How to break up with my needy/clingy boyfriend?
So we’ve been dating for about 5 months, and we were both in a relationship before. I had remained single after my previous relationship for a few months until i’d met him- he was in a relationship and started developing feelings for me. (Nothing physically happened between us whilst he was with his ex)
I wanted to take things slowly, having been through a bad time with my ex and also because I had become used to enjoying my own company.
I felt that he had slightly pushed me, or possibly made me feel guilty about us not being in a relationship, but utimately it was my decision.
During our 5 months of dating I said something which he interpreted the wrong way and led him to beleive we were no longer seeing each other. I had a lot of assignments on and couldn’t deal with the stress of the way he had overreacted at what I supposedly said, and in that time period he got back with his ex. I found it surprising but I wasn’t particularly bothered.
So after much ado, we are together. However, I find him too needy. He constantly texts me and if I dont reply within half an hour he texts again. He tells me he misses me all the time- something that I frequently tell him not to say. He has also told me he loves me, I did not say it back and he said he wouldn’t say it again until I said it first, which he not has done. There are several other things that I find too overwhelming but I think I’ve gone on long enough lol.
I have previously told him that I find him too needy/clingy but nothing has changed, so I guess my question is how can I easily break it off with him, without him going out drinking and ending up in a mess. Furthermore I think that he just doesn’t like to be by himself (having been with his ex for 4 years). Also, he lives with a couple of my friends from uni, which are now ulimately his friends (prior arguments have left our friends often taking his side due to his overeactions), so how can I make them not feel uncomfortable? What to do? What to do? 
Thanks
I guess I didn’t include any good things in there because I have been focusing on the bad.
We do have a lot in common, extremely strange things that I have never had in common with anyone. Sort of freaky actually. He is very kind to me, and I know I take that for granted
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Wow, some women will kill to have what you have. You don’t want him anymore because he cares too much?. Pinch me and tell me I am dreaming. What he needs is reassurance and that is why he keeps texting you. You don’t like him, just tell him its over and let him find someone else who will be much more appreciative of his gestures.
Don’t try and make life uncomfortable for him. That is not fair. Just tell him straight. I bet that later, you would be looking back at this and say that you miss all the attention you used to get.
Be straight, don’t be selfish, you got yourself into this mess. Work it out.
You seem to really have a handle on this situation. Its seems more like a relationship of convenience then love, but I could be wrong. I didn’t read one positive thing between the two of you. I would take a break if I were you. I mean a real break and let it go.Life goes by really fast as you know and you could end up in a negative relationship. The most important thing to realize is that your not a victim here and its time to take responsibility for your choices, Victims have a responsibility not to be a victim
i am in the same situation….help me!!!!!!!!!! its not that easy to break his heart
hey!! i have been in a similar situation… and all i had to do was say that i have a career to concentrate on and alot more to do than just commit myself to a relationship..
i was freeee!!
but he still tries to bump into me.. and i outright ignore… the very thought of him DISGUSTS me!!!
get out of it… u need to love urself and the first step to that is not be with someone you don’t love…
I feel your pain. I’m in the same exact situation. My boyfriend is extremely clingy as well. I’m a very independent women and sometimes he just won’t give me my space. Sometimes I think I could have prevented this, but it is what it is. My girl friends tell me to break it off and live my life how I used to. It is harder then it seems. But I mean, if we’re not happy- why are we putting ourselves through so much stress?
You need to slap some bitch down, Sarah from up north is going through a tough time like this, her boyfriend is clingy and he’s a weirdo, help?