How do I get him to stop being so selfish? How do I bring back the spark we had?
Me and this guy were together 2 years ago. We had to end it because my parents had issues with him and I was unable to communicate with him anymore. (He kept begging me to stay, cried and everything) The last year was very tough, for both of us…and I finally initiated contact with him 8 months ago. He seemed really happy that I was "back"…3 months ago I asked the dreaded question of if he had any feelings left for me…he flat out rejected me…and said that he wasn’t as capable as he was 2 years ago…that he couldn’t promise to love me…that he "lost" himself…that since me, he hadn’t liked anyone…
So…3 months after, (now) me and him still talk, several times a week, usually an hour or more at a time…we’re so much closer…but one thing’s different…he’s being so damn selfish and whiny! He’s always feeling sorry for himself…if he messages me on msn for example he expects me to be there and give him all the attention but if I start the conversation, it doesnt matter if he doesnt reply for 5 minutes at a time…or if he’s "busy" although his status is online…He does pretty much whatever he wants…and I can understand that hes not the same guy that I fell in love with 2 years ago….how should I deal with this? Ignore him? Stay by his side and support him no matter what the outcome is? Forget him? lol…to be perfectly honest I don’t know what my question really is…
I guess I mean to ask…how do I bring back the spark we two had?
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Everyone changes and grows up, he’s not going to be the guy that you loved 2 years ago because in fact he has changed. You can try to tell him what he is doing wrong. But it might not bring back what you guy once had. Your best bet is to move on and just forget him. Try to find someone you have a connection with and isn’t whiny and selfish. Because those are horrible qualities in a person….i’m sorry.
sometimes u have to accept when its over maybe u should take a break talk to him and if u get nowhere then u should try and move on, and if hes just acting like an idiot to mess u about then myb he will realise that u not gonna wait for ever, talk to him once more and youll know what itll mean
Girl, from what i read here, you should not continue with him..
I had a smiliar experience with a guy whose characteristics were similar to ur incident, and he broke my heart.
i gave him three time chances, imagine when he scerwed up again, i told myself i will not be let down by him like this again.
so the best way is to cut communication with him,
and i had released him from my life.
ur guy sounds like a heartbreaker, i hope u r being careful, dont follow lust like i did. BAD MISTAKE!
Two years is a long time. You may never get that spark back, It sound like to me he changed as we all do and it almost sounds like he is just stringing you along as some kind of punishment or revenge for what happened before. He was honest and said he couldn’t love you I say move on so you can find real love that is going to be patient and kind and NOT SELFISH~ Good Luck to you!
look at it this way from his point of view he had this wonderful relationship that was perfect to him and then all of a sudden bam you rip his heart out and stop on it. yeap sounds kinda harsh but thats pretty much what happened i mean you have to give the guy time if you truly want to stay w/ him because other wise it isnt smart to stay by his side giving him false hope again i mean in his head that what if she leaves again question is always on the back of his mind if you truly want him in your life go for it try as hard as you can to keep him but if you feel like its not worth it to you then just drift away that way you both save your selves alot of trouble in the end.
It’s only natural that the spark in the beginning fades. Try re-meeting him