How do you say good bye to a life long friend?
It has been 20-+ years since I have been friends with my BFF. Some of our most awkard moments in life we went through together. High School would of been embarable without her. However.. here we are 20+ years later and our friendship is dead as ever. Moving thousands of miles away did it but we kept in contact. Her marriage hitting the skids..and being a single mom we managed still.. Her new marriage of a few years and a new baby have pretty much be the causative root of her attn elsewhere. She openly admits that she is too busy to keep in touch ( please save the conclusion of me not being married or without children out of this as it is not true… no jelously here. ) Too busy to keep in touch… means… no calls on my recent wedding, no return emails, no return calls and often when a call is placed she has to go after a minute because family duty calls. ( It was never like this with her 12 year old when she was born.. ) Also the few emails I have gotten are all about the
5 hours ago – 3 days left to answer.
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5 hours ago
her recent child’s birth. I am sad and I sent an email to talk to her about this… and she immediately went defensive. SO I said it was time to say official good bye…. as I felt no need to keep myself around for nothing but disapointments.
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Calico is just a mean evil woman. How can you respond like that when someone is down? Some sick people get thier jolly’s by acting like they online. You look like a fool..
Kugel.. you are right to feel the way you do. People move on and you will be better for it. Your friendship died a long time ago.. and your friend was just going through the motions. Good job calling her on it!
Why do you need to have this big dramatic goodbye? Don’t tell me it’s for closure, because there is no closure on any relationship. You will miss it forever no matter what you say or do. Just drop off the face of the earth. She doesn’t care to hear from you and she does not want to hear your emotional goodbyes, and they sure aren’t going to make her say, "Oh wow, I made a mistake and want her back as my bestest friend!" She doesn’t want you in her life for whatever reason, so do her a service and leave. Be peaceful and quiet and don’t send her some dingy goodbye. She’ll just think you’re nuts and you’ll feel foolish later. Just move on like a whisper in the night. It’ll be best for you in the long run.
Life does have a way of friends and cousins drifting apart. I really wouldn’t worry about this, or push it. I’d just ignore it. You can send Christmas cards and letters to keep in touch. This happens to all of us. There is nothing you can do but accept it as part of life, having a family and not being close to each other anymore. Her friendship is obviously a sweet memory. Please keep it that way instead of causing a problem. That way, if the two of you ever see each other again, you’ll enjoy catching up and visiting and not have bitter feelings to deal with.