Was your ex-spouse concerned about how you were doing in the weeks after the divorce?
When my ex-wife stopped by to pick me up today for our road trip with the kids to Central Florida to see her weird extended family (I have to go to protect the kids from those people), she of course invited herself in and decided to give her usual opinions about my small cottage. "You know, we could have lived in this cottage just fine after the kids were born," Claire said. "Just your bedrooom needs to be expanded a bit, and the garage could be converted into your art studio."
"The light’s no good on that side of the property," I said.
"Well, a new studio could be built, too," she said. "Altogether, I bet the additions to your property would come in under 0,000."
"I don’t have that," I said.
Then she said something and quickly stopped herself, "The foundation of this house is good. The minor details just need some work. If we ever get back together, I could just sell my house, and we could live here. …"
Then she blushed and turned away, looking down. I didn’t say anything else. I just grabbed my bag and made sure the kids were ready. Then it was off in her car for a 150-mile road trip. Did your spouse feel guilty at all about your economic condition after a divorce? Did he/she try to take care of you?
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Ya,of course she is concerned,and so are you.Remember picking her up off the front lawn,you two still have feelings toward each other.Dont say that your going away for the weekend with her is just to watch the kids,were smarter than that,we have been listening to you when you post this stuff,your pride is holding you back,you know Claire better than anyone here,is she not capable of having regret and changing,she screwed up big time and is now seeing what she lost,i give her credit for seeing that and trying to make it right,,,,,,,,,,,,,anyway,to answer your question,of course she is concerned,she wants you back,and I think that there is a part of you that wants her back and wants to go away this weekend,to be with her.I dont blame you for not letting your guard down,but you have to admit it,there is some feeling there on your part and I’m not talking about the 18 years of previous history Im talking about the new Claire that your seeing,I have a feeling that one room will be for the kids this weekend and one will be for the adults,,,,,hahahaha,have fun this weekend
You the same one that asked about the sex and stuff today. Sounds like she has you under her thumb right where she wants you
no my x want me to be worst off than WE WERE
he vows that he will see me on welfre first before paying child support
well guest what it has been 8 years so far I have not been on welfare it has not even enter my head I brought & pay off a home for our children I am paying for our son school
and no he has not pay any support for the 3 children
but so far we are surviving I got remmaried and he is still in hi s small life mean as he can be
so no x don’t ususally care
I wish! My ex fought tooth and nail about the smallest amount of child support in my state’s history! He still complains about it!
That is thoughtful that she cares, but don’t confuse that with optimism that you’ll get back together and it will work. However, along those lines, her remarks about "getting back together" are well intentioned since you do share kids…
It sounds like if you are still taking road trips together (which I fully understand the weird other family thing) then you may still be compatible.
WIthout a history it’s hard to say. If her comments make you uncomfortable you should tell her so.
Good luck! I’ll be going through that weird extended other family stuff yet again myself. (one is hard enough but now soon to be two!)
Did my partner care about my economic condition after we split up?? No. Not a bit. Not even remotely. However, once he decided he didn’t like his new life, all of a sudden he wanted to get back together with me. You know – all the old crap – love you, miss you, need you etc etc etc Funny really, because at the time he was offered his fantastic job (and therefore moved to a different area) he was saying he couldn’t live with me, didn’t love me etc etc etc. What’s even funnier is that I’ve now moved on – having had a nervous breakdown because he dumped me with little to no warning – and I’m now happy where I am and he’s miserable. Don’t know why, but for some reason I’m pleased he’s fallen flat on his face!
You really are needing to put an end to all of these games. She is making her suggestions for what ever reason, and she is still putting the children right in the middle with her constant appearing/disappearing act. STOP THIS!! The children are the ones who will suffer the most.
As a man, stand up for your children as well as yourself. Tell "Claire" that this all stops now. If she is feeling guilt, than stop playing the games. Tell her that she either needs to keep away or she needs to remarry you. STOP HURTING THE CHILDREN!!!!!!!!!
Who cares about the money and the twisted family. It is better to keep the children away from the family, from the things you have said in the past, anyways.
I want you to know that I am a father, and a DAD. My children were hurt from a divorce, as well, but these games that you and Claire keep playing are very unhealthy for the childrens developmental abilities as well as for the social skills that they should be learning. I assure you that in some way, the children already have found themselves at fault in some way for the divorce. That is unfortunately the way a childs mind works. That isn’t from your actions, but your actions with Claire only build those beliefs in your childrens minds.
You two are enabling each other for your own personal greed, and keep forgetting the welfare of your children. Shame on you both!!
Well we were married for a mere nine months…SURPRISE!…he turned out to be an alcoholic and I had no clue! That is the problem with you artist types…you hide your dark sides behind your talents. He was/is so talented that he could have had three heads and I probably would not have noticed because his art was that amazing. I am still kicking myself for returning it all.
So anyway, no he could not care less about my financial state one way or the other…he was so bitter about me leaving him although I gave him a SIX MONTH warning (yeah the magic dust wore off pretty quick when he started bringing hitchhikers home) and because he came home to an EMPTY house (me and my stuff gone) without a forwarding address for me.
However, he did spend great effort to try to get me back. I had already developed the hots for a guy 10 years younger than I and we ended up being together for 10 years…only to break up over something totally stupid.
I don’t think I should be giving you any advice here!
***sulking away in despair***
We didn’t make it to the actual divorce, but in the months leading up to it, we started talking and were getting along pretty well. Though we were at one time well off, we both were not as financially well off anymore. We both paid for different things and it worked out okay. I think if one of us really needed something, they could have counted on the other to help out. He blamed me for the divorce and I felt guilty about it, even though I thought he wanted it at the time.
Your wife is feeling guilty about the affair and the divorce. She wants you back and to go back to a simpler time. She loves you, Reality.
no my ex all she wanted was all my money
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