What would you do if your wife called an Ex-boyfriend behind your back. ?
What would you do if your wife called an Ex-boyfriend?
My wife and I are happily married but lately I can tell she has been bored and in a rut with life. She got an email from an ex-boyfriend from 20 years ago through facebook When she was in her early twenties they dated for 5 years. . She told me about the emails but later I found out by reading the emails that she spoke to him on the phone twice also. When I asked her if she called him she denied it but when I told I saw the emails about the phone calls she admitted it and was very sorry. My wife is my best friend and I trust her with my life. This hurts alot but she has promised it will not ever happen again and she will not have any more contact with him. Would you let this go and not bring up the subject again and forgive her- I still feel the need to harp on it and talk more about it but I am not as this is only going to make her get defensive. What would you do????
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Let me tell you- from a woman’s point of view- go to a marriage counselor NOW. there are some major issues that she is not telling you about- I don’t know what they are- but having been through counseling myself with my husband- it saved our marriage. It took over a year- but it is worth it. We were not getting along- arguing all the time, a non existent you- know- what-life. Then I get an email from someone in high school saying how sorry they were for what happened, blah blah blah- but instead of acting on this persons email- I realized there was a problem, and we need to see someone. That was over 2 years ago and our marriage is back on track, and we found each other again. Don’t let this go- resolve it before its too late. Good Luck to you!
I would excite her life, since you said that she was bored. And let her know that you’re okay if she hangs out with old buddies just as long as things don’t go out of hands. once that happens, then you might have some problems. Try spending more time with her. She might want attention from you.
she sounds bored and flirting with disaster gives her a thrill. take her on vacation and give her more attention.
I’ve been in this situation with my husband. I asked him to stop contacting these exes because they were hurting his family relationship. He did. It was hard to get over because you think that your not interesting anymore, but I let it go and never brought it up. because after all he is still with me and loves me and never crossed the line. As long as she hasn’t crossed the line just tell her you need to know everything if she really cares about you guys then leave it.
I suggest you eat some oysters..vit E or w/e gets you going and shag her til she screams for mercy…then stop only when you’re done and it’s ..purple..lol Then tell her..honey you still feel like talking to your ex? If she says yes divorce the harlot.
Wow….it looks like you are in a pretty difficult situation. It sounds like a good thing that you asked your spouse about the emails, and calls…then told her you knew the truth. But, it is never great to know that someone you love and trust so much has done something behind your back.
It is good that you are trying to move on. After all, emails and a couple of phone calls are pretty benign, and maybe she didn’t tell you to spare your feelings.
My husband and have an opinion on what really makes a happy, life long marriage….Patience. Just waiting it out sometimes. We have all had times when we look at our spouse and wonder, "Is this the best there is?" Sometimes we think about old dates and wonder if they were really the one. Patience…Patience…Patience.
Chances are that your wife realized that YOU are the one, and that she really is in the best relationship. Go give her a hug, kiss, and make some hot chocolate. Watch an old movie and talk about everything else in the world….you will feel better!!
I would get pissed. Tell her to back off him and tell him to back off her. I would still snoop to see if she is keeping true to you.
marriage counselor or divorce. if you hadn’t caught her, would she have told you ? tough situation. good luck whatever you decide.