He cheated on me and kicked me out HOW DO I GET HIM BACK?(really long story sorry)?
My ex and I were together for almost a year. It would have been a year on March 1st. He will be 24 next month and im 18. We met when he was 22 and I was 17 When he first met me I was depressed because my moms health and devoice and having to move her out of her house. The first few months were AMAZING. After 4 months I decided to move in with him. Everything was good but because I was still in a senior in high school and he was already out of college working a 9-5 job and I never got home till 7 or 8ish every night because after school I had to go take care of my mom. Well because of everything going on I had no motivation in life and I really didn’t care about anything tho I did care about him more then he knew.
Well things went good for awhile but once every 4 months we would have a giant fight over the same thing. Me not having a job, and me not being motivated. The last fight we had he said “this is the last straw” But as much as I tried to change I just couldn’t find it in myself. This was 3 months before what im about to tell you
Well last weekend my best friend came over and we all drank a lil, keep in mind everything with him and I were perfect since the last fight. Well I got sick and fell asleep in the bathroom, when I got up I could hear him and her making out on the room next to me. But I was still to messed up to get up so I went back to sleep. When I was finally ok to get up I went out there and acted like everything was ok. They were sitting on the couch just joking around. Well I told him “im going to bed” and after laying in bed for a lil I wondered why he wasn’t coming to bed. So I went out there and asked him “When are you coming to bed?” and he yelled at me saying “this is my fucking apartment I can sleep wherever the fuck I want leave me alone” So I went and sat next to him on the couch and was like “What is your problem are you pissed that I passed out or what?” and he just kept yelling so I went back in the bedroom and tried to sleep when next thing I know my friend gets in bed with me telling me shes sorry. I told her leave me alone im trying to sleep. And figured I figure stuff out in the morning when hes not so drunk.
So when we all got up I went out in the room by b/f was in and watched tv and he woke up, I asked him if he remeberd anything and he said not really, but he acted really distant. Well then hes like “I need to get ready for my moms.” (him and I were supposed to go to his moms this day) So he went and started to get stuff to take a shower, and I went and got some clothes together and hes like “Are you sure you want to go” and I said “yeah” and he said “well you will have to use the tomtom to get there because you need to take your friend home” and I said “ok”
Well he went and got in the shower and when he got out I went in there to give him a hug and he looked at me and said “you know you don’t have to come today” and I said “I know but I want to and i want to see your mom" and he said “well im starting to realize something’s and remember stuff from last night.” And I said “ok” then he said “well I think we should go our seprate ways today” and I asked him why and he said “do you really need to ask?” and then he started to head out the door and I was like “well give me a hug” and while he was hugging me I told him “I love you” and he hesitated and said “I love you too” and left.
Well I took my friend home and came back to the apartment around 11. He was sitting on the couch and said “hi” like he always did not distant. And that’s all he said the rest of the night. When I went in the bed he scooted away.
The next morning we got up like normal and he made breakfast then he said “We need to talk about Friday” and then continued to say he couldn’t deal with me not being motivated anymore and he cant deal with my stress and that I’m more like a child then a girlfriend and that I needed to be out by the end of the day. And I fought with him begging him for another chance and he said no.
After that I went to my friends and I have been couch hoping, but I went over there on Tuesday and everything was normal again, we cuddle in the same bed and everything was perfect. And we have been talking everyday since it happened on the phone or texting.
Well yesterday I wrote him and said “hey tomorrow when I go to get some stuff can I make some food?” and he said “ya. You know we cant keep doing this right” and I said “I know, ive been meaning to talk to you about this but I wanted to talk to you in person”(I was going to ask him if I get my shit together if we can be together again” then he said “I thought I made everything clear on Sunday” and I said “you did I just have something on my mind” and about ten mins later he wrote be back and said “we are not getting back together” and I said “I know” and we havnt talked since then
I go over there tonight to get some stuff and take him to a event (hes a DJ) but I want him back sooooooo bad I cant deal with this and I cant d
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if he cheated on you i wouldn’t take him back once a cheater always a cheater
Pull yourself together and get over him!!!
Don’t go back to a guy who treats you so badly!
easy, make him wan to go back with you,
then regect him and cheat on him with his father !!!!
YEAH I SAID IT
I didn’t read all of this. I just read the initial question. If he cheated on you and kicked you out then don’t be stereotypically stupid, move on.
By "getting him back" it shows you still care about him. The best thing you can do is get over him and not care what he does anymore. That will make him more mad than anything you can plan. Plus you don’t need to be vindictive. Life is too short.
once the bond of trust is broken you can never get it back ….move on
GET A GRIP GIRL WHO WANTS A MAN THAT TREATS YOU LIKE THAT.
PULL YOURSELF TOGETHER……………..THINK OF THE PEOPLE MUCH WORST THAN YOU ATLEAST YOU GOT OUT WHILE YOU CAN
you need to find someone to talk to…like a therapist…and FIND YOURSELF!!!! you have zero self esteem, and are emotionally unhealthy.
love yourself, have respect for yourself, and you’ll find a guy that’s right for you.
Too long!
keep away from him hes bad news and he’ll wreck your life
Why won’t you get a job?
You guys have a messed up relationship.
haha, you’ll probably get back together eventually.
he is not a guy for you. try to find somebody else and be smart finding someone who won’t hurt you. try to find someone through their zodiac signs and compare to your zodiac signs.
MOVE ON.
HE DOESN’T WANT YOU.
HE CHEATED ON YOU
HE NEVER EVEN LOVED YOU
HE ONLY WANTED YOU FOR SEX
COME ON HES’ 24 YOUR 18!!!
tell him he can go fuck himself and just move on sweetie i know it will be hard but u deserve better than that.
Grow up. He’s dumped you and is making it pretty damn clear that he wants you to go away. Get a job and become something that you can look at in the mirror and when you’re on your way with that, find a decent man with whom you have something in common.
Sounds like it’s time for you to move on. He doesn’t sound like he is interested in gettiing back together so why would you continue to want to be with a guy who doesn’t want you anymore you would just be asking for trouble. You need to focus on getting your life together and who knows maybe he will see what efforts you have made and give it another try. I guess right now he doesn’t feel a partnership with you he feels like he is taking on all the responsibility for both of you and it’s become too much for him. Actions speak louder than words so get off your butt and do something for yourself!!!
Leave it alone sweetie. Your not what he wants and hes going to keep on leading you on for as long as you let him. I mean really how at 17 and 22 do you really know what you want in life. Hes using the little crap "not motivated, child" because he has nothing else to argue about. Someone who really loves you will understand your situation with your mom and the effect it has on you and will want to help you have a reason to be motivated. He should bring out the best in you. If you stop being so available I promise you he will realize what he is missing but you need to be patient and see where things will fall.
Treat em mean and keep em keen….Kick a dog and it will always come back to you !
If he cheated on you with your so-called friend, then he is most likely cheating on you with several other girls. He is obviously not ready for a relationship and wants out of it as badly as you want him back. He is very young and not ready for a long term. Seems to me, from what I have read he has hinted and actually told you several times that its not going to work. If you try to force the issue and he takes you back because he feels guilty, you will only make it worse.
Let him go, and above all cut him off, no taking him here or running him there, sleeping with him, etc.
Time heals all and most likely to him right now, you are to needy and that can be a big turn off. Leave him alone and move on. Go out on some dates, it will make it easier on you. I know it hurts like hell, but you have to let him go if you Love him as much as you say you do.
Or you can keep letting him make you miserable, or move on with your life and put some plans about your future in order.
Good Luck, and sorry if this was harsh, but it’s called REALITY hun.
he cheated on you and kicked you out?? To want him back would be the most pathetic thing you have ever done. Get some self esteem and get over him.
well getting him back won’t change anything ,, you need to move on ! and DEAL with it . A lot of good guys out there!.. it’s really hard for you to accept that at first but soon or later you won’t even remember him ! and you shouldn’t beg him .. don’t you ever put your self down like that for anyone!! pull your self together ,, forget the past and move on , don’t talk to him.cause one day he’s gonna look back and wish it was you with him till now and regret the sadness he caused to you.. be strong girl. and take a good care of your self,!! and remember "if it’s meant to be then life will put you together one day and he’ll be yours if it’s not then you have to let him free ! and let him go ! ,, just cheer up ,! and try to date new people !