Is it worth another try to save my marriage?
Should I save my marriage?
My wife and I have now been seperated for over a month and she’s been living at her mothers with our 2 kids.
She said she needed space and didn’t want to be with me any more. After a week of refusing to speak to me about it we now talk on a daily basis so that I can speak to the kids.
I’m flying over to the UK to see them next week and hopefully will get a chance to speak to my wife face to face. She said that she does still love me but that things just weren’t working out between us and she was unhappy.
I’m wondering if it would be worth booking a surprise birthday trip to take her to London for a night at Easter when I’m next due to go over and see them; theatre, meal, hotel, etc. She’s always wanted to see Phantom and I’ve managed to get hold of some tickets.
Would it be too much too soon? Should I just wait and see how things go or forget about it?
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I think its too much too soon. If you want to see if your wife has any will to work it out or if shes still sincere about you, shes much better learning this with time (no matter how long it takes) instead of being bought over with materialistic things. Im sorry this happened to you and it is an upsetting situation, but if you want to play fair you’ll respect her space. I’d hate to see you do all these lovely things, only to possibly be rejected. What you need to do though, is make a compromise on when you get to see the kids. They are your kids too afterall and should get to see their parents equally.
Go see her and see how it goes. I would hate for you to get your hopes up and spend all that money just for her to turn you down. If she dosen’t want to be with you, then let her be. If you rush her, it won’t help. Take it slow and see how it goes.
definitely take her out. show her you are committed to try to make your marriage work and that her and the kids are your world. try counseling, but let her know how you feel and that you want to make her happy.
I would,nt plan anything if i were you !!
Just see how it goes when you get here .
Was she just unhappy cause she missed home ,family etc ??
Get the tickets..she’s your wife. It would be just what you two need to get to know each other again, date again, fall in love all over again!
Not too much too soon! Fight for your marriage! Keep your love unconditional. Dont let her raw emotions get the better of you.
Search your heart, see what your part of the breakdown has been because of you….then you will be working from a point of strength—that puts family first.
Tess
i don’t think that it would be to much to soon. If you both still love each other and are wanting to work it out then by all means do it.
Forget about it. she seems uninterested! she moved away and is only seeing you for the kids. enough said.
but if you still wanna try to make it up, its too soon to do all that! if you want, when you do see her, give her the tickets and say that you stumbled upon them and you know how much she wanted to see it! if she offers for you to go then ok, otherwise dont say for you too to go. then take it slower! do small gestures here and there that show you still care! and when it seems right, do something. but in all honesty i dont think you should do it..
Test the waters. Ask her if she loves you. Ask her if she thinks the relationship is worth seeking counseling so you two can learn to meet each others needs better. If she’s willing to try, then try, if not, then it doesn’t sound promising.