The EX factor! I’m want to move on…how can I meet a good guy?
I hate that I’m still in love with him. And that he only wants to be friends. He says he’s in love with me but he doesn’t want to be committed right now. He’s working two jobs, 75 hours a week. (One I helped him get and happen to work in the same building different department). He says he can’t give me the attention I need as his girlfriend. So be his friend or nothing at all. Ok, so I still want him in my life so I agree to being friends…Then he’ll say something else like "if you’re a good girl for the next month you’ll really love your birthday gift, but u know you like to go out to parties and clubs so we’ll see" (my b-day is late sept). This behavior from him is like he doesn’t want me, but he gets jealous when I try to get over him. Sooo I complained in the past about us not talking on the phone anymore, him not texting me as much and us not seeing one another. He called more the first couple days, he’s been texting me everyday, but he still hasn’t made any initiative to spend time together. When we’re together it always laughs, jokes, hugs, kisses…etc. I told him we’re not having sex anymore because its not worth it. Making a mockery of what we had. His claim is he doesn’t want to do anything with anyone else, so if he’s going to have sex he wants it to be with me. Yea, right. I want a relationship. And he’s not ready right now. I’m trying to move on…but nothing is happening. I haven’t met anyone that can even measure to him. I find myself still thinking about him all the time. He cares enough to text me each day. But I feel like purposely not trying to love me again. He wont allow it to happen. He doesn’t want to talk about us- what we had or what may be. He’s just like show me you’re there for me without it being about you and take one day at a time….I’m trying to look past him. Because I get the sense he loves me but he’s confused about being with me or wanting someone else. So how can I meet someone else when he keeps pulling me back in?
I just want to be happy. When we were together he made me happy. He says he doesn’t like to talk to me on the phone as much because I bring up old negative things. He says why can’t I say things like I know you’re working hard? When I try to contact him and he doesn’t respond back it makes me feel like he’s giving attention to someone else. The same attention he used to give to me. So when he does contact me, I get upset that its taken so long. My school year is about to start next week. I just want to start fresh and new. But I’m still in love with him….I want to meet someone new!
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Life is too short to be waiting on some man that is too busy to spend time with you BUT wants to control your life so that YOU don’t have no one to be with. he can’t have his cake and eat it too. It’s not your fault he is so busy with work. Chile please…I know you care for him and things but u have a life too.
girl just go to a club or a bar or something, if your not old enough to do that than hang around a college something
that kind of manipulative what he’s doing.
"we cant be together cause of work hours…but i dont like when you move on"
you really have to think to yourself what do YOU want? do you want to sit and wait for this guy, or do you want to keep him an ex and just move on?
personally i would move on. if he’s this flipfloppy right now with the whole "i dont have enough time for you" i mean…its a valid reason, 75 hours is a lot. but if he REALLY loved you he would have told you about this, and talked with you. saying "i may not have a lot of extra time for you, but i love you and want to stay together" would have been the thing he should have said.
i say keep friends with him but dont close off all the other options. there are plenty of guys who will text you everyday…you just have to give them a chance..haha.
good luck =) keep your head up.
He is obviously just using you. You are his backup plan! But that is not true love. And so long as you allow yourself to be attached to this guy, even as "just a friend," you will be shooting yourself in the foot. You won’t get over him until you LET HIM GO COMPLETELY. And until you do that, you will not be emotionally available to attract a good guy. Good guys are not attracted to women who are obviously still having feelings for someone else. Bad guys might! They don’t care! Guys with low self-esteem might! They don’t know better! But the really good guys- not a chance.
So stop trying to fix your burn by sticking your hand in fire! You need to let this zero go. Tell him, ok. It’s over then. Then don’t talk to him anymore. Block his phone number. Don’t read his texts or emails. Don’t call him. Don’t hang out where he hangs out. Then keep yourself busy. Hang out with real friends. Do some volunteer work. Join a club. Get some exercise. Whatever it takes to get your mind off of this. Then just give it some time!
Good luck!
Stay where you are, don’t move, live in the moment and on promises.
Revel in the fact that you are a "fwb" cause he don’t wanna have sex with anyone else (oh really?) Before you know it you will wake up old and your dreams for yourself unfulfilled and he will still be able to fulfill his with a younger woman. Sorry, it’s brutal but true.
Decide what your interests are (besides a man). Get busy with that and wonders of wonders, the man that is compatible may with you may find you while you are busy not looking but simply enjoying your life’s pursuit. That man will be evenly yoked with you and tugging him won’t be necessary.
Be Blessed