Comments on: what can i do to gain trust/ stop this hurt after fiance/girfriend cheated? http://howdoigetmyexboyfriendback.org/5560/what-can-i-do-to-gain-trust-stop-this-hurt-after-fiancegirfriend-cheated/ Sat, 11 Feb 2012 14:09:15 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: epsilon_theta http://howdoigetmyexboyfriendback.org/5560/what-can-i-do-to-gain-trust-stop-this-hurt-after-fiancegirfriend-cheated/comment-page-1/#comment-38147 epsilon_theta Wed, 24 Feb 2010 05:34:30 +0000 http://howdoigetmyexboyfriendback.org/5560/what-can-i-do-to-gain-trust-stop-this-hurt-after-fiancegirfriend-cheated/#comment-38147 She is not to be trusted. She is selfish and only using you. I know that hurts, but it is true. You will never be able to trust her or look at her the same. Right now you cannot think straight. You have been emotionally yanked around. I hope you can walk away from her for good because she has nothing to offer to you. She is only saying what she knows you want to hear so she can get her way and have things convenient for her. When my fiance was young, he married a woman who pretty much did the same thing and after they had a child together she started cheating on him again with the same guy and then up and left him with a tiny baby. She married the other guy and had the happy life with 2 new children while my fiance had to deal with all her crap and pain she caused him. My fiance has to deal with it every day of his life and it is upsetting because of all the kids step-brother/sister involved. It is a mess. He has forgiven her, but all this could have been avoided if he had not been the nice guy and booted her out to begin with. Walk away...yes, it will hurt, but haven't you already been through enough? She is not to be trusted. She is selfish and only using you. I know that hurts, but it is true.

You will never be able to trust her or look at her the same. Right now you cannot think straight. You have been emotionally yanked around.

I hope you can walk away from her for good because she has nothing to offer to you. She is only saying what she knows you want to hear so she can get her way and have things convenient for her.

When my fiance was young, he married a woman who pretty much did the same thing and after they had a child together she started cheating on him again with the same guy and then up and left him with a tiny baby. She married the other guy and had the happy life with 2 new children while my fiance had to deal with all her crap and pain she caused him. My fiance has to deal with it every day of his life and it is upsetting because of all the kids step-brother/sister involved. It is a mess. He has forgiven her, but all this could have been avoided if he had not been the nice guy and booted her out to begin with.

Walk away…yes, it will hurt, but haven’t you already been through enough?

]]> By: Kristy http://howdoigetmyexboyfriendback.org/5560/what-can-i-do-to-gain-trust-stop-this-hurt-after-fiancegirfriend-cheated/comment-page-1/#comment-38148 Kristy Wed, 24 Feb 2010 05:34:30 +0000 http://howdoigetmyexboyfriendback.org/5560/what-can-i-do-to-gain-trust-stop-this-hurt-after-fiancegirfriend-cheated/#comment-38148 This girl is using you! I am so sorry that she is doing this to you and it is not right. But you need to kick her out and move on. She is just going to keep walking all over you because you are a nice guy and she is going to just keep taking advantage of it. Get her out of your life and start fresh. Break ups are hard and its not going to be easy but you will find the person that is right for you and you'll be happy that you through this girl to the curb. I really hope you make the right decision. Good Luck! This girl is using you! I am so sorry that she is doing this to you and it is not right. But you need to kick her out and move on. She is just going to keep walking all over you because you are a nice guy and she is going to just keep taking advantage of it. Get her out of your life and start fresh. Break ups are hard and its not going to be easy but you will find the person that is right for you and you’ll be happy that you through this girl to the curb. I really hope you make the right decision. Good Luck!

]]> By: jaded http://howdoigetmyexboyfriendback.org/5560/what-can-i-do-to-gain-trust-stop-this-hurt-after-fiancegirfriend-cheated/comment-page-1/#comment-38149 jaded Wed, 24 Feb 2010 05:34:30 +0000 http://howdoigetmyexboyfriendback.org/5560/what-can-i-do-to-gain-trust-stop-this-hurt-after-fiancegirfriend-cheated/#comment-38149 bleeeeeeeech. there now i am done throwing up at your pathetic story. since i already told you to read doc love at askmen.com and you obviously did not cause you are still taking back this disgusting skank who is using you for all she can get you for, " sparkling that night?" well, at this point you get whatever anguish you deserve. so for however long it lasts before she takes off again, sparkle away, you fool. i know she has no respect for you and at this point i dont either. bleeeeeeeech. there now i am done throwing up at your pathetic story.

since i already told you to read doc love at askmen.com and you obviously did not cause you are still taking back this disgusting skank who is using you for all she can get you for, " sparkling that night?" well, at this point you get whatever anguish you deserve. so for however long it lasts before she takes off again, sparkle away, you fool. i know she has no respect for you and at this point i dont either.

]]> By: Victoria V http://howdoigetmyexboyfriendback.org/5560/what-can-i-do-to-gain-trust-stop-this-hurt-after-fiancegirfriend-cheated/comment-page-1/#comment-38150 Victoria V Wed, 24 Feb 2010 05:34:30 +0000 http://howdoigetmyexboyfriendback.org/5560/what-can-i-do-to-gain-trust-stop-this-hurt-after-fiancegirfriend-cheated/#comment-38150 Its females like that, who give women a bad rap. I hope you find the strength to realize that when someone loves you, they don't hurt you as she has done. More than that, you don't need her, you only want to possess her affections. What would you say if it were your best friend telling you this story? Or your mom or sister telling you how cruel their boyfriend has been to them. Take yourself out of it and look at the situation as a whole. There is no magic action that will make you trust her, trust is something that is earned. I am sorry for your pain and dealing with the infidelity of someone you love. Kick her ass to the curb. Its females like that, who give women a bad rap. I hope you find the strength to realize that when someone loves you, they don’t hurt you as she has done. More than that, you don’t need her, you only want to possess her affections. What would you say if it were your best friend telling you this story? Or your mom or sister telling you how cruel their boyfriend has been to them. Take yourself out of it and look at the situation as a whole. There is no magic action that will make you trust her, trust is something that is earned. I am sorry for your pain and dealing with the infidelity of someone you love. Kick her ass to the curb.

]]> By: *Andria* B2B - October 24, 2009 http://howdoigetmyexboyfriendback.org/5560/what-can-i-do-to-gain-trust-stop-this-hurt-after-fiancegirfriend-cheated/comment-page-1/#comment-38151 *Andria* B2B - October 24, 2009 Wed, 24 Feb 2010 05:34:30 +0000 http://howdoigetmyexboyfriendback.org/5560/what-can-i-do-to-gain-trust-stop-this-hurt-after-fiancegirfriend-cheated/#comment-38151 Okay, this is coming from a girl's point of view so maybe this will help you. I know you need her in your life and you love her and everything, but really... if there isn't trust, there's no point. It's just going to hurt you in the long run. You don't need to worry if your girlfriend is going to cheat on you or not your whole life. It sounds like to me that she is using you for your apartment. I hate to say that, but it sounds like it to me. I think you should stay with her, but tell her you need your own space for a little while and that she can't stay at your apartment for a little while. See how she reacts and then see how it goes from there. You need to watch out for yourself. I'm sure there are a lot of other girls out there that will treat you a lot better. I know you don't want someone to say 'once a cheater, always a cheater' but honestly.. that's the truth. My friend was dating someone that cheated on her and she let it go and went back to him after he wanted her to be with him again. This went on back and forth for a while and she wasn't the same person she was before all of this happened. It really tore her up and she didn't want to do anything because she was so upset. She ended up being strong and not taking him back and it was actually a lot better for her. She found out that while she was with him, he still cheated on her even though he "promised" her he wouldn't anymore. You can't just keep taking her back and letting her walk all over you (which she is doing). Okay, this is coming from a girl’s point of view so maybe this will help you.
I know you need her in your life and you love her and everything, but really… if there isn’t trust, there’s no point. It’s just going to hurt you in the long run. You don’t need to worry if your girlfriend is going to cheat on you or not your whole life.
It sounds like to me that she is using you for your apartment. I hate to say that, but it sounds like it to me. I think you should stay with her, but tell her you need your own space for a little while and that she can’t stay at your apartment for a little while. See how she reacts and then see how it goes from there.
You need to watch out for yourself. I’m sure there are a lot of other girls out there that will treat you a lot better. I know you don’t want someone to say ‘once a cheater, always a cheater’ but honestly.. that’s the truth.
My friend was dating someone that cheated on her and she let it go and went back to him after he wanted her to be with him again. This went on back and forth for a while and she wasn’t the same person she was before all of this happened. It really tore her up and she didn’t want to do anything because she was so upset. She ended up being strong and not taking him back and it was actually a lot better for her. She found out that while she was with him, he still cheated on her even though he "promised" her he wouldn’t anymore.
You can’t just keep taking her back and letting her walk all over you (which she is doing).

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