Did my pregnant wife ever love really love me?
My wife and I only dated for a totall of 5-6 months ( I know thats really short but we were with each other like ever spare second of every day during that time) not including the month long break up in which she came back. She used to tell me she loved me all the time and I felt like she really did ( I still love her) She got pregnant on our honeymoon and soon went off of her paxil for anxiety ( i was on it too..) She says she doesn’t think she ever loved me and she started getting really irritated by me for really small things like breathing hard in my sleep, stinky breath, the way I pronounce certain words. I went to counseling with her and to a psychiatrist for a few months and it seemed to help alot but not enough. She asked me to move out and she hasn’t filled out divorce papers but right now I’m just trying to be as supportive as possible and taking care of her by paying bills and getting her groceries and gas etc. even thuogh I live at my parents house 70% of the time. Her family is so upset with her including her kids from a previous 14 yr. mariage, in fact last weekend her son asked her to invite me over because he misses me.. I just am having such a hard time, this is my first time to be a father and he’s due in like 2-3 weeks.. Did she ever love me? If so, can she love me again? Is it likely she will have feelings for me after? Sorry if you’ve read my other posts I’m just really concerned and interested in your opinions…
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Probably not and probably not. She sounds like a flake. You should try to involve yourself in the child’s life as best you can. You can try marital counseling, but it’s not looking good.
I swear I’ve answered this question once before.
well going off the paxil and all the hormones of being pregnant could cause all of this..wait until the baby is born and she goes back on the paxil then she may change her mind..
Who knows if she ever loved you or if she still does….Perhaps this is just the hormones talking…wait until the baby comes and see if things change.
Maybe she really didnt love you. only dating for 5-6 months is SHORT.
HELLO SHES PREGNANT she loves you,she just dont know how to control her feelings or emotions esp of she just came off her meds hoormones rage during pregnancy.I left my husband (then dating) for the majority of my pregnancy because every kind or loving touch hurt physically or really irritated me.Hang in there help her anyway you can,go out of her way to bring her a hot dinner,take her coffee,send her little love notes,etc.when your baby is born be there support her,and tell her how much you love her,win her back.you can email me if you need anything else mum2flowers@yahoo.com
It is really hard to say what she is feeling. It could be her hormones are raging because she is pregnant and off her meds or it could be that after the reality of marriage and pregnancy set in she realized she doesn’t really know you and that she rushed into marriage. I think going to couples counselling for a long period of time may help. I just wonder why you are still paying her bills and getting her groceries and gas, etc. Why would she divorce you if you are still supporting her yet not living there? Sounds to me like she has a pretty good deal for herself.
You can hope this is a hormonal problem and it will pass. I would give her space. Let her know you will be there for her if she wants you, that you love her and she can call you whenever she wants. Leave it like that and don’t contact her. Let her be for a while and see if she comes to you. Be there when the baby is born.
Give it time and you will see!
I understand exactly what you are going through. It is tough the best thing that you can do, and I mean this both for your emotional health, but also it can help your relationship with her if you even decide that you want to continue on. Move on with your life, i know its hard, but a lot of things are going on. She is hormonal, she sounds completely irrational, she is grumpy from being ready to POP. If you give her space and respect her and be happy all of the time, even when you are having to fake it. Don’t bring up getting back with her. Get along with her. If she is mad about something that you did don’t argue, just let her be right, women love that. If she comes around great, if she doesn’t you will still be happier and most likely by that time you wouldn’t want her back anyways because you put in the effort. Just focus on yourself right now and try to put all the other junk out of your mind. Good luck!!
Sorry but me thinks u r a bit of a soft touch ?? If u aint livin there stop payin the bills an doin her grocery shop i no she is pregnant but u dont change that quick this aint hormones i think she just wanted another child ( benifits ) you sound like a nice decent guy but i,m afaid she is usin you ?? Your only interest now should be the baby do what u can 4 that but i,m sorry i think she as used you ???
how are we supposed to know if she loves you? maybe you could spend more time with her instead of her bills and groceries. you could try being a little more romantic, spice up you relationship with cute little things that hold a lot of meaning. You failed at your LAST marriage, maybe she realized she wanted someone who can work to keep a marriage going rather than throw it all away.
only conclusions that can be drawn from the information given, see a shrink on your own to get some advice….you could get help from a professional to say your words right if that will make her happy….even if she doesn’t love you, your married, and you love her. so your goal is to make her fall back in love with you
(sorry if that was too harsh)