Comments on: PLEASE HELP can I get my 25 yr old son's love back, wife 15 yrs older hates his family no contact from him?

By: Blondie Z

Blondie Z — Wed, 17 Feb 2010 09:36:08 +0000

You have only done what any good parent would do, and that was report her. Unfortunately nothing was done about it. Your son is being selfish and will deeply regret his actions some day. Until then there really isn’t anything you can do, you just have to back off and let it be this way. I feel for you because I have a similar situation with my daughter and even though I’ve tried every possible thing I can think of nothing has fixed the situation, and its been going on for 3 years. My heart breaks for you because I know exactly how it feels. As you lie awake at night just pray for God to bring restoration in your lives. Sometimes writing, calling and doing stuff just aggravates the situation. I pray for peace in your situation.

By: Lionel S

Lionel S — Wed, 17 Feb 2010 09:36:08 +0000

Except him when he comes back around, cause he’ll definately be back.

By: Common Sense

Common Sense — Wed, 17 Feb 2010 09:36:08 +0000

No good deed ever goes unpunished..
They may, or may not, ever forgive & let bygones be bygones..

By: Joe g

Joe g — Wed, 17 Feb 2010 09:36:08 +0000

ask the school board what you should do. thats where you started the problem.

By: Margaret B

Margaret B — Wed, 17 Feb 2010 09:36:08 +0000

I am so sorry to hear your suffering. But please know, your son loves you. In your question, you ask, "How do I get my son’s love back"? He has never stopped loving you. I can assure you of that. He is love struck…and this kind of love will not last. He is too young…even now…he is too young and I am sure she is the dominant one. That’s why she went for such a young man. Because that is what she needs. Keep trying to make contact and when you do, express your love for him and your grandson. Do not express anger because that will push him farther from you and closer to her. Do not give up. Try and befriend someone who knows them, another relative, a neighbor…anyone who can get a letter or message to him. And I implore that you express concern and love for him and I would also not mention how you feel about her. The letter or message should be directed to him only and your grandson. It must be so hard to know you have a grandson out there and not be able to see him. The sad part is the baby will suffer. But one day, you will be rewarded because that baby will grow up asking about his grandparents. And they will have nothing to say. Your grandson will seek you out.
I will keep you in my thoughts. This is not easy but in time and with a lot of love, you will pull through and one day, your son will reach out to you.
Good luck.