My girlfriend of 2 years says she needs space?
my girlfriend has been acting weird for the past 4 weeks we only used to go out to the movies and restaurants because i have always love drinking and if we go out i spend all my money and we are trying to save to go live someplace else.. anyways to make a huge story short i let her go out one Friday 3 weeks ago but i told her to promise me she was not going to drink and get home early, so i called her at 3am and she still was not home and she sounded very drunk so the next day i confronted hear and told her that i trusted her and that she broke my trust and she was not going out because i cant even trust her not to do that.. fast forward to the next weekend comes Friday we go to the movies and to eat and she kept telling me how tired she was and how much she wanted to go home so at 11PM i left her home and went to take a shower to my house and started watching a movie it becomes 1am i call her phone and sure enough she was at a club i got so mad i broke up with her the next day but she started crying and calling me so i forgave her and went back with her again… fast forward again to Friday, we got in a small fight and told me that she was going to her friends house and that she never spends time with her blah blah blah so i said ok but stop to by my house once you take a shower and get ready to go with her, so she did but i noticed to much makeup on her face so i was very suspicions that she was going to a club, so i opened her cars trunk and there it was a new ward drove. so i told her why are you doing this to me i give you everything and do everything for you and you throw it all away for partying? she said you know what i am going and that’s it, so she left and went to the club… next day i had a date with some random chick NOW she starts throwing a fit and she starts to tell me that she is sorry that she only did it because she was mad at me and stuff so like the dumbazz i am i forgave her so NOW THIS WEEK she gets a call from an ex boyfriend and tells me to tell him not to call her again and i said no you tell him that and you put it on speaker, so she said no and i got out of the car and she left… a few hours pass and i cool-off and she comes to my house everything was fine but now today she told me she wants some space that she needs to thinking throw… what should i do?? i love her more than my self more than anyone else more than anything what should i do??? it kills me inside i work so hard to give her everything but she said she want a break and i told her nooo decide to stay with me or to breakup.. she couldn’t answer… what do i do? i am going crazy how can someone throw everything to go party?? wtf i do everything for her and she tells me she needs a break wtf???
Thank you for the answers.. i will also like to add a few details. 1.she has cheated on me twice once when we started going out and then five months after. 2.i don’t mind if she goes out but don’t pussyfoot it around just tell me i am going to get super drunk and dance with random guys , i don’t mind i am super comfortable with my self i just don’t like people to lie or pussyfoot a story or their actions. 3. she is bisexual i didn’t find out until two months in our relationship i didn’t mind at all i have nothing against it so i told her i did not mind if she had a gf or did something with another woman, so she got back with her ex girlfriend and well its nothing serious its just casual sex once in a while.. so you see i let her do anything if she just asks me she can have or buy anything i don’t mind really i just don’t know what else to do. is it my fault for being to open with her??? i don’t think i am a control freak but i like to know the truth and what she will be doing.
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I understand that you’re upset that she’s been lying to you. She should’ve been straight-forward and just told you she was going out with her friends. And you have the right to be mad because it makes you wonder what else she could be lying about.
However, the way you explained your side of the story also makes you sound like a control-freak. She shouldn’t need to report to you at all times. And if she wants to go out with her friends, you should just let her. She’s a grown woman and can take care of herself. She shouldn’t need your permission to go out. The fact that you seem so strict on her may be the reason why she lies and does things behind your back. It’s pretty much the same reason why teenagers tend to rebel against their parents.
And the fact that you went out on a date with some random girl just to get back at her doesn’t make things better at all. At least when she went out, she was with friends, and it was to have fun.
If she really means all that much to you, let her have her space. I think you both need some time to think. It may just be that you’ve both grown apart and have simply been fooling yourselves into believing that you can "work things out".
Good luck, man.
Your not letting her do anything don’t tell her to stop by your house just text her and give her some freedom you sound like her dad! she wants to be with friends and wants to have fun so let her put down some basic instructions not a whole book of rules! How old are you anyways?