Help!…I just want to make love again… in between Rock & Hard Place.?
My wife and I used to be very sexually active, and very much "into" each other. About 15 years ago an accident at work hurt her back, and she has had to have several back surgeries. Not much helps the pain, and she is getting worse day by day. We just found out she will need another surgery in a couple months.
I try to help her, god knows I try every day. I feed her, bathe her, rub her back, and adjust her pillows and TV. I cook and take care of the kids. The more pills she takes, though, the witchier, and bitchier she gets. We haven’t been intimate for over 10 years now…
I find myself looking at escort ads online. I even tried one once, the gal just took my money and left when I came out of the bathroom. A barrel of laughs. I understand I took wedding vows, but this isn’t the person I signed up to be with – I’m trying my hardest to be loyal. Please don’t respond with religious guilt, I need no more of that.
I just want to be touched, and loved, so badly…what to do?
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Sometimes the helping hand holds you down. You may be keeping her from finding happiness by sticking to this routine. Put some fire under her ass to get out of her depression and self pity, to get her up out of bed.
You can’t keep giving yourself like this,it’s too painful. Hire a home health aid if you can,or see if your insurance will cover it. You dont have to cheat,just start going out.Dont allow yourself to feel the guilt. just disappear for a few hours a day. You deserve to have time for yourself. If she’s home,its not like youre leaving the kids home alone,right? You sound like a wonderful man. I wish you the best of luck,feel free to email.
Is there any other way you can feel close to your wife? She must also feel bad about it try talking to her.
How about, meeting her needs sexually. See how you go. After that… she might be interested in starting some "hand relief". Only… since you mentioned it… For better or for worse – does incorporate where you are at.
oh my god! I feel sorry for you but I feel very very sorry for your wife. Have you tried telling her how mean she gets with you with those pills? have you tol her that if she can have sex with you?Try to have patience with her alot. Back pains it is horrible just the fact that it hurts all day make theperson grouchy and mean. Take care of her and you kids.
wow i thought i had it bad but you wow 10 years you need to just go and find a good f#%# buddy good luck but heck you only have one life you may at least get laid
I understand your need for a physical relationship. But think of what you will be doing to your family. If she never finds out you will still have to look her in the face every day. Say she does find out. She will most likely leave you. Think about if your wife gets better. If she knows you have done this she may leave you and be happy with someone else. Think about her with someone else and your children with a stepfather,
OMG! I had this very same thing happen. Back surgery after back surgery I was there. Taking care of everything, including cleaning him up. Mine didn’t do what he was supposed to in order to rehab himself. Don’t know what your situation is. Eventually, I couldn’t take it anymore. If you love somebody enough to stay with all that, great. Should you stop living because your significant other isn’t? I don’t think so. I left and am now in the most wonderful marriage (by the way he is diabetic and ADHD – he deals with it). Who decided that marriage was a selfless act. It’s not. We want what we want.
Realize that you are touched and loved everyday.
Help someone who is less fortunate that you to take your mind off your troubles.
Good luck.