What would keep you from turning your back on your wife? The hair, the earrings, the shoes?
I have been of good character, but that didn’t keep my husband from turning away from me to impress his friends. He doesn’t do that now, but I still fear he will and nothing I or have done will be good enough. He got new friends and started asking why I didn’t where open shoes in the summer. Our daughter wore foot and ankle braces at the time. How could I go wearing sandals? Then he became progressively cold to me, not caring about anyone hurting me. Telling me he was good guy, and these are good people. I was good mom, but none of that mattered. He’d go see them and didn’t want me around. If other women were around, he was ok with it, just as long as it wasn’t me. He says he just didn’t want marriage to get in the way of his friends, and says he feels differently now. But I am still afraid he’ll find a reason to turn on me, not matter what good thing I do. With my daughter doing better, I was able to get out and get earring and shoes, etc and lose weight. Is there anything to keep me safe? Is the only thing that will work is getting gigantic boobs, and touring with a metal band?
I recently wrote to the school district on behalf of our daughter, and he said he was proud. But it’s not like I didn’t do the same kind of things when he turned his back on me. What can keep me safe?
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Your problem is your lack of self esteem, not wardrobe.
How old are you guys? GEEZ.
This is an issue of where you draw your self-esteem from, I think. You kinda define your value in terms of whether people treat you well. You look hard for signs that other people love and appreciate you, but people are weak and inconsistent and won’t always provide that. It’s hard, because we work hard and sacrifice and expect to be patted on the back for that.
I think you need to impress yourself. Do things that make YOU feel good about who you are and what you are doing, and when you get that pat on the back, it’s cool….but if you don’t, you’ll be okay anyways. Be the person you want to be, and screw everyone else if they don’t like it.
He asked you why you didn’t wear open toed shoes in the summer? Sounds like a self absorbed jerk. Keep your focus on your daughter and be proud of who you are and who she is and don’t let him bring you down.
Men love their social life and friends more than anything in the world, oh expect for sports. The more you complain the more they get closer to their friends. Many time these friends are a bad influence, never do they once tell the husband "hey man, why don’t you go home to your wife, she’s a good woman."