my nephew troubles me?
i have a 3 almost 4 year old nephew who i feel is sexual towards me. i know this sounds crazy, but he will purposly pretend to fall or grab something just to touch my breast. he will touch the lower part of my back (forever, if it were up to him) (if i let him, but i dont b/c it freaks me out). when i say he touches my back, i mean, he will come over when im sitting or standing and start put his hand on my back and if i tell him to stop he gets mad and i have to force him to stop. he tried to pull down my pants when i was getting up once and looked at my butt. it really freaks me out and makes me uncomfortable. i try to make him stop and tell him not to do it (and he knows it’s bad), but he wont stop. he used to do a humping motion when he touched my back, but he seems to have stopped. how do i handle this? his mom doesnt think it’s sexual and i do, especially with the breasts. when he starts touching he always wants a kiss or hug. i feel weird giving him either. what do you think??
i think he saw his dad having sex (my sister is divorced to his father) because his dad is a pervert when it comes to women. trust me, im not imagining this! even my husband has noticed and he only does this to me! every single day he does this. it’s been going on since he was around 2.
oh yeah, also, when he touches my back he tries to touch my stomach and eventually he will go towards the breasts and he tries to pull my shirt up. i have to struggle with him to get him to stop.
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Congrads on your up and coming parent hood. ; )
As for your nephew don’t put to much to it, don’t be mean to him, don’t hurt him, just push him away and continue to tell him to stop, eventually he will. I have a niece whom I love her very much and would protect her to the death, but she used to do the same thing including the humping thing, I bought it to her moms attention and yes it was a little freaky, for me to, but eventually it stop and she is fine. It was like she had an itch that she couldn’t scratch. I would put her in her car seat and she would kick her legs and rub up and down on the straps even in her sleep, it was kind of weired, but like I said eventually it stopped. So eventually it will stop just keep pushing him a way, but don’t be mean about it, that could cause him to hate you later down the line.
Good luck and happy holidays
….cya….
ur imagining things. hes just a baby, he doesnt know anything
I think it’s inappropriate for him to do that. He’s 3. He shouldn’t KNOW about ‘humping’. Where is he getting that from? He’s learning it from somewhere. It may be from watching music videos or from being around older siblings…but somewhere along the line, he’s learning that it IS appropriate, and maybe even entertaining behaviour. I think I’d be asking him where he’s learning that. You can better explain why it’s not right, if you know where he’s getting it.
he’ll stop….trust me. He doesn’t know better..what’s human nature starts to kick in he’s going to grow up to be a bachelor. lol
he has to have learned it from somewhere.
i think you should ask his parents or siblings
or somebody if he’s witnessed anything or
watched anything that drives him towards
doing that
I knew a kid like this. It was sexual with him. One wonders if the child has had any sexual activity, but I don’t think it necessarily means he has. I think you are right to trust your instinct on this.
what the fudge? just smack that kid!
my nephew used to do that when he was like 2,
not to worry hun, all babys/toddlers do that.
just keep trying to teach him that it’s bad, he’ll stop (:
he’s a toddler, he has no idea what he is doing is sexual, even if it is. you can’t get mad at him for being curious. Just set guidelines and make sure his mother knows and enforces him. the behavior does sound excessive, but if you and his mother address it now and really stress (kindly) how much he shouldn’t be doing it, then he should stop.
just don’t be angry about it, he’s a toddler.
i think thbat if some one that young is doing that to you you need to talk to the kid then if that doesn’t work give hime a beating or just pop him maybe you don’t need to be watching him by your self or you can get a boy freind to make him jealouse then he gets him a gurl freind then he’ll leave you alone becaus ehe would be to bussy with his gurl freind
Maybe its something he sees on tv and so he thinks thats ok. My niece pinches my butt playing around she’s 6, so my nephew will do it too and its just want he sees so he thinks it’s ok. Hes 4 btw. If anything I would say ask his mom to tell him not to or ask a doc of this is normal. I hope everything go well!
It’s inappropriate, but it’s not sexual. He’s a little boy; he doesn’t know it’s wrong yet. My son is three, and he will sometimes start grabbing at my chest when he cuddles – men of all ages like boobs! All joking aside, it’s normal for kids his age to be curious. After all, those areas are always covered by clothes. He wants to know what’s there. You can gently explain to him that those are your private areas and that nobody should touch another person’s private parts. Avoid saying it’s bad or naughty. Also, don’t make a huge deal out of it. That may be why he keeps doing it. Good luck.
it’s hard when the parent doesn’t back you up, because that behavior should not be tolerated. the boy should be told no, and put in time out every time he does it. if you don’t have the power to put him in time out, then have a lengthy discussion with his mom about this. tell her you feel weirded out by this and you are very uncomfortable with it. sure, your nephew is learning new behaviors, but he is at an age where he should be taught this in inappropriate. if he does that with you and his mom lets him get away with it, he’s going to end up doing it to a stranger, teacher, or even a child at school. and if it happens to a child, there’s going to be major problems. he needs to learn respect for others and their space.
He problyy watched his mama or daddy doin somethin they couldve done when he was gone or somethin
he probably seeing things that are to adult for him he is just copying what he see
kids are loving and they don’t know what sex is yet. they are affectionate. the breasts is prob cuz they know that’s where food comes from. they don’t know what sex is yet. unless he has been abused but other than that he prob just is loving and loves his aunt a lot. enjoy it he’s prob the first man in the world that is loving u in a non sexual way well i mean since u were that young age
A kid that young is absolutely incapable of anything sexual…they just couldn’t possibly be thinking or feeling that way…they are totally undeveloped for that. You should tell his mom, that while its not sexual, you are not comfortable with him touching your "private parts". Although not sexual, its certainly NOT appropriate either…children need to have limits on their bodies and other people’s bodies. What he probably notices most is your reaction…if you recoil or jump or shout out. Just be firm and tell him "no" every time and go somewhere else. If it really bothers you, then don’t visit as often until he outgrows this. But be clear with him and his parents that its unacceptable and not something you want to have to put up with.
Ask your sister to talk to his pediatrician. This may or may not be something to be concerned. I knew a little one who displayed similar behavior around that age. It was soon revealed that an older cousin did something to him. Children are naturally curious, this may be the case, but in this day and age we really can’t ‘just assume anything. Good Luck.