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i think my ex is early stage manic depressive to be honest! he keeps breaking up with me "convinced he’s doing the right thing" and then he comes back begging. before he does it he’ll start getting really withdrawn and stuff. i suspect manic depression because his mom has it and he was on anti-depressants for a year, came off them a few months before i met him. his friends don’t know this stuff but want to have a talk with him for giving me up because they think he’s ******* up his life because i was so good for him. any input on THAT is appreciated! anyway, i can’t be with someone like that.
it’s so hard to look at a photo of him or something, wait for a text back to say hello. it just hurts so much. is it better just to cut him out completely? i’m going to be going away in a month, i’ll be ok then. but i never wanted to just cut him out of my life because he was the best friend i ever had…but maybe i should? is it recommended?
getting guys isn’t a problem, they love me. i’m not the type to ever have a one-night stand though.
it’s just like there’s no one else i’d rather have right now, even though i don’t want to be with him anymore because he’s hurt me so much and let me down too many times for me to have faith in him again.
we had an amazing connection to. he was the best friend i’d ever had.
have you ever replaced something like that?
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I have never "replaced" any of my ex’s. I believe that once you love someone, you hold them in your heart and mind for life. Because of my personal beliefs, I have remained friends with each of my exboyfriends. At first, it was hard…I didn’t want to just call and chat with them, I wanted to have them come over and us go for a walk or run down to the beach for a day of fun. I wanted to be THE person in their life, not just the friend they hung out with once in a while. Re-instating boundaries was difficult, because for so long their hadn’t been any boundaries between us.
However, all of my efforts – and all of their efforts – paid off in the end. Not only do they remain in my life, but I have also befriended their spouses and significant others. So while I get to keep my closest friends, and we get to reminisce about the old days, I have also gained several very close friends with whom I can share the anecdotes with as well.
It sounds to me that while you’re angry at the situation, you are not at all sure about the breakup itself. It may be that your ex needs to be on medication. Talk to him about this. If he is unhealthy, the correct medications could take care of the paranoia and imbalance – helping him to create solid relationships in the future.
i believe each person in the world has about 500,000 soulmates, so just look for the next one in your neighborhood.
fall in love whit some1 else(better)
i hope that helps
wait a minute for him. he’s only human
gee….so confused……Its your life…go with your feelings…but, my opinion is to forget him,use it as an experience and go on with your life without complexities…….good luck and have a good life…..
id hate to say it but everyones been there, you need to move on or remain friends but he carries a burden and its going to drag you down too before you even know it. you need to walk away really it hurts and it really sucks cause you will go through a really tough period but you need to stay focused on going out and keeping busy. its the only way and what sucks is you might end up in the same predicament again with someone else but you’ll be a little biut stronger everytime. i was very close with all of my exes i wouldnt date them if i didnt feel the strong best friendship connection as well as the boyfriend girlfriend connection so it sucks to end it but theres only one way and thats to leave him. none of his friends can make him want to stay with you. maybe they keep telling him that and thats why he feels the need to keep coming back. for him to know what he really wants he needs his friends to stop pressuring im sure its true that you are the best girl for him but if he has to be told that then hes got alot of thinking to do on his own. sorry this all comes from experience ive gone through the same thing my onw boyfriends family and friends told him he was an idiot but it just wasnt there for him and we tried 3 times to work it out because he knew that he SHOULD want me but he just didnt feel that way anymore…it happens heartbreak is something every single person goes through so dont sweat it that much its a cemented part of life. walk away
I can feel your pain through your words. i also can tell that you absolutely love this man of yours. the thing is girly, i hate to say it (but i think u know deep down) that this relationship has to end, and the sooner your realize that its for the best, the better you will be able to deal with it. Listen, i am sure you love him but that doesnt mean that you need to be his personal door mat. sometimes we humans tend to take advantage of things when we know that they aint going no where, u know u begin kinda begin neglectful of them and stuff, and that is probably what is happening with you two. because he knows that if he breaks up with you tomorrow, and wants to get back the next day you will be there for him and that is not fair to you because that is hell of an emotional rollercoster that takes a toll on you since u gotta be hopping off and hopping right back on. dont let him do that. the thing is, you are the only person that has control over your life. you decide if you want to continue with this or break the circle and put a stop to it. it is going to be the hardest thing u will go through for now, but with time it will get better. and u know what, just because u are not bf/gf anymore doesnt mean u cant be friends (i recommed that u work on yourself and getting over him and the relationship first though before anything else)so, dont feel guilty for wanting to better care of yourself now, nah’mean? we woman care so much about other people’s needs and feelings and stuff, we kinda forget ourselves in the process, so make sure u do you and be goo to you. best of luck
peace
Well, I’ve lost something like that, and let me tell you: I know it hurts like Hell. Only, it wasn’t my boyfriend who did this, but rather my BEST friend. I had met her in 4th grade, and ever since we were connected at the hip. We were both ‘good’ girls at school, doing what we were suppose to and having A+ averages, all the way through 8th grade. But then her mom got remarried to a man residing in a town about 40 minutes from where we lived, and she had to move away. But since it was not too crazy of a drive, we stayed in touch and were still best friends through 10th grade. But something happened during the summer between 10th & 11th grade. She stopped replying to my e-mails, or my phone calls. What happened? I had no Earthly idea. Still don’t. I called and called and e-mailed so many times, and she never responded. Then, finally, her mom answered her home line when I called, and she quickly called my friend to the phone. I hear my friend say ‘okay, coming- who is it?’ And her mom replying, handing the phone over, and then the phone dies. At first I thought my cell had run out of battery, and called back with my home line- but then there was no answer. My friend- my BEST friend had completely turned her back on me. And it still hurts. I understand the pain you’re going through, and let me tell you, there is really only one thing that helps: time. Your sorrow will never go completely away, but it will numb with the passing of it, and I wish you all the luck in your situation.
I had to cut my friend out of my life, because it just hurt too much to keep her in it. I’m mad as Hell that she could do such a thing, but I still can’t seem to comprehend that she did this. If it hadn’t been for my boyfriend or my other friends, I would have had huge issues, but they all helped. Try to cut him out.