what to say when your ex calls?
Well my Ex recently asked to be just friends. I have taken advice from several on-line sources and friends that I should cut all communications and phone calls with him. But he still has the idea that we are just friends, so he would still chat, call me and ask me for favors. We still live together, so that’s why this separation has been difficult, i made up my mind to only be there when he’s not there for the sake of our 2 dogs, and live at my mom’s when he’s there. Anyway, after not talking him or seeing him for 2 days, he decides to call me or text me ask me to look for something on the computer while he’s at work, then when I didn’t do it right away, he text back saying never mind, don’t know why i bother. Then he calls me like 4 hours later, I didn’t pick up. I later on text him and said: Listen I need some time, and some space from you. It is very hard if you are still texting me and calling me. I have accepted our breakup, and respect your decision, let’s try to talk again in a month, in the mean time, please leave your bill money, I will come and get it when you’re not there. He quickly responds and says so you found someone, I thought we were going to be cool, I thought you were going to lend me the car if I needed to." So then i replied, that I haven’t found anyone, I think we need to keep our distance b/c I am no longer your girlfriend, and not someone for your to call when you need a favor and nothing else, and would need some time to become your friend again. He replies back, yes he understands and respects that. My question is, what if my ex calls again, and need a favor or just making small talk, what should I really say? and not say? because I still want him back. 
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You could say something to this affect:
Look I understand that you want or need something right now and I am still hurting from the break up so I can’t be there for you right now. Call and talk to or ask someone else to listen or do that for you because I am just not ready for that right now and the fact that you can be so nonchalante about it just makes it hurt that much more.
Personally I think he’s just using you and you should cut off all ties. You should split the cost of breaking the lease since your living with your mom anyways. It sounds like he wants all the benefits and none of the responsibility of being in a relationship. Noone would treat a friend like that. When you hurt a friend you back off let them cool off or recover from the hurt and apoligize. This loser is using you he doesn’t deserve your friendship.
Don’t answer. You guys are ex’s, so you shouldn’t have to talk to him if you don’t want to. Also, take your time with the break up. You need to be fully over him before you can even talk. Relax and just cut the communication.
Good Luck
just talk to him
he is still in your life, you need to decide what the deal is, do you want him? Yes. Does he want you? as a woman? Ask him – if he doesnt – leave him the heck alone and dont answer his calls, texts or anything.
It’s natural that you will still have feelings for someone you were in a committed relationship with, but you need to look at the whole picture. He is your EX for a reason. Dogs are like kids, but they are dogs. They will get over your moving out. It sounds like he has a trust issue. My past experience says that when a man accuses a woman of having someone else, usually it is the man who has someone else. I suppose that could go either way though. Sounds like you’re on the right track in wanting to take some time out and think about things. Time apart can sometimes bring a couple closer together, but it can also show them that maybe they just aren’t meant to be.
Good luck to you. I know it’s not easy, but you do have your mom there for you. If you decide to go back to this man as his girlfriend or potentially his wife, make sure it’s for the right reasons. Is this the man you want to spend the rest of your life with? Is this the man you see in your mind as the father of your children? What are his values? What are your values? Do you share the same faith? Where do you see yourself in 5 years? In 10 years?