saving marriage? any suggestions. no mean people please.?
my husband and i just barely got married. i really love him. and he says he loves me. but hes giving up on our marriage. what steps can we take to fix our marriage. is there anything you did to help or fix it. no counciling. long story short the last time my husband went to counciling it was for something that has tramatized him so hes scared of going to counciling
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The absolute best thing you can do, is to ask God heal your marriage & let Him be the head of your home.
try relaxing , vacating , sex, finding something sexy too wear , go to a hotel act like teenagers , come on , make sexy noises , breakfast in bed , massage his feet , put some thongs on , what you wont do another women willlll
ever heard of the "marriage triangle"?
Basically, the idea is that if you get married for the sake of each other and because you love each other and nothing else matters, it’s not gonna be easy to upkeep the marriage. But if you have a common or shared point in life, then you should both pursue that common goal together, which in turn brings you closer together. Many people take this common goal to be "service to humanity" (or the idea of a God, and the couple each working toward getting nearer to God).
I tried and tried to save my marriage. It was pointless.
I tried counseling, romantic vacations, you name it.
If he wanted to he would. Would you walk through fire to save it? Would he?
It will take both of you. Marriage is hard work.
Without knowing specifically what areas of your marriage your husband is unhappy with, it is next to impossible for anyone to begin to give any suggestions.
you’re having problems so soon? how are you supposed to last another 50 years or more? you need to sit down with your husband and have a heart to heart conversation about it. start dating again like before you were married. get the old spark back. little surprises that make him smile like tickets to his fav sporting event or concert. buying something sexy to wear to bed and doing a little dance for him. just because you’re married doesnt mean you have to be boring. and maybe he really does still love you but now he feels like he’s already got you so he doesnt need to try anymore. he’s your life partner, let him know what you feel. he will listen and respond in a loving caring way.
sorry but i really think u need to go counciling..
although we people from yahoo answers like to give advice… NONE OF US ARE PROFESSIONALS…
maybe instead of going to a professional councilor maybe speak to your church priest or pastor.
alot of the times they will give u the best advice and give u the best steps even though they are not professionally trained and have a degree in psychology .. they have more wisdom and give better advice about relationships than here.
if u really do not want to go councilor try to buy some counciling books for yourself. self-help isle in the bookstore.. you would find alot of books giving u steps to repair your marriage.
best to go councilor..
prayer and god will heal all .. a marriage is hard work dont give up just yet ..
Sit your husband down and calmly explain to him that one person cannot fix everything that is wrong. Tell him if he truly wants this marriage to work, then he needs to give it his all and no excuses will be tolerated. Tell him he needs to decide if he’s willing to do this and he needs to decide right now!
There is a book called the Five Love Languages. My husband and I did a premarital seminar based around it and both loved it. It’s all about learning which love language you speak and which one your partner speaks and then learning to speak their language. It sounds cheesy but really makes sense.
Honey, if you say both of you love each other, then why is your husband giving up on marriage> Does he feel he cannot commit to you anymore? Are there any other serious issues bothering him.
Remember the three prime reasons for marriages to fail are (1) lack of communication (2) Lack of understanding. (3) Trusting an outsider more than your own partner.
Both of you stop for a minute and think if you enjoy the best of communication and understanding between each other.
Take a break from daily chores. Go together on a vacation, spend some quality time together and talk to work this out. Wish u the best!
You are probably past the feelings people when they fall in love and everyone and everything is perfect, that usually lasts about 2 years.
So what they don’t tell you is that we mostly attract and marry opposites. So after the 2 years of the feeling in love everything is not so perfect. This is where you start seeing the personal baggage you are carrying. Most often shows us a judgment of the other person. A good approach is to play the game
“What we see in others is a reflection of what is going on inside ourselves”. Often scary but good in that you learn about forgiveness (or not) and accept him/her, warts and all. That’s how we learn and grow. What can you learn from the things that make you feel annoyed?
If you want to rebuild your relationship and feel loved again
There is a real good book that has all about "how to fill your love tank" get it or download the audio and read it ….The Five Love Languages by Garry Chapman. You will learn what you need to do to make you and your partner feel loved.
This does not happen overnight but when your partner feels loved they will change in a big way. It’s a great way to manipulate the other person LOL
No one can make marriage work alone. It takes effort from both side…If he does not want marriage to work then it won’t. You need to talk with him. why he does not wants to work on it? Why he wants to give up? He might be hiding something. There could be anything that you don’t know. You have to convince him to talk. communication is the key to sort out marriage problem. and if nothing works. you must go for short time separation. That will definitely show some way to both of you. You also need to understand/know that you can’t make marriage happier alone and ACCEPT the situation and move on….Take care