i really don’t want to start my days depressed over dreams of my ex bf anymore, any suggestions?
i dated a guy last year for about 10 months and we were inseperable and "in love" long story short he dumped me the day before his sisters wedding, so i was uninvited. and then three weeks later he went back out with his ex who didnt stop harassing us when we were going out. this was mid october of last year. i haven’t been able to fully recover emotionally bc the rejection of that threw me off completely, it was during the worst time too, i had a nervous break down. i was working 40 hours a week at a really stressful job, doing 12 credits at school, TRYING to have a normal 20 year old social life and a break up, i shut down, literally went crazy. didnt leave my bed for weeks, quit my job, withdrew from school, changed my number, and all.
now that a few months has passed i am back in school, taking 17 credits, doing really well, am able to be happy and go out with friends and flirt with guys.
i’m definitely in a better place than i was when i was dating that loser, but i do miss him. i miss being in a relationship and it bothered me so much that he was able to do what he did to me, as if i were nothing, sometimes i need to remind myself that it wasn’t all in my head and that we really were serious…
and i try to forget about him but social networking sites, such as facebook make it so easy to check up on him and make my heart hurt at any given moment to see her all over his page, i want to block him, we aren’t friends on facebook but his stuff is all public. i just dont understand how you can treat a person the way he did.
and then i have dreams and wake up and it throws my morning off…. what should i do in the morning to stop this?
maybe go running? idk, i really hate that it still bothers me.
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YOu sight like you have some good insight into your feelings. That’s great! I’ve been through sort of the same thing. I had a lot of bad dreams about my ex fiance after we broke up and would check up on his facebook/myspace etc which really only caused myself pain and upset. I had to learn to stop doing that. It wasn’t easy at first, but you have to be disciplined and decide that you want to move on and be happy. I would tell people if I checked it (my best friend) and let her scold me. Eventually I got tired of admitting it. Saying it out loud to someone else made me feel crazy, which helped me stop the behavior
As far as the dreams, I would have horrible dreams where I’d wake up jealous or angry. You can’t control what you dream, but you can control what you put in your head. The less you spend looking at his stuff, and the more you spend doing other things, the more likely the dreams will go away. Mine did. I’ve had one or two but nothing major. Just remember that whatever he’s doing is none of your business, and worrying about guys who aren’t worrying about you is a waste of your precious life!
I know its not easy but try finding someone elsee :L x
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