Will I ever love my gf?
She’s the mother of my daughter (who I love beyond belief), the only girl who has loved me after I gained a little weight, she finishes my sentences, she got some inheritance and paid off my credit cards with it, she is always telling me she loves me, but for some reason I always feel like something is missing. We get along great but it’s always in the back of my head….
We’re supposed to get married soon but I dunno if I’m really in love cuz I’m always checking out other girls and recently my ex has been talking to me and she told me she always thought we would end up getting married. She was my first love and talking to her brings up so many old feelings but I cant stop talking to her cuz it makes me feel good knowing that she might want me back.
I’ve never really known if I love my gf although I’ve always told her that I do, I just get along with her so great but I can never tell if its love or just a great relationship. I actually cried when I had a dream that she died, but at the same time why cant I stop looking at other girls??? And why is my ex trying to get back in my life???
I think she’s just a sociopath trying to see if she can still get me cuz she used to lie to me all the time and always got with other guys while saying I was her priority. We would always fight about her seeing other guys and I would tell her off and she would cry and say I hurt her so much and what not but I thought obviously she must not care THAT much since she would continue to do it but then again she was my first love and I cant seem to get over it… I dunno what to do should i stay with the girl who truly loves me or go for the one that might but would make me happy? Knowing that going for her would make me lose the one that loves me? Please help
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Your getting married. I believe its a self-conscious thing you have going. Its all in your head man, you love her, you just dont know it. When guys are about to get married something snaps in their head. Do I still got it? Do girls still think im hot? Guys just like to know that they can be available without being available. Your with the women of your child, you two share something a lot of people dont. Why are you talking to your ex? Ya, she makes you feel good, and ya it makes you happy thinking she wants to be with you again. But think about it, was your relationship with her as great as what you have now? Its obvious shes your EX. Over, and done with. You have to open your heart, you have to allow yourself to try and feel love. Your being closed minded. Your thinking in your head you cant love her, Im always looking at other girls and im talking to my ex. Its all in your head. She makes you happy doesnt she? You two have a child? Spend a day together, just the 3 of you. Go on a road trip, just hold your gfs hand, and kiss her on the cheek, allow yourself to fall for her. Stop thinking you cant love her. So what if you check out girls? Your a guy. Its nature, afraidly admitting. Stop talking to your ex, and get over yourself. You know you love your gf, let yourself love her.
I’ll love her if you can’t. Hell, I’d like some debt paid off, and a woman to love me when I’m quaffing down the brownies.
Not as long as I’M loving her!
Not if she is black.
Don’t make it about leaving one woman for another. Make this issue about. "Do I love the person I’m going to be marrying soon?" Regardless of the green grass on the other side.
Maybe you are not a monogamous person, and wired to be poly =)
It’s a hard one. Perhaps you should speak to your lady about this. There are all those other things that go into a relationship especially with a child in the picture. Perhaps you can still remain partners, but not really jump on the marriage boat at this moment, since you are unsure.
well you made it pretty clear your ex-girlfriend could never really make you happy. i think you should either break up with your girlfriend (who sounds great btw) and NOT go for your ex, or marry your girlfriend and be grateful you have someone who loves you so much.
not care? are you blind?? she cried when you yelled at her..if she did not care…she wouldnt of cried
if you have to ask, then…. no… or you could always just give it some time… waste your time, her time, and get her hopes up, then decide you dont love her… thats what i did… not worth it…
Well, first of all, your ex seems like a really bad person. If she always got with other guys and lied to you, your good feelings about her shouldn’t be there. She obviously didn’t do you any good and you weren’t happy with her.
Second, if you really aren’t feeling like you belong with your current girlfriend, think about your priorities. She treats you really well and she has taken care of you. Also, she has your only daughter. This could be just a scare before you get married. You could be getting cold feet and looking for other options. I know what you mean by not being sure, even though you have the best person ever. It’s the same with my boyfriend and I.
Whatever you decide to do, DO NOT go back to your ex. Your daughter doesn’t need someone like that around her. Make sure that if you don’t stay with your girlfriend, that you find someone good for both you and your daughter.
your ex is triflin. she is your EX for a reason. you might always have feelings for her, but the girl your about to marry is the girl that your supposed to marry. forget that girl, you love your girlfriend, thats why your engaged, you might be just scared of the commitment..
you really know youre in love when you can watch her find someone better and no matter how much you want her, you can honestly say youre happy for her.
would you let her be happy with someone else? or would you do everything in your power to stop it?
I think you should stay with the your gf but possibly not get married, just tell her that your not ready for that level of commitment. tell your gf about all of your doubts, shell be alot more greatful if you talk it through with her rather than coming to her own conclusions on why your so distant. I think that if you got together with this ex that claims to love you that shell end up hurting you and youll look back at what you had and regret giving it up.
hope this helps
IMO…love is not a spark, love is created by loving yourself first. People can believe they love you when you do not love yourself, but they are usually enamored by the position you hold in their life.
The daughter of your child believes she loves you because you are probably a strong individual in her eyes and the father of her child. She will do things for you because she believes that the two of you will be happy and raise a fine family.
Your ex wants to be married in general and/or misses you.
The real issue is you. You do not love yourself and therefore you are searching for something to allow you to love yourself. You look at other women because men in today’s society are conquest oriented and you are looking for another conquest.
Learn to love who you are, your faults and your strengths. Learn that you were placed on this Earth to bring happiness and joy to the world and you will realize that you will love the world and this world will love you. Only then can you choose the right path for you.
Good luck