a moment) ooh,Eric(my husband) must have dropped the A/C he was working on for his friend he was with that night.So,I thought anyways,so I then decided to go to the basement door and just see what happened.All I seen was red flames,and smoke everywhere(just in like 30 seconds)I was freaking out,thought I was in dream or something.Anyways I got our girls and my dog out of the house,I called 911 told the 911 operator that my house just "blew up".Then I went around the side of the house to check on my husband and his friend.My husband was outside the basement door,his friend was caught in the flames behind the basement door.I screamed for my husband to "get him out…get him out" I ran back to check on our girls(they were like 13 and 14 at that time)they were exactly where I left them.I had NO freaking idea what the hell happened.So,I ran out back of the house again to see what was going on,and my husband was totally burned and his friend ran right back INTO the damn flames again(I could not believe it)My husband ran in again and this time he could not get his friend out.So,I ran back out front of the house,I seen his friend just come running from the side/back of the house he was totally naked,and I seen skin falling from his body(like candle wax falling from a candle)his boots were even burn off,my husband was also burned.So,after my husband was in the ICU and his friend was flown to a PA burn center,he died 12 hours later,my husband was arressted and served 6 months(lucky him) and I lost my home all of my dead grandmother’s antiques she left me.And,I made it I am still here and I have since remarried and our 2 daughters are fine.My ex-husband is better than ever(last I heard).So,see…..it all seems to come together some how.But,you are not even going to give it a chance to happen for you.So,that’s my sad story and I would have traded you places any day dear…..So,end your pain take the easy way out burn in HELL and suffer your soul forever!!! That sounds like a great plan you have…and your actually asking if pills will kill you?If pills are a good way to kill yourself?I have a question for you….how the hell should we know this answer?We are all alive…..so we have NO freaking idea.I don’t think you should even bother with the letters dear,waste of time.These people will keep these letters…and it will only bring pain for them.I suggest no letters to anyone….I am now going over your question again,just to make sure I don’t miss anything.I personally would NOT take a bunch of pills,I have tried this 3 times before(suicide taking many pills) and it made me hellish sick for days……terrible too…..You also said you just learned of this affair(but you had suspicions prior) so,just 1 week and your ready to give up?Your only 26…wow!!! sooo sad too, now you will a statistic!!!! Well,that’s my story of hell I made it through(Thank GOD).Some have the strength…some don’t…sorry for your life dear…:(
it is not quick.. its slow and painfull. u dont just close your eyes and die peacefully..
I want to do everything in my power to convince you not to take that final, drastic step. With Christ there is always hope.
God loves you; He loves you so much that Jesus Christ was willing to die on the cross for your salvation. And others care about you, as well (even if you have a hard time believing it).
Commit your life to Christ, and then seek His wisdom on where you should go from there.
David
believer_in_jesus37421@yahoo.com
Your a beautiful women, and someone out there will love you for who you are and not cheat on you..dont let that perverted husband of yours win,, because that is what will happen if you kill yourself.
sorry but I don;t give in to quitters, because you quit on your self, you quit on your kids and parents and all the other loved ones that cared about you you are very selfish, do you think that you are the only person in the world that has gone through this come on get real. you are you, and what happens after you commit suicide, is that god puts you right back here on earth to learn the same lessons you gave up on, but only in a much harder place to learn them, get up and get your life back in order
i understand that you’re upset. and if you dont want to live that way then u can get happy pills and you’ll feel better. u can live back with your parents or a best friend. guys are pigs. all of them lie and eventually cheat you out in some way. in reality u dont want to have your loved ones find u. and you know that. you even said it. before resorting to death, which i’ve considered, you should try anything. it doesnt seem like you’ve had enough time to consider things. i’ll be here for you. i may not have a life experience such as yours.. but i understand. i mutalate my body, but i would never let my loved ones see my pain. that is so distructing though. i know its wrong and i really do love my life. but things set me off and i get over them and soon regret what i’ve done to myself. and trust me, its not the only way. i’ve had a really good friend kill herself.. and i hate her for it.. i loved her so much.. but what she did was completely selfish, she could have asked for help. i wouldnt have judged her. and pills might heal your pain but wont heal your soul.you need to forgive him, and most importantly forgive yourself. i know it takes time to forget but i know u can do it. i’ve done it.
I wish you wouldnt. if you cannot move on now in life, how will you move on in the afterlife when you take it? you dont want to be stuck in depression and denial for eternity, that is hell that wont end, the same hell that you are trying to end now. you cant escape it, you have to deal with it.
that truely is the bottom line, you can end your sorrow for a second, but what happens after that? in the forever? do you really want to know? do you really want to go there? you should think really hard about where you might end up.
forever.
your love and what you had was indeed cherished, but this person for whatever reason love is not true to you. he is off living his life doing what he pleases, not caring about the pain youre in……why suffer the rest of your life or go to hell for a person that doesnt care? it isnt worth it. you are worth much more. and deserve more. the truth is it will take time. it always does. its up to you, to feel that you deserve better..and move on.
A girl I knew in school could not cope with her parents divorce, and she took an OD – her liver and kidneys failed, she still has stomach ulcers but that’s about it, now she needs transplants as well…..
Another guy I knew, he also took an OD, and hes now in a permanently vegetative state. Is that how you want to wind up?
Don’t put your loved ones through that. : (
With their support you can still move on.
You’re still young. You have much much more to live for than one guy.
"He’ll never take something away from you without giving you something better."
And that’s the truth.
Don’t give up now-that would be giving in to your ‘husband’.
Instead, move on. Show your happiness and beauty.
If anything-that’s good revenge.
I hope you realize you are not alone. People go through the same situation everyday, including sensitive people, because God knows I’m sensitive. It’s hard, trust me, I know. Sometimes I’m scared of flunking out of college because it’s so hard to concentrate and do my work when I can’t stop thinking about it.
I’m sorry you have to go through this. I know it’s hard to listen to anyone’s advice when you’re having suicidal thoughts. Can’t you at least hang in there for a little while? You might change a year from now and decide that you actually want to live life.
I’ll add you to my prayers if you don’t mind.
Hi I agree with everyone here sucide not the answer I was the other woman we were madly in love as two people could be both decided to leave our spouses and make a go of it. Impossible for us to spend another minute apart we were so intertwined people told us all the time how cute we were and they could see the love we shared. I was cautious knew only 5% of affairs resulted in anything \\"real\\" and if kids were involved our chances were slimmer. Well after 1 1/2 weeks in our small 900 square foot apartment we both started missing our 3000 square foot houses and our daily routines we complained about constantly. He made the first move to get his wife back and she of course agreed he was and is very charming. I tried to go back to my old life and it was a no go with my hubby he said I was dead to him. Well I happened to be alone at the time my charming beau was off winning his wife back. I texted him to see if he was coming back to our apartment after his lunch and he said yes. Well I was numb rejected by two men I felt like you he told me for three days how great she was and me not what he thought. After two years… I took everything I could put my hands on I was numb and couldnt think anymore. Never have done anything like that or thought like that ever. I fell asleep on the bathroom floor next thing I knew I was in ICU and not quite all there. He found me not breathing brought me back to life is what he said and call ambulance. That was a Friday he was all cozy back at home with the wife completly moved out before I was even aware what happened. Alone in my 900 square foot box I know now it was so stupid of me to take those pills because really he was not worth my life. So many new doors have been open to me I am learning who I am and feel so glad I did not die over it. I have a new job I love and life is good now. It has been one month since the old me died and I really started living again. My divorce will be final in September and I am okay with the thought of being alone at 36 for the first time ever in my life. Your husband made mistakes not you please do not punish yourself. Please LIVE it is the best piece of advice I can give you. The feeling the hopelessness WILL pass TRUST me. Been there done that hang on for yourself. Talk to friends, volunteer somewhere, change your routines but do NOT sit around the house thinking all you lost it will put your mind in a very negative place. Live Live Live for you